Originally Posted by NoraJadesMama
I just know that it appeals to him, and I'm excited about getting to know him as his individuality unfolds.
Indeed, I can't imagine what it would take to be an opposing side to what is clearly something that DS is passionate about. What it would take and at what cost to his emotional health it would it present to not simply accept (and CELEBRATE!) who he is in the moment. I too am blessed to live in a community where this isn't a huge deal and there are even a couple of boys around town known also for sporting a dress and/or long hair.
The other day I responded to a thread about the wish for having both genders of child in a family. I responded that I'm happy with what I've got and do not desire a girl. However, I do wonder if that's because on many days I feel I truly do have both.
We've been enjoying the story of The Wizard of Oz in the last couple of days. Our local pumpkin patch used this as their theme this year and DS was intrigued so we told him the story and today we watched the movie as a family. I adore the film, the books, etc., and its been a joy to share them with DS. He (as I could have predicted) fell in love with Dorothy before he even saw the movie. It was the same with Pippi, Madeline and Laura Ingalls. Needless to say, he's been "Dorothy" for two days, dress, pig tails, basket... "and toto too."
Today, he was getting into the bathtub as "Dorothy" and he told me he was pretending that he didn't have a penis and that I was to pretend this as well. At any rate, this "phase" has been going on for the better part of two years and although he's embraced a male character here and there (Mike Mulligan comes to mind), he clearly has a preference for certain types of female characters and who am I to try and change that?
I've actually made effort to find some good male/boy role models for DS, just well, I think it's nice to have both, but he just doesn't cling to them the way he does female ones. I think partly because I haven't had as much luck finding boy role models with the qualities DS holds dear, but mostly I think because DS is just DS and its not where he's at right now. We're reading Elmer and the Dragon right now and while he's loves the story, it just simply doesn't occur to him to align himself with the main character; a sweet, caring, very resourceful boy. OTOH, I'm fairly certain that if the main character were a girl, he might very well be pretending to be her right now.
I think sometimes I do search for deeper meaning in his appreciation of girl characters. I wonder what it says about his personality. He spends some time as different types of animals, dinosaurs, the occasional fire fighter, train engineer or construction worker, but its the "chicks" he loves best.
And you know what? He makes one cute little girl!
I'm not sure if there was a real point to this post, but its hugely strong theme in our lives right now, and its wonderful to have such a helpful and supportive thread... I just felt like sharing.
My .02 for the day... for what it's worth.