Hi, I'm Becky, mama to a 28 month old, spirited, mama-milk monkey. Didn't think I'd be nursing him this long, as I had planned to BF for only 2 yrs. "Only". :LOL We only had a few problems in the 1st couple of days, but he was nursing like a pro within a week. Now he won't stop! I'm hoping he'll wean before 4, but...if he needs to "take a nap" with "nah nah & o'er side", then.
Anyway, we're very lucky in that DH & our families (well, maybe not my Dad's fam, but..) are supportive of our choices - or at least they don't say anything negative to us! My guy is spirited & VERY persistent & will NOT settle for any substitute or a distraction! And he's not a big solids eater - never has been. Since DS is very low on the weight charts the peds. use (he was 21lbs at 2), we've been encouraged to wean by the ped., the ped. gastro., & the ped. nutritionist. It was the WORST 3 hours of our lives. High metabolisms & banana bodies run in my fam, pickiness & petiteness run in DH's fam. Some "enlightening" comments from the dr's:
"He's two - don't you think he should learn how to soothe himself? I'm not judging you..." (the ped.) (as if I care what she thinks of me)
"He's filling up on BM - you should try to wean him & get him to eat more. It will be HELL in your house..." (ped. gastro. & the nutritionist OH - they have NO IDEA the hell!!!!)
"And can you tell me WHY you're still BF at this age? (2) What are your reasons? When do you plan to wean?" (nutritionist) (The WHO recommendations just don't fly with these people!)
The one ped. gastro. diagnosed him as FTT at 20 months (this is a kid who's developmentally *above & beyond* where he should be) & we had a biopsy done to make sure he didn't have anything wrong internally. Just beautiful, normal, healthy pink innards. She recommended forced tube feedings (at night) to try to jump start his system so he'd eat more solid food ("Mother is reluctant to discontinue breastfeeding..."). (Maybe 'cos mommy thinks that the whole experience would be more traumatic than helpful?) Mommy instincts (and DH, friends, family, LLL group, relative strangers) told me he was fine, just small, but OH! how the dr's make you doubt yourself! We got the battery of tests done to make sure that he has no known diseases or things - just to cover all the bases. Got a 2nd opinion, and their lab lost the bloodwork (which had already been screened by 1st dr anyway) & mama said "Forget it". So unless he has a super-duper rare "made for TV docudrama" thing wrong with him... I'm following my mama instincts.
But oy vey! I'm one of those semi-paranoid people who think that someone's gonna call DCS on me 'cos DS isn't 30lbs & he's still nursing & he's over 2. Thank goodness I have a friend who's a former child social worker & who's AP & nursing a 2 1/2 yr old. Thank you to the midwife who told me that the only times she's been wrong as a mama (and as a midwife) has been when she didn't listen to her instincts. And thank goodness for MDC & to all the mamas sharing your stories! (And for listening to mine!)
My sunshine's up now...