Stacey, thank you for the advice. I did have my girls screened at a free test, and they will be getting the venous draw, too - DD2, 2.5, came in at 4.4. Older daughter, 7 came in with low, which just means under 3.3 - that's as low as the machine will measure. BUT, the house we rented before we bought this one was older and had paint in MUCH worse shape, so I'm rather horrified that I waited so long to test - whatever she picked up there has probably already disappeared into her system - and then I wonder about the charm on a little purse that I caught DD2 chewing on when she was a baby. DD2 has always grown less the Dr liked, and I just am left wondering how much she was exposed prior to now, as poor growth and speech delays are symptoms. I know these are minor exposures compared to what many have dealt with, but we haven't even moved into the upstairs yet, where most of the issues will be.
As far as asbestos - the house had vermiculite, which we had removed (there were some issues with the removal, which I hope were all dealt with). But, like lead, asbestos abatement removes a lot of the issue, but doesn't eliminate it. Otherwise, we have some of the wrapped up pipes, some questionable ceiling tiles in the basement, and some other stuff, most of which appears to be sealed up well, aside from some textured ceilings. We will have the plaster and other stuff tested soon, too. Sadly, there is no easy way to check for asbestos exposure - maybe they could take a chunk of your lung, I suppose. And back then, it was used in so much stuff, like lead.
I guess what really freaked me out is that I had those tests done before
we had work done. And I started to realize that old houses have history, it is hard to know what work was done before that may have contaminated things in terms of lead dust or asbestos. All it takes is one uneducated person, and poof! - you have an invisible issue.
It just adds to the whole old house money thing. And we just don't have money to move out while work is done. The guy will come out with the x-ray gun next week, and do dust wipes and soil tests - the city here has a grant, so that is free. Sadly, we are about $500 over the income limit to get help doing the lead abatement from the same grant.
I guess it is also hard that I have always struggled with housekeeping and now it is needful.
Sorry for my book, too, but info is good, and maybe someone down the line will get good info from the conversations.