Well, I love it when I say something others enjoy. (I hate getting yelled at, and you never know!)
To those who feed with a bottle...did you make the best decision you could with the info you had available at the time? THen no guilt. If you made the decision and now feel you should have known better, that's what life is all about! But dont' beat yourself up or feel you don't belong here. Not everyone here co-sleeps, some have circumsized(!), some people scream at their kids, or don't disipline at all. Most do their best every day. My oldest BF til she was 1 month old.
Then the dumb pedi old me she was too fat and to give her 1% milk! She slept in another room! I was weird enough just using cloth diapers.
I didn't 'find' Mothering, or any of the things it represents until shortly before #3 was born. Fascinating! Wow! People DO that? What an eye opener. I wans't interested in AP at all, but hearing about it made me see the wisdom of some of it. The same with NP, though I'm not sure what falls under what category. Suddenly, cloth diapers were the norm, at least within the magazine.
I often visit a veg site, though I'm not a veg. They are nice people, sense of community, and they welcome everyone, knowing that eventually, they'll win some others over. They just ask theat you not talk about how to use up the leftover turkey carcass, etc.
I don't mean to speak for Mothering, but wouldn't it be better if we all tried harder to support each other, to imagine we'd actually have to talk, face-to-face, in the morning? If a new mother says her baby is with a relative for the night, doesn't it make sense to say, "Oh, please bring her, if you'd like." Is it anyone's business if she chooses to AP?
I left my 5 kids, including my 2 month old twins, all of them, with their aunt, my closest friend, for two hours and had dinner with my DH. Shoot me. My adopted son never even SAW a drop of breast milk. I soemtimes yelled so loud I thought I'd pop something in my brain. I'm not proud of it, but I'm still a mother, still trying hard, still here at Mothering.
If everyone who 'didn't belong here' left, It would be awfully quiet and lonely here.