MistyD--Thank you for the update! I am sending all my healing vibes their way and hoping they will be with each other and home soon!
Rainbowmoon--Unhindered, yes totally how I felt last time. This time I feel very hindered having to be under mw care. I swear if I could strangle my husbands command I would. How dare they dictate how I have my baby *grr* But like you I coul dnever have a hospital birth unless it was 100% can't get around it necessary.
UmmSamiyah--I have to agree with Kate here, you stumbled upon this forum for a reason
The process of discovering UC and the mental shift, its amazing! I can;t even describe that feeling of change. But its like all of a sudden the stars line up and everything clicks and its like...euphoric.
Vacc--Only my oldest is vaxed and at the time I was ignorant and did what I thought I was supposed to. By the time my second came along I had done a lot more reading and depsite having a hospital birth I refused to vacc him. My stepson is vacc'd but I had no control over that either.
BC--that was fairly simple for me to get. A lay midwife in HI filled out the paperowrk for me for a very small fee. Even without her help it wouldn't have been an issue as all to get the BC. Its just a matetr of finding out your countys requirements to get a BC. Usually just need proof of pregnancy and a witness.
Homeschooling--yes i homeschool my oldest and this coming school year my 2 youngest will start homeschooling. i am stil lworking on getting DH to talk with his ex so that my steson can be homeschooled as well (we have custody of him but she still has to be involved in educational decisions *blech*). I am not sure I would have homeschooled if I hadnt found the school system here to be totally lacking. My son was having a lot of issues and until I took him out of school i had no idea what was going on. We discovered 1) he needed glasses and 2) he works much better when given individual attention. I see him thriving now and he is even 2 grade levels higher in reading than the school was trying to place him at, in fact they were saying he was behind! HA!
But none of this is connected to my choice to UC, well some of it possibly is. The mental shift did a lot of changing within me. We try to eat healthier, positive discipline etc. But i was doing attachment parenting, co-sleeping, breastfeeding, slinging, non vaxxing, non-circing cloth diapering all before homebirthing and UC entered the picture.
Good luck on your journey! I can only suggest check out www.laurashanley.com
and ordering her book. That book changed my husband completly and was a true inspiration to me. Then I would join the site www.birthlove.com
Its a bit pricey for the membership but that site is SO full of so much information and awesome birth stories that its worth the price.