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Originally Posted by faythe
There are no absolute right or wrong decisions with the interventions you've listed. Things can change quickly at the end of a healthy pregnancy, even during labor, and your best preparation is to educate yourself and have an educated, strong advocate who can discuss things with you and your caregiver as they're happening.
It's nice to have an idealized birth experience, but don't forget the whole purpose of it - the baby. You didn't get pg to give birth, you got pg to have a baby. Don't lose sight of that, either now or after the baby is born, perhaps not exactly the way you had planned. If you decide that you won't have an epidural or a c-section and you end up with both then you'll spend months (or longer) regretting your birth experience when it's really not necessary.
Having had all my babies in different ways (c-sec, medicated vbac and unmedicated vbac) I have the luxury of looking back at all my options and seeing that in the end, 4+ years later, the way my girls were born doesn't really matter.
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I really don't have some perfected idealized picture of what I want birth to be like (of course, we all envision things going wonderfully). I'm not going to be laying there saying "No c-section!" if the baby isn't doing well. In fact, the one piece of advice about labor that I've held on to the most is, it's only a few hours in the scheme of things.
I still have another 2.5 months, so I'm just trying to become as informed as I can so that I know what's going on with my body and my baby.
At the same time, a horrible birth experience IS traumatic, obviously I've never given birth before but I've had a really horrible experience that only lasted a few hours but gave me some mild post-traumatic stuff to deal with for months, maybe even years afterwards.
I've had two miscarraiges before this (so far) successful pregnancy and believe me, the birth is NOT about me. I would do whatever, suffer whatever, to bring a healthy baby home. But it doesn't mean I shouldn't learn about what's going to happen beforehand!
