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Thank you mother sundine...
my name is anna and i have two children aged 3 1/2 and 6 months.
i love child led weaning, in fact, we do consensual living as well which is basically "child led" also and unschooling (aka Child Led Learning)
Anyhow, I just wanted to share our story of "weaning" which I always did hate that term...after dd 2 was born, i was tandem nursing for awhile (the football hold on both worked very nicely with my back against the wall on the bed)...then i got thrush...it was like the three of us were passing it back and forth and i just couldn't keep up with who had it... we tried everything, even the allopathic path! Finally, I got the nystatin again and said to my elder daughter, "I can't nurse right now because of the thrush, I am taking medicine for seven days and then you can nurse again." We were down to about 2-3 times a day, mostly for bedding down and sleeping...but she didn't really fuss, she was understanding, but DID BECOME MORE AGGRESSIVE WITH THE BABY@!!! Now it's about four months later and a few days ago she said "I'm not done with milka!" So we nursed for a minute...that was all.
It helped for me to call the BABY's breastmilk "nummies" while hers had been "milka"--she really did understand that it was different, in fact, when the baby was born she said my milk tasted bad!
I wish I could have nursed her longer, it just hurt so bad. 3 years 8 months is pretty good right? I heard once that we tandem nurse to be good parents and connect with our children, and if we are not connecting with them and are so frustrated, that helping them stop nursing will help you become a better parent. Oooo--that sounds bad--what i mean is that if you need to take a break from ANYTHING (including nursing) to be a better parent, DO IT, because we are here to be good parents and that is our job...and we love our children so dearly.
DD1 did get into snuggling me more after she weaned. I think the whole process for her took a year or more, but I never pushed her till the end. What I mean is that I never turned her down for milk until the last two months.
Anyway...I hope this helps...please PM me for advice or chatter
I will sub this thread.