I'm sorry, I just prattled off an answer there -- it wasn't until I reread your post when my reply loaded that I realized you don't sound happy where you are. I don't know what to suggest. I love living in the country, my dh prefers the city. We are in the city now, he knows that I pine for the country, and I think he wants to give me that, but it wouldn't be feasible now anyway. I cope by taking off for nature trails as much as possible, and doing my groceries at pick-your-owns in the summer as much as I can. :LOL How close are you to a city? Is it possible for you to get in there now and then? I think if you miss the city, you're apt to feel really isolated out there. I think dh finds it boring -- the city is so much more exciting, there is more going on, even if he's not involved in it, he can just feel the energy around him.
You might enjoy better something like the Little House on the Prairie books. Noah's Children by Sara Stein talks about the benefits of raising kids close to nature (it's not a religious book). The Have More Plan
, the family who wrote that decided to leave the city to raise their family, and it talks about the benefits. Dated, but interesting.