Originally Posted by AngelBee
Her right to have children is barely being discussed. Numerous excuses for why formula feeding is ok keep coming up instead.
Isn't that the title of the thread?
I mean, seriously, that *is* what I am talking about. Not revoking legal rights...nothing as literal as that.....but a sentiment coming out of the AP community that mothers who elect not to try breastfeeding should not have had children. I hope that is not our message.....
Not excuses why formula feeding is ok....reasons people choose not to breastfeed. Be they good or bad, rational or irrational, selfish or selfless....they are the reasons for their choice. Labeling those reasons as "bad" is not helpful. Empathising with women, supporting women, and effecting positive change is helpful. Women choose not to breastfeed because they fear changes in breast shape? How can we change that? How can we promote healthier body image? How can we celebrate the bodies of mothers? We can start with our vocabulary, and our example, and maybe we can work with the media....
Calling that mama selfish and immature is not helpful
That will make her feel even worse about herself. But if we know and respect her reason, we have a concrete place to start. If promoting breastfeeding is the goal (and I think it is for everyone here), I honestly think this is approach will be MUCH more productive than sending the message that women who formula feed (by choice) are unfit mothers.