|I just think that there is a huge difference between resenting a situation, and either changing the situation or moving on, and resenting a child who didn't ask to be here in the first place.|
I, fortunately, had been a nanny before I got pregnant, so I knew what I was getting into. Some people just have no idea, though...pop-culture portrays motherhood unrealistically, and that is what many moms base their expectations off of.
And severe PPD will make you a little crazy, as well...
Resentfulness....yes, toward the baby, is common. It's just an abstract feeling, not a well thought out decision to blame the child.
|Ok, I can conceed that it may be a normal reaction and if you can accept that than you can let it go, but I worry that it's so accepted as normal to resent ones child that it may also be held onto and carried throughout the childs life. I have known people who've done it. They spend their childs entire life resenting them and resenting what their life has become because they were parents. The child suffers, the family suffers, and often, these same women go on to have more children who they resent every bit as much as the first and it makes me sad.|
Is that what happens when PPD doesn't ever go away? Just festers and grows?