Originally Posted by Mothra
No, I agree with this. All kids do sneaky things, especially in the transition from preschool age to about five or six, maybe a little older. That's part of testing boundaries. However, have you ever been around kids who have been spanked or abused in some way? That's a completely different kind of sneaky, and that's the impression I got from her statement that these kids would lie about such a thing because they're sneaky. I think that's a different ballpark, no?
Yeah, it is.
These kids wanted negative attention focused on the family for some
I don't necessarily think the kids were being beaten, but there's something very bad, very dark going on there for the kids to make something like that up.
It really might just be the squalor...that will drive a kid insane.
Seriously...ask any member here who grew up like that. By the time a kid is 6 or 7, they see that their home is shamefully different than their friend's houses...not to mention the parental apathy.
I grew up like that...seasoned with various other forms of neglect and abuse, and I'm pretty sure I know why the kids were saying those things.
This is an enormous confession on my part, but when I was 11, I lied.
I told the truth at first, but no one listened.
It seemed as though no one cared unless I had bruises and scars, so I attributed accidental injuries to my parents. In my own defense, my father did throw things at me, thump me on the head daily when he was in a bad mood, and occationally chase me down and strangle me, screaming "I'm gonna kill you, you little bitch".
So I lied because I was desperate.
That said, I don't think this situation is as bad as mine was. And even if it is, I'm not sure I would have been better off in foster care, in retrospect.
I think squalor can be a vicious cycle...you're mentally ill, so you don't clean...but the filth contributes to the depression, ad infintum...
I honestly believe if we'd had a weekly cleaning service, it might have not ever gotten so bad all around.