I'm not afraid to re-introduce myself, just disgusted that I have to because I don't think I should belong here for at least another year or two.
But I live in the real world and I need support (or at least a safe place to vent) so I might as well let everybody know who this weirdo is.
My earlier intro is upthread aways and I'm not going to bother looking for it because my life circumstances have changed. I am a once and future CLWer. dd CLW'd and nursed for the last time when she was about 7 1/2 after "for five minutes every two or three months" had been reality for quite awhile.
I fully intended to do the same with ds1, but something went wrong; maybe I was worried about the sexual connotions because he was a boy, maybe I was "all touched out" after 10 years of pregnancy and/or nursing, maybe homeschooling was more impoortant to me than CLW, or maybe I was just busy, but what happened was that I would tell him he had to wait to nurse until I finished a hiomeschooling or housework task and then when I finished, he would seem perfectly happy with whatever he was doing so I wouldn't remind him or offer to nurse before I started the next task. He stopped asking when he was about 6 1/2 years old.
I regret weaning him very deeply and see a huge difference in him and dd as "big people". They are now 20 and 17. I have another son who is only fifteen months old. I don't feel like I belong here and I am shocked, horrified, and disgusted about all this nonsense I hear about weaning one year olds. I'm sorry if this makes me sound judgemental, but I can't control my feelings, only my behaviour. I expected better from the world after seeing so many of my "weird countercultural hippie" childrearing practrices become mainstream in the 16 years between my baby boys' births and knowing that the WHO and many other authorities that are commonly accepoted by mainstream parents recommend at least two years of nursing instead of the 9-12 months that was recommended when ds1 was a toddler.
ds2 has a different father and a vastly different personality than his siblings, so he may be done with nursing when he is two or he may go past toddlerhood like his siblings. I don't really care one way or the other, I just want weaning to be HIS decision and I want to do whatever it takes to avoid a repeat of ds1's weaning or worse.
I hope that, as a veteran who has nursed kids past society's expected norm and a parent who has personally experienced both CLW and MLW and raised one of each to adulthood (or near adulthood) I will have something of value to offer here and that I can come here to vent when I need to so that I can support parents who choose MLW with other issues we that we do have in common. I also hope for bluntness and hionesty if the issues that caused me to push ds1 away and "accidentally" wean him resurface when ds2 is older.
Thank you for listening.