After delivering my second child on February 13th in the hospital with an intrathecal that took away all the pain, I will never, ever have a natural childbirth again.
My first child was born at home, a waterbirth with two midwives and a doula. I was in excruciating pain the whole time, screaming, wanting to die, the midwives and doula barely able to do anything to help me other than say, "Your doing a GREAT job! Your body is designed to do this! Breathe! Relax!"
YEAH, RIGHT!!!!
I feel that I got duped by the natural childbirth community in my area. They all said I could do a homebirth and it would be fine and they would help me handle the pain.
NO WAY! The $2600 I pain them was money down the drain.
I am definitely one of those women who has horrible childbirth pains, no two ways about it. I should not have even been trying to have a natural childbirth at home for the first baby! I could have tried in the hospital and had the intrathecal available to me if needed.
I learned my lesson.
My OB was fabulous and the nurses were great.
My new doula (NOT the one at the first birth) was great - very open to whatever I needed. My doula had never witnessed an intrathecal before. She said I was the worst case she ever dealt with as far as pain. I did have some horrible birth pains for 15 minutes in the hospital right before the intrathecal was administered. I was climbing the walls.
After the intrathecal, I couldn't feel anything for pushing, but my OB guided me through. I could see the delivery in a mirror and my husband and I talked in between contractions. It was a beautiful birth with us happily watching our daughter being born. I cried that my first child's natural birth had to be so violent.
My doula was very happy for me that the intrathecal worked so well. She said she learned a lot with me and seeing how much meds helped me really altered her thinking about natural childbirth as the only way.
So, just had to post this.
I still like a lot of what is there for me in the natural family living community, but PLEASE do tell women that childbirth can hurt like hell and some women can't take it. All the positive vibes in the world can't change that for some women.
My first child was born at home, a waterbirth with two midwives and a doula. I was in excruciating pain the whole time, screaming, wanting to die, the midwives and doula barely able to do anything to help me other than say, "Your doing a GREAT job! Your body is designed to do this! Breathe! Relax!"
YEAH, RIGHT!!!!
I feel that I got duped by the natural childbirth community in my area. They all said I could do a homebirth and it would be fine and they would help me handle the pain.
NO WAY! The $2600 I pain them was money down the drain.
I am definitely one of those women who has horrible childbirth pains, no two ways about it. I should not have even been trying to have a natural childbirth at home for the first baby! I could have tried in the hospital and had the intrathecal available to me if needed.
I learned my lesson.
My OB was fabulous and the nurses were great.
My new doula (NOT the one at the first birth) was great - very open to whatever I needed. My doula had never witnessed an intrathecal before. She said I was the worst case she ever dealt with as far as pain. I did have some horrible birth pains for 15 minutes in the hospital right before the intrathecal was administered. I was climbing the walls.
After the intrathecal, I couldn't feel anything for pushing, but my OB guided me through. I could see the delivery in a mirror and my husband and I talked in between contractions. It was a beautiful birth with us happily watching our daughter being born. I cried that my first child's natural birth had to be so violent.
My doula was very happy for me that the intrathecal worked so well. She said she learned a lot with me and seeing how much meds helped me really altered her thinking about natural childbirth as the only way.
So, just had to post this.
I still like a lot of what is there for me in the natural family living community, but PLEASE do tell women that childbirth can hurt like hell and some women can't take it. All the positive vibes in the world can't change that for some women.
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I had next to none my last birth.
I hope this doesn't sound mean. It just sounds like you're trying to blame someone and that bothers me. (Unless there are reasons you didn't mention as to why you got duped, but I am left to assume there aren't) It really bothers me when people don't take responsibility for their choices.
. Unimaginable pain, I didn't think I could endure or survive it.
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