Originally Posted by RacheePoo
I can honestly say that I have zero regret or guilt about having a c-section. Ds was malpositioned (had been transverse for months) and never engaged. ... I had an incredible surgeon, a speedy recovery, and I never experience pain or numbness. The scar is microscopic. I went through all the normal feelings of "what if" for a couple of months after his birth, but then they just faded away. I will have a c-section again if I ever get pregnant again.
Thank you, RacheePoo, for posting this. It's exactly how I feel.
DS was head-down and perfectly positioned for my entire pregnancy. But when my water broke, he popped out and when my doctor checked my cervix, he couldn't feel the head. A quick ultrasound showed that his shoulder was presenting, which is a problem because if the cord came out, DS would have died. So I was told that I'd be having a c-section in the next 30 minutes (probably faster if they'd felt a cord coming out), but at that point, they figured they had time to clear the operating room from the previous delivery.
I'm SO glad that one of my friends kept telling me that a c-section wasn't the end of the world, that the best thing is "healthy baby, healthy momma." The nurse told me that I had one of the calmest reactions she'd ever had for someone being told that she'd be having a c-s shortly.
There is a funny part to my delivery story. My DH was waiting outside, and heard my doctor (one of the senior obs/gyns at the hospital; most of the nurses wanted to know how I got to be his personal patient) asking where the resident was (I guess for assisting in the c-s). They were saying that there was no resident, and DH is standing there thinking that we've gotten ourselves into a messy situation, and what kind of gong show is this?
Anyways, he gets into the operating room, and an older doctor walks in, and DH said that you could see all the nurses and everyone else in the room visibly straighten themselves up. Turns out that there was no resident to assist, so I got one of the senior surgeons. So between my senior obs-gyn and the hospital's senior surgeon (who had great fun teasing each other while delivering), I had an impeccable c-s, with no complications and no major scar.
I remember being told that DS had the cord wrapped around his neck 3 times. I guess that's another good reason to have had that c-s -- I'd have been horrified if the cord had strangled him on the way out! (One of my pregnancy nightmares.)
There were two bad parts to the cs: the shakes in the recovery room, and the sadistic nurse who made me get out of bed that night. I know that she wasn't really sadistic, and I'm grateful now because I realize that it really helped with the recovery time, but at the time it was pretty hard to do.
We had a rough first week of bf'ing, just because DS was so sleepy all of the time (probably from the drugs that I got), but once the milk came in, he bf'd like a champ, and is still nursing through this pregnancy.
I'll probably have a scheduled c-s with this current pregnancy. It turns out that I have a small pelvis and make babies with huge heads, so unless the baby is early, I'll probably have the same problem this time around.
I just have some questions for mommas who've been there:
* are the post-operation "shakes" better with a spinal or an epidural? Or are they about the same?
* will they let you nurse the baby while you're in the recovery room? I'd really like to be able to get the baby to the breast asap this time, despite the shakes
* is the recovery period easier the second (or third, or more) time around? I was out doing half our evening walk by 4 weeks, and doing laundry and a 3-mile walk by about 6 weeks.