I thought I'd give a little update. My DH and I had a good but tough talk today about cosleeping. When I told him I didn't want to get the arms reach and just put the baby in our bed he had a cow. We went back and forth for a long time, he was really frustrated, I tried to explain how it's not really that different but he still felt VERy strongly that he didn't mind having the baby in our room, or in a crib attatched to our bed but he DID NOT want the baby IN oour bed. If it makes my DH comfortable with cosleeping, than it's worth the $. I still chuckly a bit inside, because I know if we use a cosleeper the baby WILL end up in our bed at some point. But DH doesn't really need to know that and one of his issues with THE BED is that he thinks he'll have less space and it seams TOO weird for him. The cosleeper would just give us more space. It would be like a mini extention of our bed, he said that's fine! That way too we can both tell family and friends who I know already don't agree with baby in the bed that ya, the baby has it's own crib. They don't need to know that the crib happens to be in our room attatched to our bed.
Also I have a good friend who was able to put a thicker matress on her arms reach and get it level with the bed. So that way her baby slept in the cosleeper and when he woke up she would just roll over and pop a boob in. That sounds like a good plan to me.
Does anyone know if I can get the same effect (arm's reach level with bed) by simply adding the leg extentions, or is that not possible because of the way it attatches to the bed?
Thanks again for your help everyone.