How do I cope and still be a good mom?

[nudespirit]

My husband is a sex addict. I haven't kicked him out, yet... how do I protect my kids? How do I deal with the depression? I'm on 40 mg of Paxil, and I'm still in a fog...

Brian and I are going to be on the Larry Elder show tomorrow on channel 5 at 10am in case you want to watch or tape it, we are going to tape it. In fact you can go to http://www.larryelder.com click on his show on the left and go to show info and there is a clip of us and further in there is a picture and a description of our problems... it's weird seeing it, it's going to be even harder for me to watch it tomorrow evening, but I know I need too, and I need the counseling. Right now, after having worked for a week, I am not sure that I can stay in this marriage, but that changes from day to day, week to week, so who knows... just thought you might be interested. If you know him, please let me know, we're trying to figure out who all he has had sex with because he says he can't remember.

[Ruthla]

[LongLiveLife]

Oh, God, Kimberly... 16 year old girls. I don't want to pass judgment, but I would think that you already know that the marriage is over & you need time to accept it and gather your strength. Your husband is sick. Never ever let yourself think that it's a reflection on you. Did you suffer from depression before the walls caved in on you?f not, the medication probably won't do much. I'm taking Celexa only b/c I've had depression for years and the stress and grief of being treated so badly exacerbated the pain, but if your depression is situational, no pill will help it. I know you can heal, and I know you can come out of this strong and able, even if it takes a while. I don't know how to be a good mom, when you feel worn down and tired out. It isn't easy, but your children don't need to have had a perfect life in order to turn out okay. You'll simply do the best you can, and they will love you. If they're old enough to reason with, you can tell them that you feel sad, and that things are hard for you right now. My daughter has seen me cry, and she's no worse for the wear. Children are so emotional. They cry. They understand that feelings get hurt. they don't need to know the depth and breadth of your situation, of course. In fact, they don't need to know anything at all about the situation. Your life will take so many turns, and you will all come out of it in tact.


I am so sorry. You must be devestated.

[foreverinbluejeans]

My marriage ended when I found out my husband had gotten a 16 year old girl pregnant. It happened before I knew him but he was in his 40s. He was a professional photographer and he used that to get teen girls to undress/ have sex with him. He lived near a college campus and used his equipment to spy on teens. He had lost jobs because of his behavior.

I've been a single mother of 3 boys for years. I decided that I didn't want to date because I don't want to remarry. I enjoy being a single mother and never long for a partner.