Although of course I feel compelled to reply here...
Originally Posted by midwyfmomma
Blueviolet...I guess you could then say that it's arguable whether or not even the husband could be present to REALLY have an uninterrupted birth.
Absolutely! Some women choose to have a completely solo birth for that exact reason. But most of us, I think, wish to balance our need for privacy and minimum stimulation with our need for comfort and companionship. Those who plan midwife-attended homebirths certainly do, they just attempt to create their balance in a different way than UCers do.
For my part, I chose to have my husband there, with the full understanding that his presence would affect me. However, being as he is the person with whom I am least
self-conscious, especially regarding body and sexual issues, and because he is connected to me psychically enough to be able to pick up on cues that others would not, I really felt, and still believe, that any negative effects would be insignificant, made all the more so by his ability to comfort me.
|Birth is a sexual event. It's the culmination of the sexual event that started between two lovers.
Exactly right. Which is why it is such a tricky thing to bring a third person into the mix, especially someone who is not connected with the mother and baby in a deeply emotional and enduring way.
|Most women do prefer to have someone supportive with them and most men would prefer to not be responsible for handling everything.
Which is probably why most women do not UC.
If your mate is not supportive in a way that you need, and if you have a bunch of stuff for which someone other than yourself needs to be responsible... UC may not be the most attractive option.
Those concerns are irrelevant to some, though. When I gave birth, I didn't need somebody holding my hand, or helping me breathe, or giving me reassurances that all was fine, or giving me suggestions, or putting down chux pads, or putting warm cloths on my perineum, or checking dilation, or whatever. I needed my husband pressed up reassuringly behind me while I labored on hands and knees. A midwife couldn't have provided that, and quite frankly my husband wouldn't have done it if a midwife had been watching. Alone, though, he was more than capable of giving me the exact kind of support that I needed.