DH finally came around!!!

[soccerchic21]

YAY!!!

We had a VERY heated discussion over lunch today about me being anti-circ and him pro. His main reason was he wanted his son to look like him. I kept bringing up the research that I have found. All of which he wouldn't fully believe. I even told him that our faith does not support circ...(to me it doesn't matter but I was hoping it would be a reason for him to come around)

It got so bad over lunch that he said he would take our son by himself without me knowing to get it done : Ummm no! So I told him if he had the nerve to do that I wouldn't want to be married to someone like that. I hate that that came out but I had no clue what else to say to make him come around.

Anyway I told him that if he found pro-circ reasons to let me know and where I could find the literature on it. Well he went back to work and then about 4pm I talked to him again and all of a sudden he is ok with not circing. He is worried about later problems but agreed *if* they did happen we would deal with it then. I think the big thing for him was finding on more than one site that the Catholic church does not support circ...why it matters to him I have no clue.

Then the big kicker was he now says my mom needs to mind her own business....YES!!! It feels so good that we agree on this issue so we can work as a team against opposition aka my mom and his mom.

[magemom]

Congrats Sarah! SO happy for you, your son and DH!!

[Mommiska]

Makes life easier to agree, doesn't it?!

[Ilaria]

Yay!

The Pope is intact.

[mattemma04]

<<His main reason was he wanted his son to look like him. >>>

And did you ask him what that really means? Doesn't it mean he wants his son to have functional(and important) parts removed just because he is missing them? Will a scar on his son's penis make him feel better about his own? In some cases that is what it comes down too.

I wouldn't put your guard down just yet.I used to think you just had to avoid the circ after birth,but the risk of circ lasts for years. In this current culture(and doctor/nurse lack of normal genitalia education) really puts men at risk of circumcision for life!


Curious what changed your dh's mind.Maybe he just figured it wasn't worth such heated battles at this time.If he is still worried of circ being needed later in life then his *education* isn't quite done yet.
Best wishes to you! It is a shame we just can't enjoy our newborn sons like so many countries do(that don't advocate circ).

[calngavinsmom]

Congratulations....so happy to hear

Take care,
Tara

[Margaret1022]

Congratulations

Hi!

That is really awesome. I'm happy for you and your son!

All the best,
Margaret

[soccerchic21]

Originally Posted by Ilaria

Yay!

The Pope is intact.

That is a good one to tell my mom!

[soccerchic21]

Originally Posted by Ilaria

Yay!

The Pope is intact.

I forgot to ask. Do you have a link on this?

[soccerchic21]

Originally Posted by mattemma04

I wouldn't put your guard down just yet.I used to think you just had to avoid the circ after birth,but the risk of circ lasts for years. In this current culture(and doctor/nurse lack of normal genitalia education) really puts men at risk of circumcision for life!

I really need to remind myself to remember that! I have read stories about uninformed nurses and drs pulling the foreskin back too much or something like that.

[QUOTE=mattemma04]Curious what changed your dh's mind.Maybe he just figured it wasn't worth such heated battles at this time.If he is still worried of circ being needed later in life then his *education* isn't quite done yet.
[QUOTE]

Well he did go and do research. I am thinking that helped. He was saying what really helped him to agree with me was knowing that the Catholic Church does not advocate circ....why that matters I have no clue.

My whole plan now is to just not talk about it. We have agreed and I think that is enough for now.

[namith]

Well i hope you're right. It is always best to avoid arguments, and to agree on things. He seems convinced that it should be the child's decision, and as long as that is the case, he'll be fine.

[hummingbear]

Yay!!!!!!!!

So glad you are not in opposition anymore.

Perhaps you could mention to your husband that statistically he has less to worry about "later" when your son is left intact than if you were to have him circumcised.