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post #21 of 22
midwyfmomma, I think that if you believe the majority of mws are totally non-interventive and will sit back and allow a woman to birth completely on her own without the mw jumping in and "saving" her, I would like to offer a counter to that.

I consider myself a fairly non-interventive mw, yet I STILL struggle with my own provider distress and need to save. To say I didn't would be a lie.

Nearly all of the mws I encounter feel that UC birth is dangerous and have fear about that 5% of births that seems to always come up as a reason why a mw is necessary.

Not to debate mw vs UC, because I truly feel that this forum SHOULD be a safe space for women to gather and vent and share - but I really think that in an ideal world, I would love to see 95% of all normal births UC and have mws there for the 3% that are needed and the remaining two percent getting help from supportive hospital personnel. Imagine what a world that would be! Women birthing empowered and truly responsible for their choices! Whoa! Imagine the babies coming into not a stranger's hands, but the hands of the parents who made him/her!

The results would be an incredible move towards world peace. Without a doubt.

We are not as necessary as we would like to be. That's a fact. And, yes, I believe that there are still mws being trained that birth is inherently risky and that they are the true saviors. Perhaps we could start a thread on this in the Midwives forum.
post #22 of 22
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I appreciate all the exploration this thread has initiated for myself and hopefully others...

midwyfmomma I do appreciate your input and as well as your DH's perspective, but honestly I was looking for the perspective of those DH(P)'s and mamas who had an unassisted birth.

And I have been referring to the situation I find myself in with the limited choices as well as the certain MW I am dealing with... And not demonizing MW's as a whole... Just explaining, discussing and exploring options in my own situation.

I'm glad that you feel that you were able to birth on your own terms with an attendant prresent and that you hope to honor the wishes of your own clients by doing the same... But I do stand by my statement that ANYONE attending a birth should empower and validate a woman in a way that allows them to realize that they, the BIRTHING MOTHER, are the ones giving birth and have the inate power to do so rather than being thankful for the MW's being there... Because without them they couldn't have done it..??!!
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