Originally Posted by Ms. Frizzle
I have seen people use both the words 'sick' and 'abusive' and others when talking about CIO, Circumcision and spanking here at Mothering, and no one blinks an eye at it. Reason being, is cause the majority agree's that those things are wrong. Use those same words against something the majority does then all gloves comes off.
If you feel sex is an OK thing to do while laying next to your child then by all means, do it, and have fun. But my opinion has not, and will not change on the issue.
In my case (since I don't know what other people do) I can say there is a HUGE difference between sex on one side of our King bed while ds sleeps on the far other side (and soon we will be upgrading to another Queen bed next to the King, so then it will be in a separate 'bed') and CIO or Circ or those other things you mentioned which is done TO
a child. Here is the difference - My son has never been conscious when we have had sex - never. So how can it affect him if he is oblivious to it?? My son is a VERY deep sleeper, and I can tell by his breathing when he is sleeping. We also live in the country and no street lights plus blinds closed on the windows (to keep out even the moon light) means that even after an hour of your eyes adjusting to the dark, you can't see 12 feet in front of you. So at MOST my son would HEAR or feel the mattress moving a bit. Now, seeing as he's a very innocent child, he wouldn't know at all that **SEX** was going on.
Your view seems ultra prudish to me and judgemental based on some twisted view of what you THINK is going on in family beds who do this. It reminds me of someone who says nursing a child X years of age is "sick" or "abusive". It's just pure ignorance at best - and perversion at worst (meaning the one projecting these 'feelings' on the other is actually the one with the "issues")
Anyway, you're not reading this anyway, so maybe that's best. Sorry that my post was harsh. But your post insinuates that *I* am abusing my child, which is utter BS.