I have been lurking for quite a while, and have gotten a lot of support from all of you women without you even knowing it! My nursling DD will be 3 in April, and my nursling DS just turned 1 on the 14th. My mom (who was a LLL leader) nursed me and my brothers, and I (her last baby) nursed until I was 3 (I was also born at home). It has always been a given that I would nurse my babies. I think my mom would have disowned me if I didn't.
DD was a very unhappy baby who cried all of the time whether I was holding her or not (or course, I was holding her a majority of the time). She was also a terrible nurser. I always said that she nursed only when the alternative was to starve to death. I'm not exaggerating when I say that even when she was a few months old she had periods where she only nursed a few times all day long. I was constantly engorged. I could never nurse her in public because she just wouldn't. She would go for hours without nursing if we were in town. I would sit in LLL meetings and just cry because all of the other babies would just peacefully nurse and go to sleep. DD NEVER nursed to sleep, and she NEVER comfort nursed. I leaked all of the time because she would just nurse until my milk let down and then would latch off and cry until I gave her a pacifier. Anyway, I think you've got the point
So, at the time I just prayed that she would make it to a year before she decided that she was finished altogether. I got pregnant when she turned a year old and then I thought for sure she wouldn't nurse through a pregnancy. Well, somewhere along the way she decided that this thing that she constantly fought against was something that she actually enjoyed doing, and here we are coming up on her 3rd birthday and she nurses on average 5 times a day.
My DS was a champion nurser from the beginning, though we had a rocky first few months. He also was one who wouldn't comfort nurse and wouldn't nurse to sleep. With both DD and DS, they would nurse until they had their fill, then they wouldn't want the milk anymore but still wanted to suck, so I ended up giving them a pacifier, much as I hated to. DS is much more easygoing temperamentally, and he is a calmer nurser, though he still is grumpy about nursing in public.
I am starting to get a little impatient with DD in regards to nursing, and I think she can tell because she has been asking to nurse more in a day. We take it a day at a time. My DS is a chunk, so I never worry that he is getting enough.
Anyway, that is a very long-winded me.