Need to vent...

[Mama2RMM]

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[AppleOrangePear]

AMEN! I M with ya on thatA! Be glad you dont have a BIL like mine i just posted (OMG read this) take a look at that....

DS is 17 months and hasnt been with out us yet. I can only honestly say I trust some friends to follow our beliefs more then some family.. Sooo sad :

Michele

[Jennisee]

OMG, do we have the same MIL?! Every single time we have a meal w/ them, my MIL tries to point out to my daughter the things she can have "later," "next year," or whatever. And it's never the asparagus or the chicken breast. No, it's the chocolate ice cream or the 7-Up or birthday cake or the gummy worms... The worst part is that when I level a look her way, she stammers and says something like, "Well, at least when Mommy's not around." WTF?!

I am of the belief that no one, ever, has the right to undermine your parenting authority. I'm going to plagairize something someone said in another forum, but I liked it....If you decide that your child will wear only red shirts, then no one, NO one, has the right to put a blue shirt on him. That is YOUR child. And if your MIL has the controlling issues that your say she does, then I believe that letting her have her way or get off the hook once will just lead to more and more occurrences. And look at it this way, if she's that blatant about going against your wishes in front of you, what sorts of things will she go against your wishes on when you're not around?

As for what I do w/ my own in-laws.... Well, they're more or less afraid of me. :LOL When I was pg, they started in on their list of things they "deserve" as grandparents , and I just told them point blank, "The fact that one has grandchildren does not guarantee that one ever sees said grandchildren." So, for the most part, they go out of their way to respect my and DH's wishes.

[Siana]

I would say be very frank with her and tell her where you stand on the issue of introducing solids. You could also thank her for her continuous -- though misplaced -- concern for your DD's health, but clearly state that you and your DH are making a well informed and educated decision when it comes to *your* childs (short and long term) health. It would be helpful if you spouted off what the WHO has to say and/or maybe play the Doctor card ("My doctor is happy with her development, and is supportive of our decision to bf exclusively for as long as DD wants too" or something like that)

I actually appreciate it when people question my parenting methods, because then I have an opportunity to educate them about what the recommendations are (by the WHO, CPS, AAP) and what our logic is behind doing things that way we have done/are doing. I honestly don't like it when parents say that they are the parents and hence know what is best for their child -- if that were true then why are there so many babies needlessly being fed ABM, being abused... etc. ?

[PapayaMom]

ugh, i remember everyone doing that to us too. Now hat she has started solids I find it helpful to give her something healthy in front of people then they usually are quiet.

Yesterday my grandma said "oh Maya if you come over here i'll give you some cake" needless to say she stayed with me until the cake was gone! Not only do I not want my 8.5 month old having that but she has a dairy intolerance yikes!!!

Hang in there, its an uphill battle.

[veganbaby]

I get this from both sides! It makes me so mad! MIL kept saying, "She's hungry. She wants food." My milk is her food! Then she says I fed my kids early! Its always on the tip of my tounge to say, "That's why they're overweight." One time she tried to feed her iced tea! That was when Desi turned 6 months.
(I just started soilds only because she tried to steal my spagetthi and got mad that I took it away from her. I wanted to wait longer, but she didn't. I'm only giving a few bites of bananas every few days. We did give her avacados the other day and she loved them. )
My mom will do the poor baby bit :"I can't believe your mom is making you eat veggie"...thats what she calss my diet. "She needs to have a bottle so that she can practice when you're gone." She is always asking me if I give her water yet. This was when she was a few weeks old. I hate unsupportive family! I'm worried to leave Desi with both sets of family because I'm sure they'll undermind us and give her lots of refined sugar, meat and dairy.