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post #1 of 89
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I'm trying to figure out how we'll sleep when the baby arrives in June. Please answer these questions:

1. Why do you cosleep?

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

Thanks!!!!
post #2 of 89
I like surveys.. here goes.

1. Why do you cosleep?
We cosleep because:
-this is how dh and I bonded even before our marriage
-it's easy and convenient
-no worries because baby is right next to you
-it's wonderful to wake up with baby

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
In the beginning, before ds was born, I used to say, oh, just one year. Now dh and I both love sleeping with ds, so.. we're playing it by ear. We'll be watching for cues and we're moving soon, so after we move we plan to get ds used to napping in his own room and on his bed. Since we're planning on having another in a year or two, we'll be co-sleeping for at least three more years. I think by 6 years old a child should be able to comfortably sleep in his/her own bed.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
Just one. He's 19 months old.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
We have a king size bed. I'm 5'5" and 120 lbs. (and skinny according to many people) and dh is 6'1" and 215 lbs. He's a big guy with long arms and legs, but not in the overweight sense.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
We had one. Not anymore (and she used to sleep right behind our bedroom door)

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
We're both bonded with ds more and love it, but we do miss cuddling. We also like the fact that sex (can I write this?) is more spontaneous, quick (I like fast!) and in different locations.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
Not at all.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
We sleep so well.. wonderful. We don't have to worry about ds, checking up on him in another room or breathlessly listening to a monitor.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
No, just us. We keep ds in the middle most of the night and our bed is against the wall.

Glad to help,
post #3 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep? I get more sleep(I don't have to wake up, get out of bed to nurse ds, then go back to bed)Ds sleeps longer I think because he knows I am right there, and if he stirs, I'm right there so he doesn't wake up too much and then me have to put him back to sleep, I love the closeness.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? I'm not too sure. With ds1 and dd, we coslept for about 3mths each. Now, I kinda wish I had done it longer. Ds2 is currently 4mths and still in bed with us. No plans anytime soon to change that. Maybe has somthing to do with him being our last? I don't know. Maybe "when you know better, you do better"? I don't know, I just love how it is now.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? myself, ds(4mths) and dh

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? it's a fullsize mattress and boxspring, on the floor(no legs) im 5'2" 105lbs, dh is 5'8" 155lbs.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? We have a squirrely cat, it goes in and out, sometime he curls up next to my side, or he wants to curl up next to my head, or ontop of ds(I usually bat him away when he tries that though-the cat, not ds..lol)or he is at the bottom of our bed where he can attack feet.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? no changes really.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? no, unless you count having feet attacked by the squirrely cat. lol

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? pretty good, considering we bf and I am DS' pacifier too, but I remember with our other 2, having to get up, feed dc, put them back tp sleep(because they woke up while waiting for me to get out of bed and get to them even if they were right next to the bed)then I had to go back to bed and back to sleep. Definitely more sleep now!

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?I have a pillow between myself and dh, I use it for either an arm rest since sometimes ds sleeps on my chest, and I have a towel folded on the otherside(next to the edge of the bed) another armrest, and a just in case barrier. I usually sleep with my arm around ds since we usually fall asleep sidelying nursing.


I hope this helps. I have a tendency to ramble, sorry
post #4 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep? We co-sleep because it's convenient and we enjoy it.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? We don't have a set age at this point. DD is 28 months now.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? Just me, DH and DD 28 months.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? Queen size bed. I'm 5'3" & about 140lbs, DH is 6' and about 190lbs

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? We have a cat who sleeps in the other parts of the house, those has been known to sneak into our bedroom and sleep with us every once in awhile.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? We've bonded with dd by sleeping like a family. Our sex life hasn't been hurt at all, that's what we have a guest bedroom for.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? No

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? Yes. We're not getting up & checking on dd. Plus, I always get a leisurely wake-up by having dd in the bed with me.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? No
post #5 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?

I sleep better, DS sleeps better. Well, I’ve never tried the alternative but I can’t imagine him sleeping better alone in a crib! Nursing convenience. I’ve always felt safe having him so close. I enjoy the bond that we have from co-sleeping. I love the time we spend together playing and chatting before bed, very relaxing. I love waking up to his sweetness i could go on and on


2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

I plan to co-sleep until DS is ready to sleep alone. Could be tommorrow could be several years. I don’t have any set age on what I think is too old. As long as everyone is happy then there is no problem.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

Just DS and I. He is 3. DP works nights.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?

Queen. Plenty of room for us. I am 5'3 with a few extra pounds.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

1 cat, wherever she pleases though not usually with us.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

DP works nights and sleeps in a separate bed so not to disturb us. Co sleeping has really had no effect on us.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

I've been kicked/slapped/poked in the face a few times, DS has never been hurt.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

Honestly, I have never missed a night’s sleep since DS was born. Not sure if it is co-sleeping, his personality, or a mix of both. I always get a great night’s sleep, so does he.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

Nope. never have either.
post #6 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
I started because DS would not tolerate being put down to sleep (and would immediately wake up if asleep and laid down). I don't think it would be any different now, but I haven't tried in weeks, in part because I like having him in bed with us.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
I have no idea. I'm still playing it by ear. I'd like to say 2 or 3 years old, but I don't know how hard it would be to transition at that point.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
Just me, DF and DS (3 mos)

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
We have a king-size mattress in a relatively low (but still raised) platform frame. I'm still debating if I should put the mattress on the floor. I am 5'6"/190 lbs; DF is 5'8"/200 lbs.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
I have a cat that usually sleeps on the bed with us. My dog sleeps on the floor or in a crate.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
It isn't going very well because he'd like to have sex in the bed (w/baby there) and I don't like the idea. DS doesn't nap well on his own, so there is seldom any opportunity for me to get away. Everyone says that will get better though...

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
No.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
DF sleeps like he always did. I wake up every 2-6 hours (usually three) to nurse, but soon go back to sleep. I wouldn't call it a great night's sleep, but it certainly wouldn't be better if DS were in a crib. I'd be up all night!

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
No.
post #7 of 89

1. Why do you cosleep?
We like sleeping with our baby. She slept in a Snuggle Nest between us in our bed or in a bassinet for a while when she was really little because I wasn't comfortable with co-sleeping due to DH's sleep apnea. (Now it's treated.) But after she outgrew the bassinet in our room, I wasn't ready to have her in a crib. In fact, I gave it away because we ended up never using it.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? Our DD will be 2 in June, and we are just now starting to put her in her own little toddler bed in her own room next to ours. But she usually comes into our bed after she wakes to nurse around midnight or 2 a.m. We still like sleeping with her because she's very cuddly and we just like being close to her. But she is also a bedhog and I find that she and I are waking each other up too much. Plus I sometimes end up sleeping in weird positions to accomodate her using up my share of the bed.

Last night we co-slept from the start. Night before, she went to sleep with a backrub in her own bed after nursing. She's showing more independence now so we just go with the flow. We're in no hurry to move her out.

At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
I think it depends upon the child's and the parents' situation.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? Just me and DH and DD, age 22 months (she's really big for her age though).

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? We have a king sized bed which is on a box spring with no frame, so it's low to the ground. My DH is pretty big and I am 5'6 and a little bit heavy.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? Pets - two dogs - used to sleep with us until we got pregnant. Now they are not allowed in the bedroom.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? I don't think so. Just having a baby in general has changed our relationship. But I don't think co-sleeping has had any negative effects. If anything, we get some nice family time that way. (I'd rather have sex on the couch anyway - I think that's where DD was conceived! :LOL )

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? No. Unless you count my back getting sore from nursing twisted and falling asleep, but I've corrected my side-nursing posture.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? I don't. DH, sometimes. He doesn't really get disturbed by DD in bed. He's aware of her but she mostly is mommy's girl when it's nighttime. I get edged out of bed or pushed up against the rail sometimes. But mostly I don't get sleep because 1. I am an insomniac & 2. DD still nurses often at night. But one reason we started co-sleeping in the first place was because I was up to nurse then baby'd go back to sleep, but I'd be awake from sitting and nursing. I definitely get more sleep co-sleeping and nursing than getting up to nurse and trying to go back to sleep. It took me a long time (6 months) to master side-lying nursing with DD, but I can fall asleep with her latched on.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
We used the crib as a makeshift co-sleeper for a while but DD didn't like it after being used to sleeping right up against me for so long. We've always used rails on one side and had the other side up against the wall. Now the bed's not against the wall, but DD sleeps either between me and DH (or a pillow if he's not in bed yet) or between me and the rail. I would try a real co-sleeper if we had another baby, but the room does get pretty crowded with the bed extensions. As for rails, if you use the traditional type, be sure to check for safety. (Roll up towel to make sure baby can't roll in between rail and mattress. See www.askdrsears.com) Or get one of the newer ones that clamps OVER the mattress rather than next to it. I really like this one because it's much more secure, there is no space for the baby to roll under it or between anything, plus I can put the rail down if I want to without taking the entire thing out from under the mattress.

Great questions! Best wishes for you and your June baby!
post #8 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
We all get better sleep since no one has to get out of bed when DS wakes. We enjoy having him with us. We feel safer than we would if he were in another room (lower risk of SIDS, we are with him in case of fire or other emergency, etc).

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
We plan to cosleep at least until DS is sleeping through the night. I don't have a particular age in mind at which I want him to transition. I guess I would prefer for him to be on a separate mattress (though still in the same room is fine) before we have another baby which we are hoping will happen when DS is 3-4 yo.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
Me, DH, DS (12 months), and DDog

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
We have a queen sized bed. DH and I are both small (140 lbs and 115 lbs). The dog is on the small side (16 lbs) but he sleeps big! :LOL We also have a twin mattress next to the queen, but about 12 inches lower. It will be DS's first step towards independent sleep when he is ready and is a bailout spot for DH or I if we get too crowded.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
Our dog is in bed with us, the 2 cats come and go as they please but usually don't spend much time in our bed.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
I don't think it has. I get extra warm fuzzies when I see him snuggled in bed with DS and we have to plan ahead a few minutes when we want alone time, but there's no major change.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
No.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
Yes. I wouldn't mind less night nursing, but it's not too disruptive and certainly less so than if I had to get up.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
Not really. We moved our mattress to the floor when DS got mobile and we have the sidecar mattress as I mentioned before -- but it doesn't get much use.
post #9 of 89
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1. Why do you cosleep?
It's easier on me, I believe its better for the baby, it eases my piece of mind. I couldn't imagine keeping my baby in another room - I woke up so many times to check on her and loved that she was just laying right next to me.

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2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
I didn't have a set plan in mind, as I don't think there is a set age. Really it depends on the child - I think all children will demand their own space at some point and will want to move out on their own. That said, we set up a room for DD at 18 months and she started going to sleep there and now (at 2yrs) she comes into our room maybe half the time, the other half she sleeps entirely in her room.

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3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
DH (31), me (28) and DD (2) half the time. Soon there will be a newborn.

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4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
We have a King and a Twin side by side, DD sleeps on the twin and DH & I on the King. We all slept on the King just fine before, but I wanted DD to be seperated from the baby when he comes, so we put the twin down for her to sleep so I can have the baby either between DH & I or between myself and hte wall. (DD is on the other side of DH on the twin). We are pretty average sized.

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5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
We have 4 cats, all of whom have slept with us in the past since DD was born. Now, only 2 do since 1 is disabled and can't jump the baby gate at the end of the hall and the other has been relagated to the garage for beating up on the other cats. It has never been an issue.

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6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
It's hard to tell if it has done anything outside of the changes we've had to make as parents. I will say that it probably brings us closer as a family because there is nothing like all snuggling together in bed.

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7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
No, unless of course you mean when DD (now 2) decides in the early AM to use Daddy as a trampoline.

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8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
This is a hard one - yes now we do, we have at various times throughout our parenting, but at others we didn't. I think however the emphasis should not be on getting a good nights sleep but on the child. We got a BETTER nights sleep because we were cosleeping than if we had to get up constnatly to attend her needs. When she was little I just rolled over and nursed her and hardly woke up - DH hardly woke up at all. BTW, she slept through the night from 2 weeks to 3 months, so don't think cosleeping means your baby can't sleep through.

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9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
Yes, we used a contoured changing pad. As a baby, DD slept on the contoured changing pad between us (basically like the snuggle nest you can buy). I loved this and plan to do it again with DS. We always either slept on a mattress on the floor or mattress & boxspring on the floor, never used any rails, though we've recofigured our bed into a variety of positions over the 2 years to suit our needs at the time. Things like putting our Queen (at the time) on its boxspring next to a twin on the floor and sandwiching the twin between the wall & the queen, making a multilevel bed. DH & I slept on the queen and DD on the twin, and I moved up and down to nurse her. For me at the time and at that time in her development needed more space while sleeping and this allowed me that without having to move her into something else or into another room.
post #10 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
Because it's easier. No getting up when Willow was small to nurse, don't have to wake up all the way...just...simplicity.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
Haven't thought about. I guess we'll co-sleep until Willow doesn't want to anymore... I don't really know how to answer the second question...mainly because it differs for each family. What works for some may not work for others. Right now Willow in our bed works...I guess we'll stop when it doesn't work anymore....although I don't see that happening any time soon.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
There are 3 of us: Ken - 35 (in Oct.), Jenn - 27 (this month) and Willow - 2 (In July)

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
Our bed is a king size... Ken and I could both stand to lose some weight.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
We have 3 cats and a dog. They have roam of the rest of the house at night.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
I think, and I think Ken would agree, that it's better. We're closer when we can snuggle and take a moment to enjoy the simple things.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
Only when Willow kicks me in the face...but no.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
Ken can sleep through anything. Most nights I sleep really well....when Willow is teething or sick, of course, I don't sleep much. But we can catch naps during the day.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails
Nope. Our bed is on the floor...Willow can climb in and out now...it works.

Great survey!! Thanks!
post #11 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
I realised early on with my first child that if I kept having to get up to feed him I was going to die from the lack of sleep (and he was only in the bassinette!!!) Pluss, it was just impossible for me to put him away from me. I felt much safer with him close where I could really hear him & reach out and touch him at any time. With DS#2 we never gave it any thought - we love cosleeping!!!!!!

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
DS #1 CS till maybe 3 1/2. At that time we had a queen bed & were getting crowded. I put his bed beside ours where he slept till maybe 5 when he got a cool new loft bed in his room & he was in it. He still sleeps with me & the baby when dad's gone, and lots of times he'll ask to watch a movie in the bed with us. It was an easy transition. I don't think there is an age the child should be in their bed. If it becomes a problem space wise, I reccomend doing something like what I did. That way there is no real forced seperation, yet they start to have their own space.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
Mom, 27 Dad 39 (haha - I know that's not what you were asking) & baby Luke 5 months

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
Mom is 5'7" 150lbs Dad is 6'3" 250 I guess??? Not thin or fat, bit of a belly. Baby Luke is a giant at 20lbs and we just got a King bed a few weeks ago & it's HEAVEN, although we were ok in the queen.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
Jack Russell sleeps on the couch or guest bed. He's not allowed on the new bed as I have allergies & didn't want to ruin the new mattress.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
Are you asking if co-sleeping makes "relations" difficult? That is a really common concern if so. There's lots or places other than your bed you can try out (haha - if you've been together a while that might be fun again) although we're a boaring old married coupple & stick to the guest bed. I have the crib sidecar to the new bed for those :special" occasions too. But usually it's easier to move us than the baby. If that's NOT what you meant, sorry for the TMI & it hasn't changed anything. I do love waking up all togethar & also seeing dad & baby snuggled up together

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
nope. Dr Sears website (askdrsears.com i think) has a good article on safe cosleeping. It's easy & requires no "special" equipment

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
Oh yea. Just wait till you have your little one. Nothing drives this point home like trying to actually "use" the nursery like you're "suposed to" hahaha

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
I have one side of the crib off, and the crib pushed up next to the bed. This is helpfull as the baby gets bigger, but I don't use it much now. I put the baby in the middle, so no rails. (Unless you count me & dad)


Once I realised I could nurse laying down , I don't think the beby ever left the bed - it was a matter of convenience for me. I didn't realise there were many other prooven benefits till MUCH later (like when my son was 3!!!)
post #12 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
We enjoy being together as a family. My son especially needs the security of knowing that we are close at night, and I love that he never wakes up scared.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
Until my son is ready to sleep in his own bed. I don't think there is an age where children should be in their bed. Every child is different.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
We only have one child. He is 2 and 10 months.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
Full size bed, average size husband, "full" size me.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
Our bassett hound starts off in bed with us and usually gets crowded out and moves to the floor sometime during the night.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
Cosleeping hasn't changed our relationship.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
My son rolled off of the bed twice when he was around ten months old. The box spring and mattress were on the floor, so it was about a 10-12 inch fall. Each time I was able to catch him mid-fall because I was aware of him even though I was sleeping. He usually slept between my husband and I to prevent this, but these two times I had fallen back asleep nursing with him on the outside of the bed.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
Yes, much better than before we started co-sleeping. My son was always in the room with us, but at eleven months, he was waking up every hour and wanting to be held, so I brought him into our bed, and that's pretty much when he started sleeping through the night.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
No.

Carrie
post #13 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep? I was getting no sleep waking and checking my newborn every 5 minutes, no kidding! Besides bfdg was much easier.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? My 4,5 yr old just moved out on her own last month, my 6.5 yr old moved out at 5.5 yrs. We were exclusive full time co-sleeping family w/ no cribs ever.
At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? I let them decide & they did, they are welcomed back anytime.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? none but #3 is coming in Sept 05!

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? DH is 6', 160lbs, i am 5'4", was 130 b4 pregnant, we have a king, but we did 4 in the bed in a queen.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? mine used to sleep w me b4 kids got moved out when i was pregnant, now dd is allergic so they live in a lovely custom space in our finished basement. They are 3.5 & 6 lb yorkies.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? Honestly, it has, it feels weird to sleep beside him w/o kids in the bed, but i got over that quick & now we are expecting an unplanned #3

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? dd #2 fell out on dh's watch at 8 months, mattress got put on the floor that day, she was not hurt.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? yes!

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? no

Hope that helps! Let me add that my dds have no nightmares, no bed wetting, no security issues, do not need to suck thumbs for comfort, no loveys to go to sleep. They come to our bed for a book at night than go off and put themselves to bed and go to sleep, no bedtime fussing in this house! I thank the family bed for this!
post #14 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep? never thought of using a crib or other bed for my infants/toddlers.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? I co-slept my boys til they self weaned from nursing. I had believed all my DC would be in their own bed by weaning, not the case with 2.5yr old. I feel comfortable with her still in my bed.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? two DC... 2.5 and 4 mo

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? We have a king. DH is medium build and I am small build.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? yes, one cat

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? can not at this time answer that question in all honesty.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? not anyone getting hurt, but one of my DS did one time (6-8mo) tried to back off the bed and got stuck between the bed and the siderail we used. It was actually kinda commical. :LOL

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? yes

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? yes, I used a siderail during co-sleeping once my DC were in motion.

hope any of that helps ya, I think co-sleeping is the best. I was just having a conversation with two friends night before last. They BOTH have toddlers that crawl in bed with them EVERY night. I asked them why dont they just let them go to bed with them in the first place :LOL
post #15 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?It just felt right from the beginning - I don't think I ever thought DS would be in a crib.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? DS still BF at night; until that stops he will be in the bed with us. I slept with my mom until I was 7.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?Two adults and one child - DS is 2 1/2.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? King, but we started off in a queen until DS was about 16 months. We are small people.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?No pets.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?I think having a child changed our relationship. Cosleeping has made our relationship with our DS stronger. We do have to be more creative about when and where we have sex.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? No.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? Yes, but I think that depends on what you consider a good nights sleep. DS has never slept thru the night, but I feel well rested most mornings and if I need to I take a nap with him in the afternoon.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? We used a cosleeper with DS until he was 9 months old, but he always ended up in the bed with us. The cosleeper did give us a little more space, I enjoyed having it.

Once I was able to nurse lying down (by week 3 or 4), my feet never touched the floor and I felt much more rested in the mornings.
post #16 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?

because it feels right.
i wouldn't want my babies/children far from me in the night.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

until they ask for thier own bed

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

myself, my husband, daughter-29 mos, daughter-12 mos.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?

double futon. we are average, dh is tall.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

no pets

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

part of the positive changes of parenting.. it is really special to snuggle now and we relish it..

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

absolutely not

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

yes

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

nope..
post #17 of 89
1. Orginally because I am too lazy to get out of bed. Now because I am too lazy, we don't own a crib, and I like to snuggle with DS.
2. As long as DC are not kicking and failing in their sleep. However, I am willing to make extra space close to the bed as long as they need it.
3. Me, DH, and DS
4. King sized bed. DH is 6' and over 250lb. I am ave 5'6" and a little overweight. We plan to have room for a #2 eventually.
5. The dog keeps trying to sneak up on the bed but she sleeps like a log on the cover and i get stuck. We kicked the cats out of the room because we got a new kitten and she liked playing in the middle of the night.
6. No change due to co-sleeping. We both lost sex drive after the baby but it had nothing to do with co-sleeping.
7. No one has ever been injured.
8. About 2x week because DS is a terrible sleeper. I know there are good sleepers out there but DS is not one of them.
9. We used a bassinet for naps till about 5 months but nothing else except a monitor because we are in the basement frequently.
post #18 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
Not cosleeping doesn't seem natural to me. Also my ds sleeps more soundly with me next to him and in the very beginning I would have slept in the bathtub with him if it meant that I got some rest! Now that we've co slept for almost 2 years - I think some serious bonding happens when you sleep together. I honestly can't imagine not having my little guy right there. My dh wasn't too sure about in the beginning and now he wouldn't do it any other way.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
I plan on letting ds sleep in our bed as long as he needs to. My son turns 2 in July. We are planning on bringing a toddler bed into our bedroom and offering the option of sleeping in his own bed. If he doesn't want to then that's fine.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
Just my dh and I - both in our late 30's and my ds who is 20 mos old.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
We have a king sized bed. We need to! I'm a size 1x and dh is also and XL. our ds, however, is a little peanut!

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
Our dogs sleep right next to our bed on their own mats. They used to sleep with us whenever they wanted but they are big dogs and we all can't fit now.


6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
It hasn't changed our relationship. However, sex isn't as spontaneous as it once was.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
Never.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
It took me a while to get used to having ds there. Now that he's bigger I sleep great. He doesn't have the need to be under my armpit all night. He still likes to sleep right up against me, but I can push him over a bit to stretch out now. When he was a baby it was a little harder. BUT - because I could nurse him so easily at night I think I slept better than bf'ing moms who put their babes in a crib. I would wake up when he nursed but I would go right back to sleep. Now he doesn't even nurse that much. maybe 2 times. which is no big deal.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
I have a side rail on my side of the bed. I can't sleep soundly if I don't have one because I'm worried ds will roll off. It's a bit of a pain to get out of bed in the middle of the night but I feel better having it there.
post #19 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?

Originally to make nighttime breast feeding easier, then it was because I couldn't bear to be away from DD for that long, it's so much easier to wake up and just roll over and check for breathing or plant little kisses on their cheek if they are right there........I sleep better and she sleeps better when we sleep together

2. How long do you plan to cosleep?

untill she wants to stay in her own bed

At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

when she feeld ready

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

Three: me, DH and DD 16mo. Though some nights H goes and sleeps in the guest room if it's a rough night and he has to work the next day or if between his snoring and her nursing I'm getting NO sleep, I'll banish him for a night

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?

Queen........190 and 140

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

no pets

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

no big change for us, though he'll pout if we spend too many nights not in the same bed. He doesn't like sleeping in the guest room but we agree it's for the best sometimes

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

Once DH rolled over on DD the first week but she wasn't hurt. He was jet lagged from flying half way around the world to get home after dd arrived a month early. I caught it immediately and I stopped putting her between us and just put her on the other side of me or in the cosleeper. DH can evidently sleep through anything but now he's figured out he can't have the whole bed like he use to so after she became mobile I went back to putting her between us and we've had no more problems.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

I think better than if we tried to keep her in a crib. I know we did better then our crib friends in the first few months. Now I'd say it's the night nursing and not the co sleeping that deprives me...........and DH's snoring but that's nothing to do with the baby

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

We used the Arm's Reach cosleeper untill she could crawl out of it (9mo). Now we put her to sleep in her crib for the first part of the night since she goes to bed 4 hours before we do, but when she wakes up between 2 and 4 I bring her back to bed with me, we nurse and snuggle back to sleep until 7 ( 8 if I'm lucky). So at this point she spends about half the night in her crib and half with us. She sleeps in the crook of my arm. She doesn't move much so if she gets restless I wake up and make sure we are all in safe places. I'm comfortable with her sleeping between us now so we don't use rails..

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post #20 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?

Because I can tell my baby loves it and it is how we all get the most sleep. And I love that morning cuddle!

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

We will co-sleep until she moves herself out. I don't think there is a specific age at which a child "should" be in his/her own bed.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

Just me, DH and DD. She is almost 11 months.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
We have a king size and I am super tiny. DH is average/tall.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

Our pets have never slept in our bed. They sleep on the floor nearby. Well, sometimes the cat jumps in our bed, but I've always pushed him out if I notice. He's not a good groomer. Yick!

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

I can honestly say it hasn't.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
Nope

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

Absolutely!

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

We have siderails on one side.
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