How about an Adults-Only Forum? - Page 3

[Oh the Irony]

Originally Posted by Persephone

But who am I? *shrug*

a valued and respected member of mdc.

[Victorian]

Something similar was suggested before they closed W&P for good. We asked for a place to talk politics without being moderated as heavily (like on issues of homosexuality and abortion) and were told no dice.



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[AllyRae]

Originally Posted by Victorian

they closed W&P for good.

Whoa...when did that happen?? I take a couple weeks break and I miss out on that!

I'm on quite a few sites with an adult only forum...usually it's locked and you can be granted access by a pm to the mod. It usually works very well, and locking it keeps underagers from getting in and seeing the stuff...

[meco]

I agree with others. I would love a private forum where can talk about sex. Profanity is not as big of a deal to me. But sex is a normal, natural part of our lives. Sex impacts us in many ways. Not having it can be negative to a relationship, needing new ideas, needing information, needing BTDT information and more. It does impact us. It is a big part in most people's lives (no mine but some ).

Fullofgrace made some excellent points.

The problem with making Partners as Parents the place for that is that not everyone has partners. I do not have a partner, but I would still like to discuss issues related to sex in both a factual and fun light.

And I do think TAO is important to MDC. It has made a big difference in my life. I have learned a lot. It builds trust, it builds community, it builds sisterhood. Most have found likeminded mamas there who have made impacts on each others lives. It has evolved into friends rather than anonymous posters.

I love MDC, and the people I met here. I do not want to lose this either.

Now off topic posting is a whole other thread

ETA: A clarification on innuendo would be great. I agree with sohj that it is in the eye of the beholder. But some general guidelines would be helpful to myself and others from not making these errors.

[UrbanPlanter]

All I can say is that right now I am that it is coming to this.



It seems that the reigns are getting tighter and tighter, and the innuendo police are digging deeper and deeper for threads to close.



I keep thinking of that bit "George Carlin's Seven Dirty Words" (google it if you want more; I'm afraid to post a link )

[PurplePixiePooh]

Part of the valuable service MDC provided me with was giving me a place to talk like an adult with adult oriented humor with others. THere are days as a parent that you want to pull all your hair out and run screaming for the hills. I *used* to some here and relax and breathe a bit. Now that was taken away for some reason taht I cannot grasp. We are adults, we laugh, we talk trash, make jokes, laugh at innuendo. Come on now, give us a break.

[TiredX2]

Quote:
Originally Posted by Victorian
they closed W&P for good.



Whoa...when did that happen?? I take a couple weeks break and I miss out on that!

Last December (2004) :

[MamaAllNatural]

Originally Posted by thismama

Well I for one didn't get pregnant by having sex. But even my pure self is willing to wade into the trenches with you tramps.

I'm so grateful that you're willing to stoop to our despicable level.

Originally Posted by mom4tot

I would also like to volunteer to mod such a forum.




Or is that like the fox watching the hen house??

:LOL I'll be your co-mod Joanie

Originally Posted by meco

The problem with making Partners as Parents the place for that is that not everyone has partners. I do not have a partner, but I would still like to discuss issues related to sex in both a factual and fun light.

Good point. Also there are partnered women who would not be comfortable discussing sex at all.

I think we need a separate, locked forum for adult talk. I think this would solve the problem. I really, really, really want one.

[myjulybabes]

I love the idea, but it won't happen. It's my understanding from previous posts that MDC has a "family friendly" rating which allows it to be seen on computers that use those filtering softwares that prevent your kids from seeing stuff you don't want them to see. If they allow any sex talk other than what is directly related to reproduction, they could lose that rating. I'm not sure exactly what tradgedy would befall MDC if they were to lose the rating, but for some reason, it seems very important to the PTB.

I agree we need a place where we can talk about adult subjects. I'm pretty sure even those who didn't have sex to have their children have still had sex at some point in their lives, and may want some advice or other opinions on things relating to it.
Anyone want to volunteer to make us a place at one of the free message board sites? I'm dang near computer illiterate, or I'd go for it myself.

[AllyRae]

Originally Posted by TiredX2

Last December (2004) :

:LOL :LOL :LOL

Ok, that's when I found out I was pregnant, and I took over a business and started my last quarter at grad school...so I have an excuse...sort of... LOL!!!

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[MamaAllNatural]

The adult forum wouldn't be public though. You would need special permission and a password to get in (right?) so it wouldn't affect MDC's family rating (right?)

[jeca]

I'm a bubblehead. I may hve it all wrong but I think the suggestions in this thread are great. Parenting partners won't work for teh reasons stated above but making TAO adult only should keep down those who are easily offended.

[littlest birds]

Yeah, like a club that only allowed mdc members--just a spot where they could talk amongst themselves as if they were simply...friends

[MommytoMJM]

Originally Posted by thismama

Why not just make TAO "adults only"?

Ummm, cause that would leave those of us who want to chit chat together out?????

[meco]

So another private, request to be a member of Adult Talk/Sex forum would work for everyone if possible?

[littlest birds]

Personally, I don't want a sex talk forum just a place where it is not a guarded issue

[MommytoMJM]

Originally Posted by meco

So another private, request to be a member of Adult Talk/Sex forum would work for everyone if possible?

I think that is the best idea, if possible.

I too wouldn't mind talking about sex if needed (I usually do it in a PM, email, IM or chat if need be)

and here I go out on a limb.... what makes me uncomfortable is vulgar or crude talk (I don't think those words are necessary to describe intimate acts) and the outright flirting between members (I think that belongs in a more private place)

I realize we have all types on this board (GLBT) but we also have us plain vanilla conservative hetero sexual ppl and I hope I don't tick anyone off, but it seems to me that everyone elses feelings are being considered EXCEPT those of us who are uncomfortable with such language, innuendo and flirting comments.

I love all of you gals (and you know that) I do not for one second think that any of you are wrong....but we all need a place and respect and sometimes that means honoring values that are not like our own. I know I am a prude, I leave when things get heated or too much for me and in the chats everyone has been great about respecting that about me and warning me when the fur was about to fly....

I don't want to lose any of you as friends....can't we all please, just learn to love each other as we do our children?

[fullofgrace]

Originally Posted by deeporgarten

Personally, I don't want a sex talk forum just a place where it is not a guarded issue

me too. I'm not looking for a place to let it all hang out. I'm a pretty private person. What I do want is to be able to just be silly, not crude (not in my nature anyway), without fear of breaking a rule (which I did just the other day simply by pointing out what I found to be a funny typo on a bad day).

[meco]

Ok, so a private forum that people chose to join/read or chose not to join/read where discussions about sex, silly, rauncy (word choice?) and related issues would suffice? Where we can be silly and talk about issues not allowed in the public arena? Not necessarily a XXX Sex Talk Forum, but a forum where discussions about all kinds of related issues (gay, straight, bi, poly, etc) would take place, as well as other issues not suitable for the public boards?

It would be great if it could be public, but that seems not to be a possibility from what I have read.

And flirting with other members is not considered innuendo is it? If done without innuendo?

I wanted to add that I do not think such a forum or these threads would be to see what we could get away with. I think it is something that friends do--we joke, we laugh, we make silly comments. We get a little rowdy, we let our hair down with one another. I want to be able to be silly. I am a full time single mama. I need some humor and some lighthearted conversation. I come here for adults to talk to about all issues in life. This is not hardcore talk you'd normally pay for. And as for the real discussions about sex, well I think they are important to us in our lives. I think they matter. I realize why they cannot happen. But innuendo is broad and not always graphic or explicit. I understand why graphic, explicit things are not allowed. Can I offer kisses to my friend? I kiss all my friends hello and goodbye IRL so can I do that here? When does it cross the line? Many of us have gotten close, we have become great friends. I love some of these women, and these are ways I show my love. We are having fun. Part of parentingg is playfulness and having fun. And I know I have no ill intent.

[candiland]

Originally Posted by MommytoMJM

but we all need a place and respect and sometimes that means honoring values that are not like our own.

I'm not picking on you, I swear. This comment just jumped out at me so I wanted to respond... I'm sure there are others here who feel the exact same way. Maybe some people need to honor the values that aren't like their own...

Like, honoring those of us whose values INCLUDE talking freely and openly about sex and sexuality and all of the fun and dirty and loving and spiritual things that come along with it. Sex and sexuality is an integral part of the vast majority of people's (esp. mother's) lives. It's not bad, wrong, dirty or otherwise shameful to let loose sometimes. Cursing and profanity, yes, I totally understand. But sexuality? And the fun and giggles that sometimes come with it? I totally am at a loss there.