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Kozy Carrier: http://www.kozycarrier.com
post #162 of 507
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Originally Posted by JenInMpls
Oh, and you inevitably end up with spit-up or drool on your back. :LOL

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:LOL

I'm clearly going to need to look into this a lot more! I definitely need something that will be easier on my back and especially my shoulders. I've been going to the a chiro here who also does massage as part of the therapy - OUCH! I have some awful tight spots in my shoulders, and who knows which came first, but carrying Iain all the time doesn't help. Even the KKACP (which I ) makes my shoulders ache. So I'm really curious about the Ergo, especially, and its claims for being easier on ones' back! I told DH I was thinking about getting a carrier where I could carry Iain on my back to do housework (which is suffering!), etc., and he thought that was a great idea.

I've also been interested in ABC-styles. Mama Bear, do you have a Kozy? How do you like it?

Better get some sleep and not look at carriers all night! :LOL
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Happy Birthday Savannah!

Makynzi is going to have a concussion. She keeps pulling up on everything but isnt strong enought to really stand. She falls backwards and bangs her head hard on the hardwood floors everytime. I have tried catching her but it always happens the minute I am looking away.

DH and I had an argument last night about Makynzi sleeping in her crib. She had fallen asleep in it while playing and when we got ready to go to bed he wanted me to leave her in it. I told him there was no way I could sleep with her in it. Especially since she was sleeping with her head right against the edge. He then said he wanted the bed back to ourselves. We are fighting to get our 4 yr old to sleep in her bed. She will not go a whole night in her own bed no matter what we try. I think we are just both getting worn out on the AP with Makynzi. We have always taken an AP approach to parenting our children but we both are looking for ways to deal with Makynzi's constant crying. We both have been at the point where we just cant handle it anymore. Last night I put her in her crib in our bedroom before I went to sleep for the first time ever. She played for a while and started to fuss a bit when she got tired. I went in there and picked her up, nursed her, and laid her back down. She cried for a minute while I patted her back and talked to her and finally fell asleep. She woke several times after that and I checked on her without letting her know I was there and she soothed herself back to sleep with just a couple of soft baby whines and her paci. I have never been a CIO mom and I really worry that what I did last night was the first step to letting her CIO. I hope it wasnt. I felt pretty good about it last night but today I feel pretty ambivalent . She also woke up this morning and after I nursed her I was so tired I put her back in her crib (our bed is directly up against the side of it) to play. I must have fell back asleep because I woke up to a happy baby sitting up in her crib playing with her toys.

I dont know where all my rambling is going today. I just need some hands off time. I was so stressed before I put her in her crib last night that my upper arms literaly hurt from being so tense. I never experienced this feeling with Madyson. I am really feeling like I am being selfish but Makynzi has developed into a very difficult baby. Madyson was pretty high needs but she doesnt even compare to Makynzi. On the positive side she has been happily playing in her exersaucer while I typed this post so maybe it really will pass before too long.
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Forgot to ask, those of you who use a crib, do you have a crib bumper up? I have read many conflicting opinions on them. We have one but Makynzi pushed her head right up against the side of the crib last night and had her head on the pushed down crib bumper sort of like a pillow. So now I am rethinking it.

And now I spoke too soon! She's starting to whine and grunt at me to come get her. Better go before it turns into one of the crying episodes that I cant stop!
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HeatherB - no I don't have a Kozy, but I just recently got a Mei Tai from a local mama. I haven't used it enough to give an educated opinion - but so far I am liking it.

Mandy - ds naps/sleeps in his crib. We started co-sleeping and it worked well in the beginning, but after a few months none of us were sleeping well and out of curiousity I started putting him in his crib and now we all sleep better. I was very sad at first, but when I realized that he would sleep longer stretches, I decided to have him sleep there. We do have a bumper on his crib, though lately he's been smushing himself up against it and i've been nervous about it like you with Makynzi. Though, I wonder if I take it off, if he'll smack his head against the slats. For now I am keeping it on. I've seen mesh bumper-type things, though they are not padded.

Savannah :
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Happy bday, Savannah!!

FF, I got my sling today! It is gorgeous and fits perfectly! I already wore it to WFs and got lots of oohhhs and aaahhhs. Do you have any business cards? If so, send me some because people always ask me where I get my slings. I gotta say, I this way more than my hotsling, which I never thought could be possible. It's much more comfortable, better made, less expensive , and REVERSIBLE!!! I it. I highly recommend these, Mamas! Also, I tried the back hold. Simple, easy, comfy, and secure. Thanks sooo much, Mama!
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Mandy - I think what you did last night was a good and appropriate reaction to the situation. Clearly she can sleep well in her crib, and it's right there where you can check on her. You did NOT CIO (which, when begun, typically involves long stretches of VERY sad baby), so don't worry, mama! AP is all about figuring out what works best for YOU and YOUR baby - not what someone has defined as being optimal for everyone. FWIW, Iain slept in a bassinet next to our bed for at least part of the night, up until we moved. Now he's in our bed all night, every night - but DH isn't. We have a crib that we'll be setting up as a sidecar next to our bed (if it will fit - this would mean no moving rail on the side where the bed is). Sort of a do-it-yourself Arm's Reach, KWIM? We're really looking forward to getting that set up so that DS can sleep near us, but not between us! So, for us, and for you, it seems, finding that balance involves moving baby out of your bed - at least for part of the night. I really love snuggling on my boys, so will let them come in to bed at some point (Gabriel still does this at 3 yo, but now sleeps longer nights in his bed), and nursing in bed is just so much easier for me!

Okay, that's a lot of words to say: you're doing a great job! She was happy, and you were happy. Go for it! Of course there's no guarantee it'll work forever :LOL but do what you need to.

Crib bumpers - With DS#1, we had a bumper up when the crib was next to ours, but only on three sides (it helped fill in the gap created by butting the crib mattress up against ours). Since the crib was "open" he didn't tend to get up against a side. I guess that doesn't help much. :LOL Gabriel never would sleep in it on his own, though!

Happy birthday, Savannah!
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Stacey, you made my day! I'm so glad that you your pouch! I always get nervous making things for other people because I want them to like it as much as I do. It's funny because whenever I wear my Japanese floral pouch I always walk through oh's and ah's, it's so funny. When I was hanging out with a friend that was happening and she asked "does this always happen when you go out?" and I was like "yep." Hehe.

Thanks for such a high recommendation That really means a lot. I'm glad that the back carry was so easy for you. The way that I made the pouch was so that all the different carries would be easy and you didn't have to put it on a certain specific way and if you moved it around it wouldn't be as cozy. I love that I can hold LaRue in all different ways without having to really adjust the pouch to get the carry comfortable.

I'm still working on the business cards, I have a few more orders left before I can really focus on getting them made. When I have them done I would love to give you some, thanks

Happy Birthday Savannah! I hope you have a great day. :

Mandy -- I don't have a crib, but I thought I read somewhere that it is dangerous to have a crib bumper after a certain age, I think it might have been around 6 mo. or something. But I'm not sure. I'm sure you can find out that information with an internet search. I'm sorry that you are going through such a hard time right now. It does sound like you need some hands-off time.
post #169 of 507
Hello everyone!

Wow, that sling sounds nice! I really need to get one, the pouch is NOT working for us anymore, and I'd like something with a little more stretch, and more adjustable.
Well, so far no bites with the new tooth, and he seems to be doing well. He had his first (swallowed) solids today, peaches. I was kinda surprised, since they are pretty tart, but I guess he likes strong tastes!

So, I finally went to a LLL mtg, and all these people were like, "what is that thing your baby is in?" It was funny, since they sell them there, but I guess there were a lot of first-timers, like me. I'm just glad I'm finally getting involved around my new town. I signed up to sit at the LLL table at a baby fair later this month.

About the crib/bumper pad thing: Miles starts the night out in the crib, since he goes to bed between 8-9, and we don't want to! Then we go to bed, and usually after the first time he wakes up, I bring him into bed with us. (unless we are still up) He sleeps well in there, and his stretches range from 2-6 hrs. in there. I think we all get a better night's sleep. We aren't using the co-sleeper much anymore, he seems too big for it. We do have bumper pads on his crib (more for decoration- I made them- Curious George- and I LOVE them!) but he doesn't move AT ALL in his sleep, so he has never been near the edges of the crib at all. Funny kid, I wonder if it will change. Makes the co-sleeping nice.

Anyway, have a great day everyone, I am off to boil my stinky hemp for the millionth time.

ps- Miles pulled himself up to standing today several times. Weird, since he still won't even roll front to back, but will roll btf, and is starting to "rotate scoot"
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Mandy - as I understand it, letting your baby cry it out is abandoning them to cry by themselves in an attempt to make them "get used to" putting themselves to sleep, regardless of how hard they cry, how upset they get, etc. Gently talking and patting a tired baby to sleep while she whines a bit before falling asleep sure doesn't sound like crying it out to me. I feel for you I felt the same way about moving Tristan into his co-sleeper overnight. The first 5 months he slept next to me every single night... but when I got mastitis I needed sleep and so slept by myself in the den. Jo refuses to sleep right next to Tristan, because she is afraid she would roll onto him, so into the co-sleeper he went and guess what - he slept the same, if not better. When I returned to the bedroom he stayed in his co-sleeper and as much as I missed my snugglebum, we both slept better because we didn't keep waking each other up and I wasn't in the state of concerned half-sleep worrying about whether he was going to get a blanket on his face, etc.

I don't think AP can work if there is a situation that is causing parents and children to struggle. If you're not getting enough sleep, you're struggling... that will affect your child's attachment to you.

It was an Ergo baby birdwatching walk at the Bird Sanctuary today - Steph (remember Steph (badomama/boobalicious)?) just got an Ergo and we took the boys on a walk. They both fell asleep. Yay! And I saw a yellow-bellied sapsucker which I'd never seen before.

happy weekends,

j
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Thanks everyone for all the support once again! She napped in her crib today for about 15 mins and slept the rest of the time in my arms. I am getting ready to put her in there. She is asleep in the chair right now. We will see how it goes. She slept a lot today. I also discovered a tiny sharp edge of a tooth. I was just barely able to feel it poking out of the gum, so I think that may have to do with the recent fussiness. It is just so hard to even consider the idea of her sleeping in the crib. The only reason we have one is because MIL was convinced we wouldnt want her in bed with us now that we have 2 kids. Guess she was right. SHHH! don't tell her. LOL.

DH has been sleeping on the couch for the last month and off and on since Makynzi has been born. I think we both are just really needing to reconnect with each other. Our relationship has been suffering because he is always at work or Im always dealing with the kids. They dont seem to think Daddy and Mommy need any adult time LOL. I told him the other night I wanted just a few hours away from both kids to breathe. The lack of any personal time has really been getting to me lately. I think it is from all the stress we have been through since this year began. Here is hoping things will quiet down! We live in a different state from family except for MIL and havent really established a support system here yet. That makes it much harder. Usually when we need a break, we go to SC and visit family and friends for a weekend but we have to get through some money issues first. My mom is there and she is about the only one I would trust to handle both girls at once. MIL has been too busy with her job and I dont know if she could handle both girls at once while Makynzi is still a baby.

Well anyways, I love my girls! They are the greatest gifts! I really feel guilty for even complaining but I have to vent occasionally. These last few weeks have been rough but they will pass. She has actually started going to DH some. I really think that learning to crawl, pull up, and now a tooth in about 2 1/2 weeks probably has a lot to do with it too.
post #172 of 507
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Originally Posted by punkymonkeymom
I really feel guilty for even complaining but I have to vent occasionally. These last few weeks have been rough but they will pass. She has actually started going to DH some. I really think that learning to crawl, pull up, and now a tooth in about 2 1/2 weeks probably has a lot to do with it too.
Keeping it real is why I think MDC is SO important! Do you happen to watch Desperate Housewives at all? On like the third episode or so there was a scene where the mom with all the kids breaks down in the middle of a soccer field cause she just can't take it anymore (kids, home, husband, work, etc.) and all of her friends comfort her and tell her they have felt the same way, blah, blah. She says something to them along the lines of, "Why haven't you said this before, why aren't we "real" to each other." That scene actually really touched me and I realized that I had signed myself up for the "mommy olympics" and that I was going to kick myself off the team and let other moms off the hook.

So - I let my house be messy on playgroup day, I send my kid to school for pyjama day in the real, comfy mismatched stuff he wears every day (I had to fight the urge not to go to Target for new), I don't act like I'm shocked when he nabs a crouton off of a stranger's plate (happened tonight) and so on.

So, didn't mean to be this long, but when you share your downs with us as well as your ups, you help us when we have our rotten mama moments too. And that, mamas, is how friends really support friends! (Agreeing that dp is totally wrong and should read our minds and should let us sleep in in the morning doesn't hurt either!)
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Kinsey - is the hemp that you're having trouble with diapers? Let me know if it is, I have a few suggestions.

Stacey - Pictures! I want to see pictures of you in your new pouch!

Jen - I didn't know USA Baby carries Britaxs! I have one right across the street from me. How much did you pay for your RA? Did you and Steph both help each other with the head sacks once the boys fell asleep? That part is hard to reach!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SAVANNAH!!!!! Hope you are having a fun weekend!
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Originally Posted by sistermama
Keeping it real is why I think MDC is SO important! Do you happen to watch Desperate Housewives at all? On like the third episode or so there was a scene where the mom with all the kids breaks down in the middle of a soccer field cause she just can't take it anymore (kids, home, husband, work, etc.) and all of her friends comfort her and tell her they have felt the same way, blah, blah. She says something to them along the lines of, "Why haven't you said this before, why aren't we "real" to each other." That scene actually really touched me and I realized that I had signed myself up for the "mommy olympics" and that I was going to kick myself off the team and let other moms off the hook.

So - I let my house be messy on playgroup day, I send my kid to school for pyjama day in the real, comfy mismatched stuff he wears every day (I had to fight the urge not to go to Target for new), I don't act like I'm shocked when he nabs a crouton off of a stranger's plate (happened tonight) and so on.

So, didn't mean to be this long, but when you share your downs with us as well as your ups, you help us when we have our rotten mama moments too. And that, mamas, is how friends really support friends! (Agreeing that dp is totally wrong and should read our minds and should let us sleep in in the morning doesn't hurt either!)

Well said! : I really appreciate reading other's vents and frustrations, because I'm going through it, too, even when I don't have a chance to write it out, or even say "me too," to a post. It's encouraging to know I'm not the only one!
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Same here - I have days when I am just 'touched' out and just want to crawl under my pillow and not come out till morning. And when I am really stressed out, which is more often than not, I can be a real you-know-what to dh. It's been real hard, and he's confronted me several times saying he's concerned about our relationship and he doesn't feel as close to me. It's hard to explain to him why I am how I am or why I do what I do. DH works from home (and we're in a very small apartment), so being around each other constantly leads to getting on each other's nerves too. We're still house hunting and I feel that having a little more space will help. Hopefully, things will get better soon...
So I too can completely understand the frustrations you all have! It's nice to know we're not alone
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Christine - I hear you on the touched out! By about 8:00 in the morning (after a night with one on each side and then a morning of Jack taking a looooong time to really wake up) I am usually saying something like, "I want my own body!!! One that belongs to me!!!" Sooooo funny that my breasts used to be sexual once upon a time. If dh even came near them, I would slap his hands away!
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Originally Posted by leomom
FF, Do you have a VCR? I tivo'd Lost and can mail you a copy. You need to see it before the s. finale coming up!


LOST too! I missed the episode too becasuse I had to go out to the store to get snack for my son's preschool class, and I didn't get home until 8:45. BooHoo!!! Leomom, could I be so bold as to ask for you to mail me a copy? : I would be forever in your debt. I would gladly pay you for the tape and your time! PM me if this is something you could do. . . Thanks!
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Kristin - I booked my Albany tickets yesterday. We'll be there May 12-17. We should definitely meet up! Jack and Zoey are about the same age. What type of things does Zoey like to do? Jack is very easy going and enjoys playing with anyone. I'm so excited to meet a Sept mama!!!
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Totally touched out here too! Lilah is super fussy these days- unless she is in my arms, but even then she is bending and grabbing and stretching and not really happy. Noah has turned into hyper energy boy. He has always had a lot of energy but the past week or so he he has been even more so. He is obsessed with firetrucks and firefighters. He spends lots of time screeching like a siren and asking me where the emergency is. He is just loud and rough and jumping and demanding all the time. (Oh but I do love them so. I swear I do.) And once the kids are asleep my sex crazed dh gets offended when I don't jump at the offer to have another body on me. Argh. They totally don't get it. And I do have sympathy for him, but ugh i wish he would understand.

Sarah, how was DisneyWorld? Do you guys go often?

I don't think I told you guys but I just started a part time work from home job. It is legal document coding, and while it isn't thrilling it's not bad and it is $$ even though not a lot. I'm aiming for 15 hours/week and while that isn't a ton, it is proving somewhat challenging to fit into my days.

I am so emotional these days. Must be a hormonal shift. Noah has a heart condition and I find myself worrying about it a lot lately. I don't know if I'm just being anxious or if it is mama's intuition that something is getting worse. I think I will see if I can get him in with his cardiologist soon. He is only scheduled once a year but we are coming up on 6 mos since his last appointment and I am feeling like he needs to be checked again.

So, FF, I think I need one of your gorgeous pouches too. Will you pm me links to the fabrics you have available?

I have a bunch of carriers now but none that is really perfect. I did just order an Ergo and am hopeful about that one.

We're having an open house here on Sunday. Please let this darn house sell.

So, Lilah (besides being fussy and bossy ) is amazing these days! She is so huge, for one thing. We go to ped on Tuesday and I am anxious to get her actual stats. She is just a big chubby yum! She is definitely mobile though not to her satisfaction. She is a rolling machine and on her tummy she can pivot herself in circles very easily. She is also scootching backwards. She is trying hard to crawl but not quite getting there. She is babbling lots too but mostly when she is getting upset. The girl loves to eat, well really taste. She just wants a few bites. I feed her "solids" once or twice a day usually. Her favorite seems to be brown rice cereal with apple juice and water, and she likes it kind of thick. She's tried banana, avocado, peas, sweet potatoes, green beans (in little slices) and the insides of french fries (bad mama!) and she likes them all. Crazy baby!

Happy Birthday Savannah!!!

Mandy, You are a great mama! I agree with the other mamas that you did nothing wrong.

I think I hear babe...
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Someone asked about Britax purchases...I bought a Marathon on albee-baby last week for 169...free shipping....it was here in 4 days....
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