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post #41 of 56
4/21/05 at 8:39pm
god, good point lynsage! i would have to say that i would prefer a mama too, now that i think of it. since i've had fiona, i have sought out friends who have kids, so why would a partner be any different?

good question cmb123! got me thinkin'(that's no small feat, j/k :LOL i overthink EVERYTHING! )

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post #42 of 56
4/21/05 at 8:46pm
i was asking mostly because i too feel like if i got in a relationship with someone i would have to feell ike they are on the same page as me, in terms of family importance and stuff..

i guess i get down thinking about having to find someone new and then have them not be into being a family. it happens with guys as well as woman.. i know a lot of queer woman who want nothing to do with kids... i just hope i dont fall in love with one of those.. !
post #43 of 56
4/21/05 at 9:39pm
sorry mamafern i didn't do my hw b4 my last post...thank YOU for the question posed
post #44 of 56
4/22/05 at 8:55pm
youre welcome.. mostly i was asking because im pregnant with my sons dad but im not "with" him.. im 3 months almost and i wonder if i met someone would they want to be a part of that and everything. i would LOVE to meet a pregnant queer momma and take care of her :LOL so there must be more of us out there!
post #45 of 56
4/23/05 at 4:04am
OMG that sounds sooooo cool! i would love to give a pregnant mama the love and attention she deserves that i didn't get! i am a super nuturer at heart(which has gotten me in a bit of trouble) and especially knowing the love and attention i craved i think it would feel sooooo good to give that to another deserving goddess! what a happy thought :
post #46 of 56
4/23/05 at 10:13am
this subject is close to my heart because i was dating a girl right before i got pg with my daughter, and when i told the her about it she dropped me like a hot potato (i don't think she was ready for a poly bi girlfriend OR a pregnant one...but that's a story for another thread!).

how awesome would it be to have a pregnant girlfriend?

i know there were many days during my pregnancy when i wished i had a gf to take care of me and be there with me in a way that i don't think most men can be with a pregnant woman. i'm sure there are some men that "get it" and know how to take care of a pregnant mama, but having a nice soft woman there to rub your back and brew up your raspberry leaf tea, and actually know what you're going through...that would be heaven.

if i met the right girl, maybe even someone i wanted to be monogamous with, and she was pregnant, i'd love taking care of her and emotionally supporting her. i think it would be so good for the relationship to have someone who really understood what you were going through, you know?

i feel the same way about my best friend who is about to start trying to get pregnant, too. i just want to go live with her in seattle and help her husband take care of her, and support them both with massages and giant vegetarian meals, and always be there with the tea and the warm rice bag. i wonder if there is such a thing as a whole-pregnancy doula. i think i'd be great at it!
post #47 of 56
4/23/05 at 10:18am
I would SO LOVE to be with a PG woman! It is really my dream, to find a nice girl, settle down and start dreaming up a family. Then following through and creating that family.
post #48 of 56
4/23/05 at 11:54am
i guess im wishing i had that.. someone to take care of me. i felt so stong with elwynn. his dad was around but he was a boy, still is and not supportive in the ways that i needed at all.. this time he isnt in the picture at all and the only people ive told are two of my good friends. i dont feel like i have any support right now and i think im feeling pretty lonely because of that.

anyways, i ran into a woman i knew from when i used to live in the city..we didnt really stay close the three years i lived away, but she was soo happy to see me and invited me to her birthday party tonight. i was totally crushing on her pisces girlfriend years ago and she knew it too.. i didnt hide it. they arent together anymore and the woman i had a crush on doesnt live in the city now.. but maybe ill meet someone at her party.. there is always that possibility. ihavent gone to many social gathering since i moved back to the city, so im looking forward to it.
post #49 of 56
4/24/05 at 4:48pm
Thread Starter 
MamaFern! How was the party?
post #50 of 56
4/25/05 at 12:18am
umm.. it was okay. i did post a thread on the single parenting board today because of some friends who felt the need to bash my being a single momma.. and pregnant . the "havnt you ever heard of a condom" comment kinda threw me for a loop. yeah. did you ever think that maybe i WANTED another baby???? is thatSOOOO CRAZY? *sigh* i guess i need to find some other friends childless lesbians sure dont get it ( at least the ones i know..).
post #51 of 56
4/25/05 at 8:12am
How sad mamafern. I'm sorry you got those comments, how rude.
post #52 of 56
4/25/05 at 10:28am
Thread Starter 
That's a bummer. I actually replied to that other post..it didn't occur to me that that happened at the party.
post #53 of 56
4/25/05 at 3:58pm
that's terrible, mama fern. i hope you can find some people that are more supportive to spend your time with.
post #54 of 56
4/26/05 at 2:52am
So, I wanted to meet other mamadykes in my community for playgroups, family friendly stitch'n'bitch, book clubs, whatever...you know the idea, right? So I posted on Craig's list in the w4w section and got a decent response. I wasn't really looking to date, but I did meet an interesting group of women that are in the same or similiar boat....

I totally relate to the being overlooked because I don't scream QUEER!!! And I'm kind of shy too, so it's almost impossible to actually let someone know I'm interested. I hate when the obvious lesbo couple look right over me...and how dorky is to say, hey you, yeah, I'm one too. Look at me. Sigh....the bane of being a shy femme w/ kids in tow I guess.
post #55 of 56
4/26/05 at 7:59am
I think that the people that I want to know I am lesbo know that I am when they meet me. Like if I'm shopping and see a hot chic I look her in the eyes and don't look away. I smile, I say hi. I don't get any dates that way, yet anyways :LOL but I think that they know just by the way they respond.

I am pretty confident and do what I want though. I don't worry about what others think, especially in a place like the grocery store where I'll probably never see those people again.
post #56 of 56
4/26/05 at 12:22pm
thats reallyt great idea mtnhighmama! i was thinking of doing something like that here.. maybe put up notices in the community for a queer mammas and wannabe mammas potluck in the park or something.. i also want to plan a kids bike parade. i used to go to those where we would all decorate our bikes and ride around with streamers and those things you put on your spokes that makes sounds.. maybe i could do something like that as well as the potluck. pull them together, but i wouldnt want to disclude straight folks either.
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