I am so frustrated and so sad right now. We went to our homeschool community center today--the one that had originally established guidelines to keep ds2 and a few others safe. And there was cheese and milk and mac-n-cheese and cheddar cheese goldfish and a JAR of peanut butter. There was no way I could even feed ds2 safely so we left. I didn't want to hang out in the playroom any longer b/c once kids started drifting back in from eating, there would be a huge chance that there would be dairy smears and peanut smears. The really sad thing is that the woman who brought the peanut butter was in our LLL group when ds2 was so sick and we were learning about his allergies and how to effectively eliminate them. She saw how sick he was. And peanut allergies are probably the most common and peanut butter is so freakin' OBVIOUS.
I helped them develop appropriate guidelines and I was very clear about severe ds2's allergies are and I didn't even ask them to avoid the banana and avocado--although the woman who established the group initially said they should. Of course, she brought bananas today. And I wouldn't even consider asking anyone to avoid the foods that aren't dangerous on contact.
I was really hoping to avoid taking it to the next level, which would be either 1. we discontinue contact with our area's homeschool community or 2. I host a mini-seminar to try to raise awareness. My other kids love going and ds2 has just started warming up to everyone. I need some adult contact, but, honestly, it's getting hard to see people as potential friends or at least friendly acquaintances when they seem to have so little regard for my child.
Thanks for listening.