|but when it comes down to "I know it's best and why it's best, but it sounds too hard/too time consuming/whatever" I worry. Because having kids IS hard! Raising them is not easy! If you want to continue to go out and party on a nightly basis, maybe you shouldn't be having kids, I'm sorry.
That's pretty much how I feel. I certainly wouldn't go as far as to say that women who refuse to breastfeed should not be allowed to have children. But I do beleive that women who have the attitude of "Ewww, yucky, boobies!!" might want to mature a bit more before taking on the responsibility of children. :P (And age has nothing to do with this "maternal maturity." Most of the women I know who have this attitude became mothers at 35+) I was not breastfed, because my mother had this view. And it echo'd the rest of her parenting style. She was not a good parent. I'm not going to generalize and say that all parents who chose not to breastfeed are BAD parents, because that's simply not true. My opinionated side thinks that it's incredibly selfish to not even attempt breastfeeding before making a decision. But I can't say that I would ever "finger wag" someone who chose formula over breastmilk (well...not to their face, anyway
). There are dozens upon dozens of reasons that people chose not to breastfeed, and it's not my place to judge them. My only hope is that people educate themselves on what's best for their children prior to making a decision on how they will be fed.
Like others, I do feel that our culture is mostly to blame for the attitude surrounding breastfeeding. I'm happy to see that it seems to be changing here. The majority of the people I know who are having babies ARE choosing to breastfeed (or at least give it a hearty attempt). With all of the breastfeeding posters at my OB's and pedi's offices,the great information pamphlets that are being handed out, and the support system at the hospital I'll be delivering at, it's clear that breastfeeding is being encouraged, and I think that's fantastic.
And while I may have a very strong opinion on breastfeeding, I don't push that opinion onto others. I don't think that the "breastfeeding nazi's" help the cause at all, and just end up scaring people away.
Besides, you never know what a person has been through, or what their reasons are for having used formula. I'd never risk being tactless and hurting someone's feeling or angering them, just to make a point. I hate it when formula is shoved in my face, I'm not going to shove my breasts in someone else's.
discuss the benefits of nursing to people who ask about it, or to expectant moms who seem to be on the fence. But I'd never push the issue to people who have already made their decision. I just suggest that they do a little research on the topic before setting their decision in stone.