Help!! I messed up and now need advice on how to fix it without making it sound fishy!!
Today I called the county to make an appointment to register my son's homebirth and when she asked me if it was planned, I said yes and then right after, I realized that I screwed up! I remembered that my midwife told me to tell them that it was unplanned and that my husband caught the baby (my midwife is unlicensed). She asked me what my midwife's name was and I gave her, her first name (which was DUMB on my part! At least I didn't give her, her last name) and told her that I need to call her back with her address. What should I do now?? I need to call her back to tell what I really meant without it sounding fishy!!
The real story is, I had planned on a hospital birth with a CNM and then at 38 weeks, decided to have a homebirth (which is what I really wanted all along). My homebirth midwife is also a doula, which is what I originally hired her for, but I felt comfortable with her and wanted her to deliver me at home (she is an unlicensed midwife in training and wants to avoid legal trouble).
I'm thinking that I could call her back and tell her that I had planned a hospital birth with a CNM and planned on going into the hospital at the last minute and ended up not making it to the hospital on time. My husband caught my baby, but my doula (who is also a midwife in training) couched my husband on what to do. But that COULD get her introuble.
Or I could just call her back with the name and address of my CNM and when she says, "Oh, this CNM does homebirths?", I'll play dumb and say, "No, I had planned a hospital birth, but I didn't make it to the hospital on time." Then, if she asks about Coley, I'll say, "Oh, she was my doula. I guess I must have gotten the names mixed up." She was at the birth, coaching me along, but my husband is the one who caught the baby. I'm not sure what to say though if she brings up the fact that I told her that my homebirth was planned.
Today I called the county to make an appointment to register my son's homebirth and when she asked me if it was planned, I said yes and then right after, I realized that I screwed up! I remembered that my midwife told me to tell them that it was unplanned and that my husband caught the baby (my midwife is unlicensed). She asked me what my midwife's name was and I gave her, her first name (which was DUMB on my part! At least I didn't give her, her last name) and told her that I need to call her back with her address. What should I do now?? I need to call her back to tell what I really meant without it sounding fishy!!
The real story is, I had planned on a hospital birth with a CNM and then at 38 weeks, decided to have a homebirth (which is what I really wanted all along). My homebirth midwife is also a doula, which is what I originally hired her for, but I felt comfortable with her and wanted her to deliver me at home (she is an unlicensed midwife in training and wants to avoid legal trouble).
I'm thinking that I could call her back and tell her that I had planned a hospital birth with a CNM and planned on going into the hospital at the last minute and ended up not making it to the hospital on time. My husband caught my baby, but my doula (who is also a midwife in training) couched my husband on what to do. But that COULD get her introuble.
Or I could just call her back with the name and address of my CNM and when she says, "Oh, this CNM does homebirths?", I'll play dumb and say, "No, I had planned a hospital birth, but I didn't make it to the hospital on time." Then, if she asks about Coley, I'll say, "Oh, she was my doula. I guess I must have gotten the names mixed up." She was at the birth, coaching me along, but my husband is the one who caught the baby. I'm not sure what to say though if she brings up the fact that I told her that my homebirth was planned.
What county are you in? I'm in Orange County. The lady I called is sending me out a package of forms to fill out for the birth certificate and I think some other forms. To register the birth, I need to go down to their office. I made an appointment. Did you have to go down to the office or did you just send in the paperwork? They need to see my baby as part of the proof. Should I call her back to ask her for another form or just wait to get the packet she's sending out? She wants me to call her back with my midwife's (homebirth midwife) full name and address so she can send her out a packet containing forms to give her future clients, but I don't want to give her this info because it will get my midwife in trouble. What should I do about that?
So, I'll have to call and make another one. I'm not even gonna bring my homebirth midwife's name up and if she asks, I'll just tell her I got confused and gave her my doula's name by mistake.
