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post #61 of 413

Lisa!

You can conquer the tv. We stopped watching inadvertently about 2 months ago....we just hadn't watched in awhile, and when we realized it we decided to just not turn it on. One thing led to another and my dh convinced me to sell the one we had in the bedroom (since we haven't been watching it) and now it's gone. We did watch a dvd the other night, but still haven't sat down and vegged in front of the boob tube! It can be done!


all the best,
Victoria


#1 edd 12/04/02
post #62 of 413
greenfaeriedog~
Yes it is I with the stinky butt cat and the other that looks slightly as if she was eaten by a blender! Everyone is knot-free and stench-free now, thank goodness! LOL LOL.

Casina ~ My midwife is new to CT. Wonder if it is the same person.....is she Indian? Can't remember where she said she just recently moved from. Oh how I love my midwife! Thanx for the delaying vibes.

Lilyka - well it is SORT of good to hear what you are saying about not assuming I will go early this time. I really would like to make it close to my due date. I feel the longer that they are in there the better for them(except past due date of course) My first dd really wasn't done cooking in there. She could have used those three weeks more I felt.

Talk with you all soon ~


Jenn
post #63 of 413
Thanks Victoria! One question, though.....I like Indy being able to watch Sesame Street or other programs, videos, DVDs, etc. He doesn't do it often, but I do feel like there are a few decent programs for kids out there.

How could we keep the television only for these purposes? Would it be possible? I definitely do NOT want it in his bedroom; but I don't want it in the living room (as it is now). Any ideas?

Thanks! Lisa
post #64 of 413
I've gone thru phases where I've been panicked because I think the kids are watching too much TV. Then there are other times when I realize they have barely seen anything for days. DH is TV crazy and over the last 20 years has budged on many things (almost becoming vegetarian, way more liberal, etc.) but TV is one thing he won't give up. We do regulate it though for the kids and I refuse to let them have TVs in their bedrooms as I saw my 3 younger sibs just disappear to their individual rooms every time they were home.

I've had friends who put the TV in a cupboard and just wheeled it out occasionally. Or in the dining room -- somewhere that it's not the main focus of the room and you have to actually go to it rather than just have it immediately available. What about in or near the kitchen. You would be nearby when he's watching but also it would give you some free time if he's watching sesame st.
post #65 of 413
Ours is in our living room, we just don't turn it on. I wish we had a spare closet to hide it in or a nice armoire, then we could shut the doors on it. Sometimes I keep a nice piece of fabric draped over it. This works really well for some reason---sort of like out of site, out of mind. When it's covered up you subconsciously think "unavailable". You could also keep it unplugged, and if it's on it's own cart, wheel it into a place that hasn't much traffic.

A good friend of mine with a huge lovely house and two children (who are now 15 and 10) just refused to have more than one, and that one was a tiny 13". They kept it in their bedroom and occasionally they would carry it downstairs and the whole family would watch something together or a movie (it had one of those built in vcr's). The kids could watch it in her room occasionally, but she could always monitor what they were watching and for how long since it was in her bedroom. I think her kids watch a little more now than when they were little, but this worked just great for them and the kids are not at all attached to the tv.



all the best,
Victoria

#1 edd 12/04/02
post #66 of 413

Any mamas due late Dec. start to dilate yet?

Hi, hope you are all doing well. I am due Dec. 23, I'm 31 weeks. I have had Braxton Hicks contractions recently. At my appt. today my doctor checked my cervix and turns out I am 1 centimeter dilated. This isn't my first pregnancy, so the doctor thought that I may just be dilating a little early. I was put on the fetal/contraction monitor and the contractions aren't all that strong. Just wondering if anyone else has encountered this?
Any advice/info is appreciated. Thanks......Aimee
post #67 of 413
no, you are not dilating early, from what i have heard from talking to others and from my own experience, it is no big deal to be one or two cm open in the last few months but more and more doctors are doing internal exams early and being cautious. for the last pg i was 2 cm for the last 12 weeks, the only way i knew this was because i'm required to have doctor backup for a midwife and they checked. it is more important that you are not effaced in any way, that everything is nice and thick in there.

also i have been having braxton hicks for forever, since the fourth month i think if you can settle them down by taking a bath or laying down it is not a big deal, how many are you having an hour? braxton hicks tone your muscles to keep the baby up and get muscles ready for labor, it is part of your body dealing with pregnancy, i have more braxton hicks each pregnancy probably because my body needs them.

i am not a professional, these are just my opinions, i think it is important to feel confident about what your body is doing, unfortunately medical school does not train doctors to feel this way about our bodies.
post #68 of 413
I walked around 4 cm dialated 2-3 weeks before I had dd. She was 17 days early, but still, I wasn't in any horrible pain. I didn't realize it was normal to be that dialated and still not be in any pain.
Jenn
post #69 of 413
jenn, i'm glad to hear that there was no intervention with the dilation, i talked to a lady today that told me a depressing doctor story on that vein.....no, my "old" midwife is not indian.....so recently i have become more useless than ever and have a hard time remembering what day it is or what i am supposed to be doing as soon as i leave a room. but my baby is anterior, yay!

i'm doing a belly cast this sunday, and my potluck group chipped in for me to have a massage this friday, my first professional massage. i'm really going to miss being pregnant, the hormones are happy drugs for me.

happy and oblivious so much that i have some denial issues, my boys are more clingy than ever, i have not emotionally and get to bed weaned my 21 month old, he is nutritionally weaned for the most part. i have never really considered tandem nursing before, but i guess i will just see what happens.

and the tv.....i believe that foremost in parenting you cannot teach skills you don't have...leading by example and action is the only surefire tactic that works around here. which means that the tv is still here! but we are mindful and forgiving of ourselves. we have almost got it to only movies and videos, and they have to be intentionally watched and we acquire very few new ones. whenever pbs kids starts getting watched and addictive i alter the antenna so that it is unwatchable. a hard nut to crack is my little one addicted to po and the teletubbies, and he can completely control the vcr and tv, he will be comforted and sit with dh instead of nursing, and i have mixed feelings about the whole darned thing.
post #70 of 413
Hi Casina and Feather.......thanks for your info. Yeah, my doctor thought that it was okay to be 1 cm dilated as long as I can keep my Braxton Hicks to 4 per hour. She thinks that I am dilated because I have given birth before....18 months ago. Some days I have contractions, others I do not. I think for me it is psychological....the mind/body interaction. Thanks for your help.....Aimee
post #71 of 413
Hey all.....Seattlite mama checkin' in. I'm about 33 1/2 weeks now (due 12/09/02). I'm having tons of Braxton Hicks also. My stomach is pretty much always rock hard. When I bend down (which is alot, considering I also have a 21 month old).....and straighten up, I immediately have a contraction; when my bladder is full, I have contractions; it is seriously all day long. I don't remember having this many BHs with #1, but I could've forgotten.

A somewhat scary incident happened two weekends ago. We were hiking with some friends on Mt. Rainier and my little guy, Indiana, started running towards the edge. He wouldn't have tumbled far.....just onto some cushy meadow grass...but still, it gave me a scare. I ran towards him, tripped over a rope and went flying...landing smack on my belly. It knocked the wind out of me and DH was freaking out. If we would've had cell service up on the mountain, he would've made me call the midwife right then and there. The baby moved shortly after I got my wind back and was moving normally the rest of the day, so I wasn't worried. I did end up calling the midwife later....and she called back while I was out. DH got to talk to her and she reassured him that the uterus is a wonderfully designed little cocoon....very strong and protective and that you'd have to almost fall directly onto a sharp, pointy object to do any damage. Hearing it from her reassured him much better than I seemed to do.

For all those who have offered suggestions/empathy about our television situation, thank you We've decided to keep it.....but put it in the guest bedroom, where Indy will still be able to watch Sesame Street and his videos and we can watch Monday Night Football. oes anyone else have suggestions to offer towards simplifying our lives?? We do have cell phones (don't think we'll be getting rid of them anytime soon). Casina......I wish my little guy was still nursing. He self-weaned around 18 months. He made a funny face after latching on a couple times (I guess the taste of my milk had changed)....and then lost interest. It was MUCH harder on me than him. I had been looking forward to tandem nursing. Casina, does your youngest understand there's a new baby coming?? Indy has no clue and there really doesn't seem to be any good way of preparing a toddler that young.

Well, I should run...take care all. Check in when ya can....

Lisa
post #72 of 413
no, my younger ds does not know a baby is coming but i think he very much know that something is changing, both my boys have become desperately glued to me. my 2nd ds screams if i hold or touch my older, and gets ansty about me touching my husband, i am beginning to remember that this is part of becoming a two year old.....and i'm not exactly looking forward to it, and i thought three was even harder than the terrible twos.

i actually envy you about the self weaning at this point, though i remember how devastated i felt when the milk production disappeared. i do strongly feel i should warn y'all that when i bore the second my first was 2.5, and i was shocked at how much of my time was spent protecting the baby from attention getting harm, as well as protecting the older one from his own jealous feelings and unintentional brutal actions. which is why i was glad to learn to use the sling, i think this is the tenth time i've mentioned it. my older one would sometimes even forget that there was a sentient creature needing my attention because he was quietly nursing in the sling (by three months i could nurse and wash dishes-very slowly and carefully at first)

i have more than four braxton hicks an hour, the first time i decided i should be counting i had 8 in a row in twenty minutes while i was doing dishes, but when i peed and layed down they went away. i think that being able to slow them yourself is what counts, not the number. and since this is your second baby aimee, maybe you know what real contractions feel like?
post #73 of 413
no, my younger ds does not know a baby is coming but i think he very much know that something is changing, both my boys have become desperately glued to me. my 2nd ds screams if i hold or touch my older, and gets ansty about me touching my husband, i am beginning to remember that this is part of becoming a two year old.....and i'm not exactly looking forward to it, and i thought three was even harder than the terrible twos.

i actually envy you about the self weaning at this point, though i remember how devastated i felt when the milk production disappeared. i do strongly feel i should warn y'all that when i bore the second my first was 2.5, and i was shocked at how much of my time was spent protecting the baby from attention getting harm, as well as protecting the older one from his own jealous feelings and unintentional brutal actions. which is why i was glad to learn to use the sling, i think this is the tenth time i've mentioned it. my older one would sometimes even forget that there was a sentient creature needing my attention because he was quietly nursing in the sling (by three months i could nurse and wash dishes-very slowly and carefully at first)

i have more than four braxton hicks an hour, the first time i decided i should be counting i had 8 in a row in twenty minutes while i was doing dishes, but when i peed and layed down they went away. i think that being able to slow them yourself is what counts, not the number. and since this is your second baby aimee, maybe you know what real contractions feel like?
post #74 of 413
Yeah, the Braxton Hicks are a different feel than "real" labor contractions. When I have braxton hicks I usually lay down and drink some water, then I feel better. Does anyone know if Red Raspberry leaf tea is helpful in preventing pre-term labor? Would write more, but I am mighty uncomfortable sitting here. Thank you all for the great info.
Aimee
post #75 of 413
i dunno specifically about preterm labor, but the tea is really great for us pg ladies especially in the last six weeks i would consider it a must. my main problem with it is my dh drinking it down, i get the loose leaf cut at the health food store/coop, brew it strong and drink it iced. anytime i have missed drinking it for more than two days my mood has gone down, not to mention all the benefits to uterune muscles and such.
post #76 of 413
Well ladies, not much longer !! Is anyone due at the end of December? I decided to let my midwife check me at my last appt (36 weeks) and I am 3 cm dilated and 30% effaced. I know I could be like this for weeks, but I am hoping so much that I don't go post-term again. She estimated the weight at 7lbs. already!!!
Also, she said that the contractions indicating labor wouldn't necessarily be painful. Just regular and with downward pressure. I didn't realize that. Here I am having all these contractions that I classify as braxton hicks and when the day comes, those could be "real" ones. Glad she mentioned that!!
How is the nesting coming with you all? We are in the middle of our basement being finished and right now there is dust and powder and yucky stuff all over. A nightmare for me because I have obsessive compulseve disorder, and just horrendous to be nesting as well!!! I just want everything in order . Not just for the baby, but also for the coming winter. What have you all done, and what do you have left? I haven't washed any baby clothes. But I did get a couple new and comfy nursing bras. Something I didn't do last time. But I ended up really wanting to splurge on that this time.

Anyone have a planned hospital birth before? What did you bring for the baby? Do you bring clothes and diapers?

Hope everyone is feeling good !
post #77 of 413
I haven't checked in for a while. I'm feeling pretty good but ready to be done with this. We are trying to sell our house and showing it in my condition is not easy. I clean and clean and the kids destroy it in five minutes.

We are having a hospital birth with a midwife and a doula. I'm excited about the doula. I've never had one before. She's wonderful and will save us from spending hours at the hospital. The kids are coming with us to the birth. The boys and my youngest will wait in the waiting room but my 6 yo daughter wants to come in with me. That's fine with me. I'm hoping to be able to stay home until I'm at least at a 7 or 8.

Right now the baby is face up and in a diagonal direction. That's not good. Hopefully he'll change direction soon!

Take care everyone!
post #78 of 413
Thread Starter 
AHHH, how much longer must this go on. Well about 6-10 weeks but does it have to feel like an eternity!!!!!! My dh is determined to wait untill after the new year so we will have our deductible met at the start of the year. Gee honey, thanks for thinking about ME!: ( I am due Dec. 25) I am so sick of being pregnant. I know I shouldn't complain, that there are thousands of women who would trade places with me in a minute but I really don't enjoy this. i think I must be the only person on the planet who would rather spend six months in labor than be pregnant. I find labopr quite enjoyable. It is like seeing the finish line at the end of a marathon. Woo-hoo, done!!!

I drove to TX last week. What a stupid idea. 14 hours in a car with a 5 and 2 year old to spend a week with my mother. What was I thinking. Nothing about that seems pleasent. And it wasn't. It sucked. The whole 5 days. By the time I got home I was having painful frequent contractions. They have mostly stopped now. I am still a little worried about them. I hate overreacting about stuff but on the other hand I did completely miss preterm labor with dd#1 and we knew it would happen sooner or later and were just waiting for it. So I am clueless more or less. My midwife offered to check and see if the contractions were doing anything but I opted not to. (she didn't care either way). Would you be checked? Am I being to laid back and ignoring stuff? I generally walk a very fine line between not being overly concerned and not being a complete hypocondriac freak.

And oh, we got an early witner this tear. There is snow and ice everywhere - perfect for the amazing large women who can't see where she is stepping and wouldn't be able to get up if she fell. Perhaps I should get one of those "Help I've fallen and can't get up things." he he! The biggest problem by far though is that I can't zip my coat. Did any of you buy a maternity coat? None of my previous preg required a coat when I was at the peak of gestation. I was either done with a coat by the time I really started getting big or had had the baby by the time it started getting cold. I can't really justify spending $75 on a coat I will wear for a few weeks. Any suggestions for staying warm. If I just stay home I will go crazy counting the minutes untill this baby comes out.

So how is everyone else doing . I know I am gonna get really bummed when january rolls around an I am the only one still preg. but hey good luck to all of you. Are your ready? I still have a few things to do befoe the baby gets here. For instance this desk really needs to not be here. and the changing table needs to be fixed and painted. Is it OK to paint a little whilke preg? I guess I painted the whole freaking house when I was preg. with Lily but now i worry.
Go figure.

Thanks. as always, for letting me vent a little. I am feeling much better. Gotta run. time for trick or treating.
post #79 of 413
i'm feeling weird, too. my dh has had a serious back problem since beginning may, now he does very light work for ten hours so we can keep the workers comp, which we barely survive on, i went and got food stamps last month, and the checks are always late and make him crazy, there's been talk about me going to get a job when the baby comes out which is a terrifying option to my senses, though i know that i may really have to do it. i feel emotionally responsible for dh and my two boys, which i know is overdoing it. fortunately i have managed to turn this baby around to anterior after being posterior the whole time, i'm due nov 18. my midwife told me i needed to spend time with the baby and talk to it about turning around and it really worked! i had been trying to physically get the baby to move with no success, my other two were both posterior and i never made such a big connection with them before they came.

my legs go numb with sharp pins and needles most of the time now, i am fully dropped and then some. so i'm getting pretty useless. the nesting instinct has faded a little, the hurry hurry hurry voice is less loud. i spent the last week pampering myself, did a belly cast, did a henna tattoo, my new friends bought me a massage, so i feel good that i have spent time with myself before the baby comes. i've even bought coffee in case the midwives need it and had to cancel a major flooring/toilet project for the bathroom because one night this week i had light but real contractions.....where did they go??? the hundreds of things i wanted to get done like clearing piles of junk and closets...aren't going to get done. that's okay, i've been spending more time with the boys anyway.

i'm trying not to let the insomnia and unsleeping aggravate me, lately i just pass out for an hour at any time with no harm done aside from being alarmed when i wake up that i'm drooling and what everyone is doing. so i guess i'm getting rest one way or another. and i am force feeding myself, i really crave foods but don't actually want to eat much. even this haagendasz next to me that i have been dreaming about for weeks!

maybe something not quite a coat would work, like a poncho or cloak, something you could justify by being able to snuggle a baby underneath as well.
post #80 of 413
I woke up the other night on my back. When I tried to roll back to my left side I realized that the whole right side of my body was numb. Including my neck and that side of my head. I couldn't even blink my eye. Has anyone else expreinced this? It freaked me out. It lasted for a while (well, like ten minutes but it seemed like forever!). Anyway, I've never experienced that before. I've had my hands, arms, legs, feet fall asleep but to feel totally paralyzed on that side was weird.
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