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post #1 of 54
Thread Starter 
Hi fellow Pregnant and Nursing and/or Tandem Nursing CLW'ers! Lately I've been communicating with a lot of pregnant and nursing or tandem nursing mamas who are actively weaning that I thought it would be nice to "talk" with some CLWing mamas who are pregnant nursing or tandem (or triandem!) nursing. So...

How is pregnant nursing / tandem nursing going for you?

What do you love about pregnant nursing / tandem nursing?

Are you experiencing any difficulties?

Do you have any amusing or touching stories to share?
post #2 of 54
Hi Amanda!

I'm in my second time of tandem nursing. Its actually a lot easier this time around Its definitely helped my middle one get used to not being the baby. I actually expected to be tridem nursing still but that ended very quickly.

Its nice to know of other moms doing it too, though. I don't know anyone irl that has done the tandem thing... let alone two times!
post #3 of 54
I'll be tandem nursing in a few days (hopefully). Nursing my DD through my pregnancy has been difficult at times, but not too terribly bad. She was 16 months when I got pregnant and still mostly breastfed, so she was in for a shock when my supply took a dive at 16 weeks. Now she mainly nurses to calm down at naptime and bedtime, and once or twice during the night. Sometimes she'll nurse first thing in the morning, but not every day. I can't remember the last time she asked to nurse during the day, but it's been a while. I have not pushed her to get to this point, and frankly, if she hadn't done it herself I probably would've. I've been so tired and cranky during this pregnancy that I haven't wanted her near me sometimes. She's not too cuddly, though, and doesn't seem to have a high need for physical contact (except while she's asleep), so she's doing just fine this way.

Having said that, I fully expect her to go back to nursing very often once the baby's born and she sees him nursing. I'm fine with that, though I'd rather she not nurse at the same time as he... I have very large breasts and even at this point I need to hold a breast for DD while she nurses. I don't have enough hands to make this work, from what I remember of nursing her as a newborn.

I am glad that she is still nursing, as I believe it will help ease the transition from being an only child to being the big sister. It'll probably be easier on me too - I won't have to work so hard to figure out meals for her for a bit, I'm sure. :LOL
post #4 of 54
Hi Moms (tandeming and preg&tandeming) Happy 2nd tri, Amanda!

I've been triandeming for a year now. My oldest will be 5 in 2 weeks. And it doesn't look like i'll be weaning anyone soon.

It does get difficult at times. I got real sick a few weeks ago. Actually it was great to nurse because i my oldest and my baby were very sick. Nursing is the best for sick kids! Both had unlimited nursing, but i wanted to make sure my healthy one had unlimited nursing so that he would not get sick. He didn't get sick and my sickies got over theirs quickly. But, i wore myself out and got sick. And it took me longer to get over it. It's hard keeping up with nursing demands when your feverish and hallucinating! When i'm real sick i can usually talk the boys into nursing me (rubbing my back) instead of being nursed themselves. That doesn't always work though.

My dd is nursing a lot now as she's cutting molars. My oldest is very amazed to see me walking around the house while carrrying baby sis and nursing her. He wants to know if he was nursed that way. I always remind my boys that they nursed as frequent if not more than their sister when they were her age. They like to hear that.

I love tandem nursing. I think my children are so well adjusted because of it. That is something so special that they share with each other. At the rate i'm going my youngest will definitely have memories of nursing with her brothers! Boy does she light up when one of her brothers nurse the other breast when she nurses.

Happy nursing!
post #5 of 54
I've been tandem nursing for 22.5 mths now and we are NO WHERE near stopping...I love that I can be there for both my kids in this way, and my dd is a very picky eater so I feel I am givign her exactly what she needs thru nursing nutritionally as well.

I do have a funny story..my son is abit of a boob hog...lol basically he wants whatever side his older sister is havign...:LOL
so a few weeks ago, he is trying to push her off the right side so he can have it, and she keeps saying no...so finally after about a minute of her not egtting of, he gets really close to her and pukcers up for a kiss, and makign a mmmmsound.....so Jaden thinks "oh how sweet he wants to kiss me" and lets go so she can kiss him...well he ducks under her and swoops in a steals her boob...the whoel time giggling....:LOL

it was very funny and the tow of them were just in fits of laughter...so while sometimes it si tough havign them both doing acrobatics while nursing...it is full of laughter and love and fun, and they have a wonderful realtionship and I think it is because they share so much togeather.
post #6 of 54
Thanks for this thread! I am tandem breastfeeding my 4 year old and my 14 month old. I finally faced the fact that Alexander is a toddler now rather than an infant so I updated the smilie in my sig.

Can I plug my web ring? http://W.webring.com/hub?ring=tandembreastfeed
post #7 of 54
I am tandem nursing my 3.5-year old and 2-month old. I don't think I'm as enamored of it as the rest of you sound, though. : I really don't enjoy it at all, but my 3-year old isn't ready to wean so I'm continuing. Fortunately he is nursing waaaaay less than when I first had the baby, so it's not too bad. I am secretly hoping that he weans soon, but it doesn't look like it will happen in the very near future.
post #8 of 54
Thread Starter 
It's GREAT hearing from all of you!

to TwinMom...it can be very difficult ... good for you for hanging in there!

Susatiner...plug away!

huntersmommy...CUTE story!!! What a smart and creative child! :LOL

kirstie...Thanks for the congrats! I triandem nursed my first three for over 18 months. I think it's great that three sibs can share in the nursing relationship! How wonderful for your older nursling to be asking questions about his nursing relationship with you in the past!

jessikate...Looking forward to the birth announcement! Congrats! Be warned about "big head syndrome" - your older nursling is going to all of a sudden look absolutely HUGE to you and it may seem a little strange nursing a child with such a huge head in the beginning! :LOL I agree that tandeming is a great way to transition to big-siblinghood!

kati: I think it's wonderful that you're tandeming a second time...and agree that it's easier the second time around! I'm fortunate to know 5 or 6 (maybe more, I haven't counted!) mamas who are tandem nursing or have in the past. I've met two moms IRL who triandem nursed. See below for my tandem/triandem/tandem/triandem nursing story!

I just realized I didn't post anything about myself, so here goes! I nursed Alex through Zachary's pregnancy and then tandem nursed them. They then tandem nursed through Haley's pregnancy and triandem nursed for over 18 months. My oldest self-weaned on his fifth birthday. I'm now tandem nursing Zachary and Haley and am 16.5 weeks pregnant. Both my nurslings plan to continue nursing until and after baby is born, so I'll most likely be triandem nursing for a second time. When baby is born, my kids will be almost 7, 5 and 3.

I have to go have some homemade pizza now...yummy! I'll post more later!
post #9 of 54
Originally Posted by mom2threenurslings
jessikate...Looking forward to the birth announcement! Congrats! Be warned about "big head syndrome" - your older nursling is going to all of a sudden look absolutely HUGE to you and it may seem a little strange nursing a child with such a huge head in the beginning! :LOL I agree that tandeming is a great way to transition to big-siblinghood!


OMG that is so true...My dd still looked so little to me before HUnter was born, and then the first time she nursed after his birth she suddenly seemed 3 times the size she had just hours before....and WOW she had a HUGE head:LOL
post #10 of 54
Funny... I don't remember thinking Elisabeth's head looked big
post #11 of 54
thanks Amanda for the "big head syndrome" reminder. :LOL

i remember thinking "wow, and his head grow 3 sizes that day" (thinking of the "grinch who stole christmas" here). then you forget and it happens again. :LOL
post #12 of 54
i was so glad to find this thread! i am nursing 19 mo-old twins who want "boo" probably 4-5 times a day. i love tandem nursing and am looking forward to nursing three although i'm sure it will be a new experience altogether!

i am SO nervous about my supply dropping... to the mamas this has happened to, what did you do? did you try to explain? did you substitute a cup of water or something before bed and let them comfort nurse? i think not having mama milk would devastate my little ones and i've been planning to CLW so i really want to do whatever i can to support them nursing for as long as they need...

the other day just jonah was nursing and i wasn't letting down at all and he pulled off and pointed to my boob and said, "mama? boo? broken!" so i'm not sure who it would be harder on if i lose my milk for a while.. them or me!
post #13 of 54
Hi! I was also struck with how large my dd looked after bringing my ds home! :LOL

I'm currently tandeming my 2-year-old and my 5-month-old. I had absolutely no problems breastfeeding while I was pregnant, and I feel really lucky that way. I really like that I'm still nursing both kids. Occasionally I feel "nursed out," and frustrated at my dd for wanting to nurse so often. Some days (okay, many days!), my dd wants to nurse MORE than the little guy!

All in all, though, I'm really happy that I'm tandem nursing. There is absolutely no other way that I'd do things.
post #14 of 54
My milk never went dry when I was pregnant with Alexander. I drank lots of water and ate whenever I got hungry and I drank an herbal tea every day called Tea For Two, which safely promotes lactation during pregnancy.
post #15 of 54
my 3rd preg i nursed 2 thru. that was definitley my roughest pregnancy (nursed thru 2nd preg easily). i did run out of milk. once i got past the 1st tri...the tired, vomiting trimester, i felt much better. nursing did not seem to hurt so much as i was able to eat and stay hydrated.
but, i also learned more coping techniques. i'd nurse more sitting up, or i'd drink a lot of water before bed and when i awoke at night because water in the morning before noon in all my pregnancy's (the entire time) made me vomit. morning nursing's seem to hurt because i couldn't drink water in the morning, but if i drank before bed, etc then the morning nursing's did not hurt.
i also talked to my boys and explained what was going on. they hung in there. they let me know when my colostrum came in.
i think in the 3rd preg not getting the rest like i could in the other pregnancy's made it a little harder on my body. at the time i was chasing after a 2 yo and a 3 yo. though, i learned just how independent they really were!
hopefully your twins are still napping everyday! you might want to catch a nap with them if they are. nursing 3 is definitely a new experience. it hones our juggling skills
post #16 of 54

How is pregnant nursing / tandem nursing going for you?[/QUOTE/
Pregnant nursing wasn't fun. But it was preferable to NOT nursing. I knew my nurslings still needed to nurse and I enjoyed having the ability to soothe them that way. I know my breastmilk is the healthiest thing for them and I want to give it to them as long as they needed it. I just get so irritated and have really annoying nipple sensitivities. But if I can calm down and the nursling is relaxed, all is well. It's that fidgety stuff that really got to me. Lucky for me, we worked out a nursing relationship that only involved short nursing sessions.

Tandem nursing is going well. It's easier this time than it was the first time because the age gap is greater. I also don't nurse them at the same time because I prefer not to. It was sweet seeing them interact while nursing and hold hands and all that, but the sensations were too much and I found myself on the verge of flipping out if there was anything else going on (like a mosquito buzzing, noise that kept them from nursing to sleep, the phone ringing, etc.).
It's also easier than tandem nursing while pregnant.

My son sometimes asks to nurse and it's really cute how excited he gets when I let him do it. I let him do it any time he asks. But he has forgotten how to latch. I try to teach him but I don't think he really wants to. I squirt some milk into his mouth and he goes on his merry way.

Nadia quietly joins me in bed in the morning for a nurse and then we all sleep a few more hours. She has stopped using baby terms for nursing. She and Skanda used to call it nanas. Now she comes up to me and announces "Mommy, I wanna nurse sometimes" and helps me undo my bra. After about 5 minutes, I start to feel twitchy like a momma cat and I ask her to finish up. I count out loud and she counts with me and stops at "10 ALL DONE". I let her nurse almost every time she asks but sometimes I ask her to wait a bit because I'm nursing the baby or in the middle of something. She proudly tells me that she's a patient little girl and can wait her turn. She also likes to hold the breast for the baby to get a good latch.

What do you love about pregnant nursing / tandem nursing?
I love that my nurslings all feel included. I remember tandem nursing with my sister and I'm glad I can do that for my children. With my first two, I loved being able to nurse them to sleep at the same time and fall asleep myself so we could all nap together. I love how the older ones think they are teaching the younger ones how to nurse

It's fun for the nursling to poke at the baby in the belly and have them play. I suspect that nursing while pregnant kept my morning sickness from getting as bad as it was with my first. I suspect that nursing while pregnant helped my labors go smoother and be shorter. Although I also suspect that nursing while pregnant caused me to go past dates even more than I might have gone if I hadn't been nursing. (Not that it's a bad thing).

Are you experiencing any difficulties?
I just get really irritated sometimes with all the demands on my physical space and would like to hold a kid without having my breasts pawed. But I don't think that would change much if I weren't nursing, necessarily. I have learned how to cope by distracting myself. I read on the computer or watch TV to distract me. I've noticed it's generally the older one that causes me to feel irritated. Sometimes their latch is lazy and I can feel their teeth. I try to not show my irritation in my tone of voice and that can be a challenge for me. I do relatch them.
I've also developed a way of counting that distracts me and makes me feel like there's an end in sight and I know I won't be irritated forever.

Do you have any amusing or touching stories to share?
Not specifically. But it sure was adorable when Nadia was born and Skanda climbed in bed after we got settled and stuck a boob in her mouth and then got himself the other one. He was so excited to share with her
I also love how Nadia jumps up when the baby cries and announces "Mei Mei wants to nurse, Mommy. Go get her and nurse her!"
post #17 of 54
Great thread!!

I don't post here often but saw this one and had to jump in.

I'm 36 weeks pregnant and nursing my 19 and half month old. I believe CLweaning so weaning him never even crossed my mind. Anyways Nick is no where ready to wean... heck he has barely slowed down even though I'm out of milk and have been for months

How is pregnant nursing / tandem nursing going for you?

Tiring, but overall pretty good.

What do you love about pregnant nursing / tandem nursing?

I really enjoy nursing him and always have. It just gives us a chance to reconnect.

Are you experiencing any difficulties?

Not so much. He is still waking a lot and I'm exhausted so that makes it tough.

Do you have any amusing or touching stories to share?
Two midwife appts ago, I laid on the floor for them listen to belly baby's heart beat, well my son ran up, pulled up my shirt and started nursing. It was an amazing moment when the heartbeat came through the doppler, I just felt so connected to both babies it was pretty incredible.
post #18 of 54
My ds is 3 1/2 now, and dd is 9 months. Ds only nurses about once a week now, usually if he's upset or tired. "Mommy, you need to nurse me. You need to cheer me up!"

When dd was a newborn, ds nursed almost as much as she did. My supply came in full force! I had low supply issues with ds, so this was a welcomed benefit.

I was glad that ds nursed through that transition. I think it made it easier. For our bedtime routine, I would nurse ds and lie down with him. If dd was already asleep, everything was easy. Usually, dh would have to take dd downstairs. She would have to wait about 20 minutes for her nursies.

I'm very glad that I nursed ds through my pregnancy, even though dry nursing just hurts! My milk disappeared at about 17 weeks.

There were times when I just didn't feel like nursing them both at the same time. Then ds would get upset, "No Mom! You need to nurse BOTH kids!!" Now ds tells me, "No Mom! She doesn't want to nurse! I want to play with her!"
post #19 of 54
kavamamakava, that is so cool that you tandem nursed and remember it. What was it like?

That is probably one of my main goals of tandeming. I want to give every chance for my children to bond as close as possible with their sibling. I would think that's every parents goal, it just seems like tandem is a leg up in that direction. Or am i romantizing this bond?
My boys are very competetive. To the point that i can't see one weaning without the other. But, they are very close and though they might throw each other to the ground one minute, they'll hug the next. They fiercely protect one another. I hope that nursing is a way to keep their relationship healthy. I think it teaches me how to handle that rivalry.
Anyone else understand what i'm talking about? Agree or have a different experience?
post #20 of 54
So is that what it's like to have two boys? :LOL
I remember nursing because my sister was so against me doing it. haha. My mother would let me help myself to a little while she was nursing my sister. I'm 2 1/2 yrs older. I remember one time when I was close to 4 and I nursed and then I was standing in the doorway talking and watching my mom nurse my sister. My sister got annoyed and got up and closed the door. I just stood there and let her close the door on me. And it hit my toe nails funny and they ended up falling off.
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