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post #41 of 51
Nope, there's no chance in hell of me going to a Bris, unless it was a Bris Shalom, where there isn't any genital cutting.


I'm so sorry for that poor baby
post #42 of 51
A friend of ours invited DH (Jewish) & me. They knew how I felt. But it was a special occassion to them and wanted us there.

I didn't go. No way in heck. They understood and were fine with it.

DH went. Fine by me.

As far as them needing "me" to be there supporting them, tish tosh... they had 10-20 people there already doing that.

If it was my best friend or sister, nope, not going. To turn it into a whiney "you aren't supporting me" thing is a manipulation.

If I were the OP, I would not attend. DH could still go alone if he wanted to. Hopefully DH's attendance (or lack of) won't affect his employment.
post #43 of 51
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Originally Posted by loving-my-babies
I'm not going to support someone that is hurting an innocent child and cutting off part of his penis. Anyone that does this is not worthy of my support. If I am present, I am saying that what she is doing to her child is ok. IMO it is not, and I will not witness a child screaming and agonizing because of this.
Ditto this. And I am technically Jewish, but am pagan/Xtian scientist by choice.

I would never attend a bris. Ever. IMO it's cruel, and honestly I wouldn't associate with people who think it's okay to mutilate a child.

Kristi
post #44 of 51
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Originally Posted by Momma4
So I am assuming that one wouldn't tell a Jewish friend to her face "I wouldn't attend your son's bris if rabid dogs chased me there"? Because that wouldn't be respectful. At all.
I absolutely would say this. Not necessarily the rabid dogs part, but I would make my opinion on circ totally clear. I'd probably say something along the lines of "I will not attend the genital mutilation of a child, and I'm horrified that you are doing that"


Kristi
post #45 of 51
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Originally Posted by callumsmom2001
Not even if I was being chased by rabid dogs could you get me anywhere near that household. There is nothing "beautiful" to me about causing babies pain or harming them in this way. IMHO cutting the genitals of a baby is just wrong, no matter how you try to justify it.
Ditto!
post #46 of 51
I would definately DECLINE the invite and I would not feel the least bit guilty in doing so. It has nothing to do with anyone's religion, it has to do with the fact that by attending I would be supporting the harm of the baby boy. I would also not drive a friend (of any religion) to the dr or go to support a parent of a baby undergoing a circ, EVER.
post #47 of 51
Thread Starter 

The final decision!

Well just to wrap this up..we did not go to the Bris. My husband was suggesting that we go afterwards, etc. He honestly thought it happended at a church and that we could skip that part and go to the house for the "reception". He cracks me up. I had to give him a breakdown of the little info that I knew. I had finally told him I wasn't going and neither were the children. I told him that he could go if he wanted to. When his "boss" called to tell him about a future job, my husband asked if the Bris was that evening (yeah we waited to the last minute). Well, I guess we had missed it. They had originally scheduled it for that evening but had moved it. At her last OB appointment the doctor told her that her baby was too big to have vaginally so they scheduled a C-section a week before her due date. Therefore they moved the Bris date up by a week but didn't tell some friends. Very strange situation. (By the way, her baby was 7lbs.)
Thanks for all of your input. I really knew that I didn't want to go but needed a little nudge. Thanks.
Really hot topic!
post #48 of 51
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Originally Posted by burke-a-bee
...At her last OB appointment the doctor told her that her baby was too big to have vaginally so they scheduled a C-section a week before her due date. ... . (By the way, her baby was 7lbs.)...
GRR> Stupid OBs. I thought everyone knew they can't accurately predict the weight. : Lucky for them they did not try that with me and my 9.5 lb naturally birthed babe.
post #49 of 51
Thread Starter 
My first was 9lbs 1 oz and third was 8lbs 14oz. I was so upset when my husband said that her baby was 7lbs.
post #50 of 51
I realize that I'm coming to this late and it's done-and-over now, but the correct, polite thing to do is simply send your regrets.
"Dear John, We will not be able to accept your invitation to the Bris. We hope to see you soon, Jack & Jill."
It is rude to ask someone why they have declined an invitation, but if really pressed one could say, "We aren't comfortable with the practice of circumcision" and leave it at that.

I don't think anyone would make outrageous 'rabid dog' comments to anyone but the closest of friends/family who already knew how they felt.
Readers should bear in mind that this is 'The Case Against Circumcision' and one could hardly expect posters to pretend to be neutral on the topic!
post #51 of 51
ofcourse, I agree with teresa, and I think that is a very polite way to decline!!!
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