Went to see a therapist yesterday

[mommyofboy]

Well, I finally went and saw another therapist. The first one I saw I wasn't really happy with to be honest. She didn't have any kids, how can seh know what I'm going through, etc....

I talked to her about some of my feelings. She said as a mother she had a lot of the same feelings.

While I Was waiting at the office. I picked up and looked at a copy of US New and WOrld report and read an article about mothers they had. It seems like a lot of mothers are very unhappy and stressed to the max.

Why do you think this is so? I know mothering is a very hard job, but do you think all mothers have always felt like this?

[Jish]

I don't have time to reply now, but I wanted you to know that I read your post and will be back later to chat about it. Very interesting.

[tug]

interesting question. at first, i was gonna say how much more we had on our plates now, but then i thought, naw, mothers have always had pressure on them. in the 50s, lots of moms worked because they had to and had few supports and the ones that didn't work were expected to keep these perfect households while taking care of kids. during the industrial revolution, lots of mothers had to work and the ones that didn't and had nannies, etc were probably still stressed because they were marginalized and trapped in various other kinds of roles...

maybe we just talk more openly now about how stressed we are?

[lauraess]

Hi. I saw this post and read your query as to why moms are stressed or not so happy. well, really... honestly I thinkit's all apart of the "MYTH" - stories of sweet, loving mothers, all of those poems written in ode to dear moms whom are never forgotten, Ads in magazines, commercials of smiling, busy yet well-dressed, put-together moms. Isnt that what we're supposed to be???
Dont we all spend 9 months dreaming about how wonderful and dreamy and beautiful it will be when the babe is born and we are actually a MOM???
well, I did. didnt you?
The last of the daydreams was in the hospital while i couldnt sleep, imagining how I would dress the little guy.
Motherhood is messy, tiring, exhausting, full, repetitive, unglamorous, frustrating, all without barely a hint at whether we're doing a good job or not.
And the responsiblility issue is uhhhhh, A life - A HUMAN life-- OUR OWN FLESH AND BLOOD.
And lets not forget the hormones of nursing, hormones post partum, hormones post motherless-time-to-sleep-time-to-yourself-time-for-sex-time-to-get-a-shower-in-peace. Tick,Tick,Tick...... YOur child is getting bigger and your are not getting younger and you think you MIGHT be Wiser but you're NOt REALLY SURE about THAT because you think you lost your mind because you forgot what month it was earlier that day.
Okay, so, that's just a little snippet really of why motherhood is so stressfull.
a snippet. theres more i'm sure but i forgot and Im tired and hungry and this is the best time to eat(11:58pm)IN Peace.
~L

[mommyofboy]

Thanks for your responses. oh yes, I used to look at all the baby clothes and think of how I couldn't wait to dress the baby in cute clothes and how I would be so good at it all the time and just love it to death all the time. I guess it is different from what I thought it would be.

I do love my son to death though!!! It's just the hardest job in the world!!