why is everyone else so impatient?

[sm3247]

Is anyone else getting a lot of questions and comments that imply the end is just days away? My EDD is not until March 20th and I'm already starting to get annoyed.

I had to tell my parents that NO, they could not plan a trip up to see the baby less than a week after my due date, as there was a good chance that I would not have had the baby by then and I didn't need any extra pressure to induce labor. They should understand because my mother had ALWAYS gone past the EDD and was miserable. I also told my Dr. that I wouldn't even discuss inducing until early april and asked her not to bring it up.

I went in for my just over 36 week appointment and the nurse was asking me if I was "nesting" yet, because the baby was coming any day now. My doctor was kind of the same way. When I pointed out that if the baby came now, it would technically be premature, she said that most of the women she works with are so ready to be done that they're asking how to speed things along.

This pregnancy has been much easier than my last, and I'm perfectly content to wait. I don't expect her to come out before she's ready, and it's still early. Starting to think it's going to happen any day is just going to make me frustrated! Is anyone else dealing with this?

[AnneCordelia]

So true! Let that baby cook!

I'm just over 38 weeks now and constantly getting the comments about when this child will come out. I went 2 weeks past my EDD with my son, so I expect I'll do something similar this time.

Personally, I don't understand the women who want to speed things along as well and opt for early inductions/cesareans. Yes, I'm not comfortable anymore. My hips can be downright painful a lot of the time. I don't sleep well. I can't eat without heartburn. However, these are small prices to pay for a baby that will come out with mature lungs, fully grown and ready to meet the world instead of being forced to meet it.

Emily

[bubbles]

I know the feeling. My sisters are speculating it will be any day now (I am 38 1/2 weeks) as I am nesting. Well, I have been constantly remodeling since December! When your house is torn apart, you put it back together, baby or not. Everyone says "oh, you must be so ready!" I will be ready when the baby is. People ask what I am doing to help things along. I am doing just what I am supposed to be doing to have a healthy pregnancy and delivery. My baby and my body will birth when they are ready, thank you very much. I just tell people that I love having this baby inside me and it will come when the time is right.

[crayon]

Yes I do understand, however my mind and body feel very ready, I know this bean will not pop out until ready. Unlike you, this pregnancy has been much harder on my body than my first and I would love to be able to be awake and not in pain. I feel better this week now that I am 37 1/2 weeks and by sunday 38 weeks... I was a bit worried last week when people were saying "anytime" and it is even my MWs "safe zone"- yes that is right- 36 weeks... I have no problem going to my DD (the 13th) however I do hope that the gods are kind and dont make me go way over like DD..... I couldnt imagine going to the end of March-- sigh....

I have noticed the norm for women seems to be 38 weeks now because so many OBs are inducing and not leting nature just do her thing! Starting the 1st however, I am walking a lot! :LOL I figure that gravity is part of the good old nature of things!

[crayon]

I posted on one of our other threads that if my DD would have been born at 38 weeks- like many women do via induction- she would have been born a month early! A whole month of good baking time! And she was only 7lbs 4oz I couldnt even think how small she would have been a month early

If this baby wants to go 2 weeks over like she did, well, I guess there is not much I can do How fun is it to be pregnant anyhow! Even with the pain and HB and stuff, it is pretty cool to feel your baby safe inside

[srmina]

Although things are starting to get tough for me now at 38 weeks, I would be perfectly content to keep this bambino in for another 2 months or so! I just have way too much to do still.

I sympathize...yesterday my doc told me to go home and start contracting because he would love to deliver me after all (I am unfortunately due during the annual GYN conference and he will be gone). I am actually really surprised to hear so many people induced at 38 weeks or less. In my practice they will not allow induction or c/s before 39 weeks unless there is a clear medical reason.

I am still struggling with the fact that I have to upset nature by having a c/s at 39 and 2/7 weeks...but in my case there is a clear medical reason and I would much rather have a healthy baby this time.

[welldone]

It's just human nature to question a nine-months pregant woman about her baby and due date. I try to take it all with a grain of salt. I, myself, and impatient for this baby and anxious to meet her. I always tell people that I'm ready for her to come any day!

But that's my heart. My mind knows that she will come when she's ready, and I don't want her a day before then. I'm so grateful to be this far along (my first daughter was born at 35 weeks) that I will be thrilled to make it to my due date, or over. I always love Dr. Bradley's analogy about picking green apples...induction is never a good idea!

[LoveChild421]

yeah I always think it's funny when women ask me "how much longer do you have to go?" and I say "oh a month or so" and they say "wow you're HUGE I bet you're ready" umm...no I would like to wait a month or so thanks...

it's funny because I'm actually very small and all belly- I still walk all the time, run up the stairs to class and have never felt better in my life- I would like to feel like this FOREVER!

[sm3247]

Don't get me wrong - I'd love to have the baby now. My last baby was born pretty close to his due date and was over 10 lbs. at 37 weeks, this baby could be an average or even large size. I'm also tired and uncomfortable and hate having to pee every 15 minutes and go to the doctor every week. I'm also excited about actually having the baby.

I just hate that I'm trying my best to be patient and not get overanxious about going into labor any minute. I could easily be pregnant for another 5 weeks and I don't mind if it means my child is healthier for it. Having people tell me it's going to be any time now is a lot of pressure.

Best of luck to you all.

[bubbles]

It is hard to not get caught up in it when everyone is talking about how soon it can be. While I am absolutely exhausted right now, I keep thinking about how tired I will be after the baby is born! Hmmm....which will be more tiring. I agree that the peeing and mw visits are a bit annoying (not my mw, lol, just having to make the trek every week). Now, if I had had a 10 lb baby at 37 weeks I would be anxious right now! I can't believe you are so patient sm3247!

[Cmildenb]

greatly appreciated

I was so glad to read this posting, as I have been feeling a little too pressured to have a baby soon, and my due date is only 3/21! All the excitement from those of us going into labor and having practice runs is really catching, but I need to remember to take it easy and be patient.

Because this is my first, I'm fully expecting to go over my due date. Unfortunately, I've felt crappy emotionally and physically and I just had to tell my boss I'm starting my maternity leave at 37 weeks (next week), as I can't continue the 12 hr nursing shifts anymore. So, I've had these internal feelings of guilt knowing it will be less time out of my 12 week FMLA I will have with my baby. Has anyone else been thru this before?

I'm really glad there are others out there who are also feeling this pressure and are remembering to slow things down.

Thanks,
Catherine

[crayon]

Originally Posted by Cmildenb

Because this is my first, I'm fully expecting to go over my due date. Unfortunately, I've felt crappy emotionally and physically and I just had to tell my boss I'm starting my maternity leave at 37 weeks (next week), as I can't continue the 12 hr nursing shifts anymore. So, I've had these internal feelings of guilt knowing it will be less time out of my 12 week FMLA I will have with my baby. Has anyone else been thru this before?

That has to be very hard on you. But look it at it this way- you are still with your baby- and these are the last few weeks you have to be pregnant- I do miss so much being pregnant with my DD- every pregnancy is so special- however I do love that I have my DD now with me face to face... This baby... Well, I have the same feelings- I cant wait to see him/her but I am going to miss being pregnant- and we are not sure if we will have more, so this is kinda a bitter sweet time.... Just enjoy!!!

[simplehome]

Yeah, everyone around me (ILs, strangers mostly) seem to be of the "any day now!" opinion, but DH and I keep commenting on how great I feel, especially for being over 36 weeks now. I know I have plenty of time to start feeling like crap, but at the moment I really have no complaints. I'm DEFINITELY not an "I wish I could be pregnant forever" type, but I really don't mind this part, and I know that I will miss it on some level.

My MIL (2000+ miles away, hasn't seen me since 12 wks) sent me a "my GOD you're huge! You're going to have some sort of behemoth baby"-type email last week which really boiled my blood....I feel pretty average to small, and regardless of how big I actually AM, I'm as big as I need to be to make a healthy baby. Anyway, this morning DH said the sweetest thing..."you know, I remember when my mother was pregnant with *youngest brother*, she couldn't tie her shoes by about 5 months pregnant, and she just laid on the couch all of the time exhausted. Here you are, able to do about everything you always could, going on long hikes, feeling full of energy. How lucky we are!!" It made me feel good, anyway. Don't know why.

ANYWAY, I'm not really feeling like I'm going to have this baby any time soon, nor am I really itching to get him out of there. But we get more excited to meet him every day! It's getting harder to ignore other people's opinions, though.

Random-my mother and I were talking about the birth of her second child recently. She had BOTH sets of parents staying with them (on fold-out beds in the living areas of the house!) for THREE WEEKS before he was actually born, basically sitting around staring at her waiting for her to hurry up and have the baby. Then they stayed for TWO MORE WEEKS after he was born!! Yikes.

[sm3247]

Originally Posted by bubbles

It is hard to not get caught up in it when everyone is talking about how soon it can be. While I am absolutely exhausted right now, I keep thinking about how tired I will be after the baby is born! Hmmm....which will be more tiring. I agree that the peeing and mw visits are a bit annoying (not my mw, lol, just having to make the trek every week). Now, if I had had a 10 lb baby at 37 weeks I would be anxious right now! I can't believe you are so patient sm3247!

Sorry - I should clarify. I didn't have a 10 lb baby at 37 weeks. I'm 37 weeks right now and had a 10 lb baby at 40 weeks last time!

Catherine - I don't blame you a bit for taking a few weeks off before the baby comes. I know it's hard to justify when you have a limited time, but working 12 hour shifts must be incredibly hard at the end of your pregnancy. If you can't do it, be proud of yourself for knowing your limits!