2 year old too compliant to requests of 4 year old sister

[gaialice]

Hi,
I have 2 little girls age 4 and 2.
Recently, I have noticed a pattern of behaviour developing between the two of them which worries me somewhat. The little one is becoming very compliant with the requests from the eldest, so long as the eldest asks politely, she always gives in.
Perhaps it is my perception, really, because I am the fourth and last child and although I don't recall being particularly compliant, I do recall being the last child and being always trying to outperform my siblings by doing things that were very advanced for my age but which they always found very "babysh". I am worried that she feels somewhat inadequate and tries to make up for this.
Any ideas from GD moms and dads?
Thanks
Mom to 2 year old : 4 year old :

[cmb123]

If your oldest is being kind to her (asking politely), it wouldn't concern me too much. Little sisters love to follow big sisters around. She probably learns a lot from her big sister. This is a relationship they will both be in for the rest of their lives. As much as posible, let it be theirs.

[foreverinbluejeans]

You expect your children to be compliant and it's a good thing that your 2 year old is compliant. What would be the problem is if the 4 year old was unreasonable with requests. This is when you would need to step in.

It sounds like you might need to resolve some of your feelings about your childhood. Your children are not you and your siblings.

[gaialice]

There is a lot of truth in what both of you said. Definetely, I need to disintangle my feelings and my memories of childhood from my experience as a parent, and that is not easy. I do agree also that I should leave the two to their relationship.
I do not think that my eldest's requests are unreasonable, but it is true that they are way too frequent. I mean, there are times when any toy that the little one takes up, she wants it...

[maya44]

I agree that you should stay out of it.

I think you should stay out of it even if the requests are "unreasonable" so long as they don't endager the health/safety of either child.

A younger sib will eventually figure out how to deal with unreasonable requests, you getting involved will only mess up the dynamic.