How to "fire" CNM to have HB, without legal trouble? - Page 2

[midwyfmomma]

As for terminating your CNM... you can send or fax a request for your records to be sent to you at your address. You do not have to tell them anything! Previous poster had good suggestion of choosing something that better suits your needs.

DO NOT mention your midwife's name to anyone! You don't even have to tell anyone that you have a midwife. Just claim Unassisted birth. I live in a state where there is licensure, but I also know women who've had "unassisted birth" with the same female friend that has come over to help out.

For birth certificate, contact vital records after the birth and tell them you had a homebirth. Either planned unassisted birth with your husband catching the baby or unplanned HB with husband only.

You really don't have to answer to anyone on how you want to give birth! This is YOUR birth and YOUR baby!

[mnnice]

I don't think I would go to an OB for a sinus infection. I recently went to the my family practice doc (actually the CNP that works with her) because of a severe cough. I didn't ask to see the family practice doc that is my backup (who works in the same office). When I had a mystery rash whe pregnant with my son the OB I had at the time look at it and said he was almost it wasn't PUPPS and said if it bothering you to call family practice. Which I ended up needing to do.

[alexia_i_aa]

Originally Posted by TurboClaudia

it gives me hope that other states will choose the same path and create a licensure for midwives and actually issue them.

Well, I just talked to my mw about this -- it's a mixed blessing to be licensed.

All the states around us are legal now and my mw expects NC will be legal soon. However, she was clear that if she was "legal" she wouldn't be allowed to take on many of the cases she takes now, like HBACs, VBAmCs, twins, etc. These decisions would be made by the licensing board and would not be evidence-based decisions based on what we see with other legal states.

She probably wouldn't be able to take me on (legally), for example, being an HBAC, even though the evidence shows it to be safe. Our birth centers around here aren't even allowed to do VBACs, even the one across the street from the hospital that's run by CNMs with OB backups.

Alexia

[alexia_i_aa]

"I don't know how to bring up the subject with the CNM without divulging too much information about the homebirth. "

You know, just another though. As women, we tend to be way too apologetic and feel the need to provide way too much info. It's a business, not a personal relationship. You no longer require their services. Thanks. Goodbye. :-)

Alexia

[loved]

Yes - do not tell her you are having a homebirth. She really may report you to the "authorities". Don't take that chance. Simply get your records and say thank you, you've found someone/thing else that better suits your needs.

If you must have 'medical' care other than normal prenatal care your midwife will help you arrange it - talk to her about what she recommends.

So glad for you!

Following our hearts takes courage. You are an inspiration.