Dealing with violent scary media

[boysrus]

I don't want mykids watching violent tv or looking at violent pictures. They are 3, 6 and 8; all boys.
So, how do I stop it without squelching them?
We dont watch tv. We do videos sometimes. Right now, we are doing a lot of videos, bc we are in the middle of a move. So, I put on a video, and there will be a preview for a violent thing, like rugrats meeting the huge scary monster. So, we fast forward through it.
Or, we ordered my 6 yo a subscription to Lego magazine. Well, every page is this horrible scary violent creation. He looks through it and then throws it out, bc of the scary stuff.
The thing is, my 6 yo seems to like the violent stuff. My 8 yo has aspergers and really freaks out about violence, and my 3 yo will act out after seeing violence. I dont approve of them looking at violence, but I dont want to be disrespectful of their wishes. Which doesnt mean that I will allow them to watch it, I just want to find a way to frame it so that my 6 yo's feelings arent getting hurt.
Please. I dont want to hear all the reasons I SHOULD let them watch violent things. I have heard them, and they dont work for my family.
I am just looking for advice at how to handle the situation when a child really likes violence, but the parents dont approve

[girlzmommy00]

Could you record programs in advance for you to screen before they watch? Depending on what you have, you could erase or fast forward over comercials. If your TV has it, you can block programs based on the rating. I find that often times the ratings also have a quick blurb about what is in the program that gives it that rating.

My 11 year old has a TV in her room. I set it up so that it automatically blocks out selected channels & blocks individual programs based on ratings. It's set up with a passcode, so she can't over ride it. I feel better knowing she's not going to happen upon people shooting each other while bearly clothed.

[maya44]

I am not going to tell you that your child SHOULD be allowed to see this stuff. But i am telling you that an 8 y.o. is GOING to see it. If not at your house than at a friend's house.

Thus, you must deal with this stuff with your children. Discuss why you don't approve of it. Tell them that they can talk to you about it.

You don't want to make this such a forbidden fruit that they are afraid of something they have seen but afraid to tell you about it.

[4evermom]

Would the 6 y.o like things like construction videos with dynamite? It might be less scary for the 8 y.o. because there are understandable procedures and safety precautions though it might be hard to find a tape that explains everything clearly. Maybe something else exists that is really exciting but not actually violent. They might like the Three Stooges but they'd all be poking each other's eyes out.

I hate those rugrat previews, too. My ds would want to see them but also be scared and want to sit on my lap being held til they were over. Is there any way the 6 y.o. can see the age appropriate violent stuff when the other two aren't around?

I tell my ds that there are certain things he can't do when a particular playmate comes over because the friend (who has mild autism) finds them upsetting. We don't do them because the friend finds them scary and his not being scared is more important than my ds having fun. I realize it's a lot harder for your boys since they live together.