Anyone see Nanny 911 tonight? - Page 2

[tuffykenwell]

I have actually learned a couple of useful techniques from both Nanny 911 and Supernanny. As with everything I see and read I try to take what I like and leave the rest.

From Supernanny I learned to get down to your child's eye level when you are talking to them about inappropriate behaviour...okay I know this should be obvious but it hadn't ever occured to me and it nips most of our behaviour problems in the bud without having to do anything else.

Also both Supernanny and Nanny 911 emphasize praising good behaviour and I had been a bit lax in doing that lately. Now I am making more of an effort to remember to do that!

As for naughty stools, steps or spots...uh no that just doesn't work for me. We do time outs in DS' bedroom but he goes in there under his own steam and he knows when he calms down and can talk not whine he can come out.

I actually bought the Supernanny book and while I cannot believe her chapter on food (really really bad advice IMO) her thoughts on routine esp. for a child of my DS' age have given me some food for thought.

Steph

[melixxa]

I did really like Nanny911 last night. The episode hit home with me partly because I could see some of myself in the mother - the way she tried to bottle up and thus deny her negative feelings, how that seemed to effectively quash her children's ability to express themselves, how communication in the house was cut off and stunted because of this. I am battling these issues right now, albeit with a small toddler (so no time yet to have messed him up too much, lol. I hope). I thought the nanny was very sharp to pick up on the mom and dad's problems so effectively: not just her communication problems, but his distanced stance, his lack of involvement and constant criticisms of his wife (seeming to give her a vote of no confidence in advance on every single thing. That lack of support would be crippling to me!).

I have to say that I watched the Supernanny one time and thought she was awful! I saw an episode in which she wrested sippy cups away from a family of children, causing them to cry as if their hearts were breaking all night long. Now, I don't give a sippy or anything like that to my baby at night, but it seemed awfully cruel to me to take them away from these kids cold turkey. The way it was done seemed totally uncaring and must have seemed inexplicable and cruel to the kids themselves. There was also a torturously long segment showing the family putting a very young toddler down to sleep in a crib. He cried about it for hours and the parents suffered just as much. The whole thing just felt wrong to me - forced and forcefully done.

I am learning things from these nanny shows, however. My baby is still young. Some of it is a little too horrifying - like watching those birth shows when you're pregnant with your first - so I don't know if I should put myself through that.

One thing that really surprises me is how much other people seem to scream and shout. I grew up in a household in which there was next to no shouting and screaming. My partner and I don't raise our voice at each other, really, and, despite the fact that I am working through some anger issues, I don't think I will ever end up screaming at my babies. So I find that surprising and bizarre and eye-opening.