Originally Posted by mamasaurus
I'm still here...
I don't quite know what to make of this whole thing, the thread I mean. I have barely had time to read through it and figure out what happened here. It really did something I never dreamed of.
I'll try and come back later when I can take time and get through all this.
But, thanks to everyone who said supportive things to me!
Finally a moment to respond.
First I wanted to say that while the title seemed over the top and I can see how it made most people
(myself included) I want to dissent from the opinion that the topic does not belong here. I don't think this is 'odd" to put the post in this forum - birth and beyond. If it was homebirth, yeah, UC, yeah. But this place is more general.
I'm sorry Mamasaraus that your first birth was nothing like you pictured. I see anger and resentment over it and I think it came out via a blame on the entire 'natural birth community' who left you feeling like a fool, "duped" as you say. I don't blame you for feeling this, but I encourage you to work through your feelings on your first birth and IMO the natural birth community isn't entirely about pain-free doing it the only right way birth.
Re: Debating over degrees of pain and what factors play into pain. I think attendants are usually
one of a few or many factors. In my personal ancedotal experiance my first birth (attended hosp/drugs/back labor) I was never left alone by the med staff. I too wished for someone to knock me unconcious. I was so tired I blacked out between contractions and between each push. And it was so horrible on me physically that even with the knowledge my baby had been rushed off to the NICU, I could do nothing but pass out cold.
I believe, for myself, that if I had been home, maybe a good
midwife or maybe a UC, the labor would have been shorter, I of course wouldn't have had drugs, I probably would not have torn my perineum and cervix, and would have been free to move about to deal with the back labor, thus hopefully coping better.
IMO mamasaurus's MW probably left a few things to be desired.