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post #41 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
It made it easier to nurse at night when DS was tiny, and then we just kept doing it. He never got to like the crib much and seemed to like it less and less as he got older, util eventually he wouldn't even nap there. We also just really enjoy having him close to us all night.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep?
No real plan...he is 18 months now and I guess if we'd thought about it a year ago we wouldn't have expected he'd still be sleeping with us. But we still like it and everyone's happy so why change?

At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
I have no idea...I would say it really depends on the individual family.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? Me, DH, and DS (18 months).

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
King-size bed, and DH and I are "average" size adults. We were a lot happier when we sold our queen bed and got a king.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
No pets.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
I don't think it has made a difference. I love to see DH cuddle and nurture DS tho.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
No.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? I don't always--the night nursing can be a little much sometimes. But I know other parents who don't co-sleep and are having to get OUT of bed several times a night to cope with a wakeful toddler...that sounds harder to me than night-nursing in bed.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
I used a siderail when DS was tiny but we started teaching him how to shimmy out of the bed on his tummy when he was 9 or 10 months old. We also took the bed off the frame so that it was only about 18" off the (carpeted) floor. I found the siderail annoying and DS didn't have a habit of rolling/moving around much so we stopped using it. At this point I think it would be a hazard b/c DS would have to climb over it and drop down to the floor instead of just sliding down on his tummy, if he wanted to get down. He mostly sleeps between us so it's not a big concern.
post #42 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep? It feels right! Babies are meant to be close to their moms, whether it's 2 am or 2 pm. It makes night nursings much easier, laying down to nurse is a simple way to get the baby to sleep, I don't have to worry about a baby off in the next room, and everyone in the family gets the sleep they need.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? I wouldn't presume to know a specific age for all kids at which they should move into their own beds. What's worked well in our family, though, is to start moving the co-sleeping toddler out and into their own bed in a sibling's room at 2-3 years of age. They are still welcome to come into our bed if they wake up in the middle of the night, which they tend to do until they are around 4 yrs of age.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? Currently, one 9-month old.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? We have a blessedly big king-sized bed. We are both average-size (I'm on the short side).

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? Pets are always outside.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? I wouldn't say that co-sleeping, in and of itself, has changed it. 24 years of marriage and many children have changed it , but overall for the good.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? Dh has had the tendency to overestimate an older baby's ability to judge distances and to slide safely off of the bed; several older babies have slipped off the bed while dh was "watching" them, but no one's been hurt.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? 95% of the time, yes.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? Siderails at times, depending on the age of the baby/toddler, but that's it.

Joni and kids, incl. Micah, 7-16-04
post #43 of 89
OFF THE TOP -- I want to say something about the pets. When people ask us critical questions about our family bed I point out the following. WHY IS IT that in American culture nobody flinches if they hear your cat or dog is in bed with you but they freak if your baby sleeps with you?? Why do we allow our pets in bed and keep our babies in cages down the hall????? :

On to the poll...

1. Why do you cosleep?

Because we love being close to our babe. It's easier to nurse at night. It gives us extra family time and bonding, especiallly for DH who is away at work all day.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
We'll do it until it doesn't feel right anymore or until DS wants more independance.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
Me- 32
DH- 38
DS- 10 months

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
Queen technically, but it is slightly smaller (we live on a boat, nothing is normal) We are fairly avergae sized people. DH is long and thin. I am short and round.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

On the floor in various spots, but usually in our room. We have no space for him anymore and he is too old to get in bed anymore.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
Yes we have less sex, but I think that's normal with a new babe, not just b/c of co-sleeping. We usually go to another room to fool around, after DS is asleep.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

No.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
Once I got comfortable nursing lying down (when DS was about 4 months) I sleep great!

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
no. we never owned a crib. when DS was a newborn we used a snugglenest for about 3 months.
post #44 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?

Started as ease of breastfeeding, and ened up liking it!

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

As long as everyone is comfortable. 18?

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

3 - dh, ds, and me - dd used to join us on a regular basis but hasn't since ds came home.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?

queen - i'm small (5'5" and about 105 prepregnancy), dh is tall and lean (6'3" and about 190, i *think)

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

dog beds on our floor

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

not really!

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

dd fell out 2X - not hurt, just scared.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

yes

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

bed rail for dd between the time that she started rolling over and about 18 months (dh works until 11, and we are often asleep before he gets home - and he doesn't like sleeping right next to tiny ones). bed rail the first few days for ds, until the cosleeper arrived for ds, but he is not liking it sofar - too far away from the milkies.

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post #45 of 89
[B]1. Why do you cosleep?
[B] dd would only sleep with someone beside her so it was either I sleep with her, DH sleeps with her, or we all sleep together.[/B]
2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
by the time she is married
3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
DH, 4yr dd, and me
4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
king size bed was very low to the ground but we just bought a high one, we're slightly above average
5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
cats no longer with us do to death (old age), but when alive they either slept in bassinet or at the foot of our bed.
6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
I think having a dc changes things to begin with. I don't think that co-sleeping caused anything in itself.
7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
dd has been know to flop a hand across my face and pop me in the nose, but nothing of medical concern. dd has fallen out of the bed 3-4 times around the age of 1-3yrs.
8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
in the beginning no. DH actually slept away from us for a couple of months 1m-4m when dd schedule was so off that someone had to be with her late at night and DH wanted to go to bed. now we sleep better than most parents I know.
9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? [/B]
our nightstand was very large and sorta blocked dd in. Looking back I could have used a guardrail.
post #46 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?

We didn't intend to co-sleep, but it worked out that way. Both DS and I sleep better when we are close. It's also great for night-time nursing.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

I don't have an age in mind when DS *should* be in his own bed, but I'm hoping he will be in his own bed by the time he is school-age (about 5 or 6). I certainly won't kick him out if he's not ready by then, though.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

It's just me, DH, and DS. DS is almost 3 months.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?

We have a full-size bed, but need a bigger one. It is a tight squeeze. DH is a big, 220 lb guy. I'm medium sized. I solved this temporarily by side-carring the crib to the bed. I can keep DS between me and the crib and DH still has plenty of room.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

We have cats, but we only trust one of them to be in the room while we are sleeping (the others run around like fools). The cat sleeps at DH's feet usually.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

I don't think anything has changed. DH loves to watch DS nurse though. I think that has brought us closer. If we want "grown-up time", we put DS in his swing while he's sleeping.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

Nope.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

Yep. DS wakes to nurse, but he always falls right back to sleep.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

The crib is side-carred to the bed.
post #47 of 89
[QUOTE=NightOwl]I'm trying to figure out how we'll sleep when the baby arrives in June. Please answer these questions:

1. Why do you cosleep?

I read Dr. Sears before giving birth, and thought, "cosleeping's just not for us." Then the baby came along! It was easier for bf. I got to sleep! I love cuddling with ds. I didn't want him to be in another room. It's helped give me a greater understanding of ds.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

I don't have a set age in mind. Whenever he's ready to leave! Every child is different.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

3: 30, 31, and 17 months.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?

We have a double bed and a twin pushed up next to one another on the floor. It's a huge bed! We're fairly average size, I guess.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

We have a dog who sleeps on the floor. We never had her in bed with us.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

Well, it's hard to sort out what's changed because of having a child, and what can be attributed to cosleeping. We've grown closer since having ds. Dh is very on board with cosleeping, so it's all good!

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

Ds fell off our bed once when we still had a queen on a frame.... but this had nothing to do with sleeping. Dh set him on the bed during the day, turned around to do something, and ds crawled off.


8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

Yes. Ds wakes up to nurse a few times, but I fall back to sleep. Much better than getting up to go to a crib, and MUCH better than making my baby CIO.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

Not anymore. Siderails worked until ds started pulling himself up on them.
post #48 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep? ease of breastfeeding and it lets us both get a full night's sleep - plus I like to have him close by

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? my seven year old sleeps in his own room or on the floor in my room - I think a child should have his/her own room by the time they are 3yrs with a bed and space for toys, clothes, etc, but may continue to use parents' room if needed for sleep

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? me (26) and ds2 (7 mos) - ds1 (7yrs) has a sleeping bag permanantly in my room that he uses about 1/2 the time

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? Queen-size, I'm 5'3" and 117lbs - ds2 is 21lbs - we have lots of room

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? no pets

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? our relationship ended on it's own, but we had a sex life before he moved out - just not in the bedroom

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? no

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? I do, very much so

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? no, I put a pillow between ds and the edge, but he's not a big mover at night.
post #49 of 89
1. Why do we co-sleep?
--The closeness with our children, it makes bfing way easier, we like to do it

2. How long do we plan on co-sleeping?
--As long as our children want to co-sleep. DD is 3 and DS is 5 months, we will let them make the decision when they are ready to move into their own beds.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
--There are four of us sleeping in our bed right now. I am 31, DH is 31, DD is 3, and DS is 5 months

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
--We have a king sized bed. DH is pretty normal sized and I am a large woman

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
--We have two cats who also sleep with us most of the time

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
--We don't cuddle as much when we are sleeping and we have had to be more creative in finding places to have sex. I think sometimes DH would like to have the bed back to being just us, but he wouldn't change our sleep situation for the world.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
--NO, Never

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
--DH is the first one asleep at night. It takes me a little longer since I am bfing and I bf DS to sleep. Then we all seem to sleep great (I still nurse about every two hours during the night and I can't imagine having to get up out of bed every time to feed him--all I have to do is roll over and give him the breast)

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
--Nope, DH sleeps on the edge of the bed, then DS, then me, and DD is against the wall. During naps, I put a body pillow on the edge of the bed in case DS rolls.
post #50 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
Because it's nice and cosy; because it beats the crap out of those ridiculous sleep-training tricks that I would never, ever have patience for; because I breastfeed him to sleep; because when he was wee he would wake up if I tried to put him down; because in my postpartum weirdness it was the one way I could relax and sleep without being consumed with worry about my baby; because I had significant breastfeeding establishment issues and had to nurse all.the.time while I was recovering from a c-section. Oh, and because eEvery toddler nursling mom I know who doesn't co-sleep has either weaned, nightweaned or is like a zombie.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
Eh. Can't tell yet; my kid is only two. It's very hard for me to see that far ahead of where he is now.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
Three. One 30something mom, one 40something dad, and Bleuet, aged 2.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
Oueen/dead average.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
N/A

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
The co-sleeping is *NOTHING* compared to having the actual kid.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
Real problems, no. Minor irritations, yes. Bleuet sometimes kicks and he has sleepwalked on top of us a couple times.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
No, not compared to what it was like before we had a kid. I have revised my expectations of sleep. I also think I am getting more and better sleep than I would if I had to get up out of bed, trot down the hallway, breastfeed (or otherwise comfort) a howling baby while sitting up, and then go back to my own room to sleep. When Bleuet wants to breastfeed, he just does -- without waking up. He rarely cries, wakes up or even fusses in his sleep because he doesn't have to.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
Yes. The overpriced but wonderful Humanity Infant & Herbal Cosleeper. Their site also has info about safe sleep sharing practices.
post #51 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
It is best for the whole family. The baby feels more secure and once you maste rnursing laying down you will all sleep better.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? as long as dd needs it or it untill it becomes a problem for us. I think they need their own bed when they show you they don't need you at night.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? one baby 4 months (almost) old.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? it's a double! I am 5'2" and weigh 144 Dh is 5'9" and weighs 170

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? on the floor in our room

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? it's made it better because we don't resent each other in the middle of night when one of us is up and the other is snoring in bed.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? no

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? yes. Not at first but now we all sleep great

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? we have a crib sidecard to the bed that dd has never made it in to

Thanks!!!!
post #52 of 89
I'm trying to figure out how we'll sleep when the baby arrives in June. Please answer these questions:

1. Why do you cosleep? We cosleep because it feels right to us. In the beginning, ds slept right on my chest - it felt natural. We exclusively breastfed, so sleeping with us meant never having to leave our bed to nurse.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? DS turned 4 in January and we are still cosleeping. When the child request his/her own bed, then they should get their own bed.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? 3 (35, 32 and 4)

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? We have a queen size bed. A king would definitely be more comfortable. DH is very long and very lean. I am short and curvy.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? Hamster... in her cage.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? DH loves to cosleep. He can not sleep if ds and I are away. Whenever we discuss ds getting his own bed, DH says "he's not ready yet."

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? At 4 months, ds rolled off the bed onto his head - but he was fine. We changed the position of the bed by pushing it up against the wall and rolling a blanket up between wall and bed.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? Most nights. Our apartment is too hot and that causes issues.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? We had a cosleeper that we never used for it's true purpose. It became the midnight diaper changing station and the place to pile things up.

Thanks!!!!
post #53 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?

We do it because it has always been a natural thing for us.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

We plan on doing it as long as they want to.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

3 kids 6, 4, and 1

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?

We have a calif. king. I am 5'3" and DH is 5'10"

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

We don't have any dogs but a cat that joins us during the night.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

It has made us closer.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

My 4 year old fell out for the first time a few weeks ago. Other than that, we have never had anyone fall out at all.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

Yes we get the best sleep with them in bed.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

yes we have siderails
post #54 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
Because we all get more sleep that way!

2. How long do you plan to cosleep?
Until DS no longer 'needs' to be in our bed or 'needs' us during the night
At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
I think it's different for every child. In my ideal world, the baby I'm carrying now and DS will transition to their own room & own bed together. I don't expect that to happen for years, though.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
2 adults- 30ish
1 three year old
1 baby due in May

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
We have a queen mattress and twin mattress pushed up together into a corner of the bedroom. DH is average- 5'9, 180ish. I am almost 9 months pregnant and plus-sized normally.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
Our dog has a bed on the other side of the room from ours but often she sleeps on a rug at the foot of our bed. She weighs about 85lbs, btw.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
Well, it's hard to say if our relationship has changed because of co-sleeping, having a child, or just life. There is less 'private' time- intimacy has to be fit in as opposed to just happening. It has to happen in the deep of the night or in other parts of the house when DS is asleep. We still talk at night in bed (where we have traditionally done a lot of our 'staying in touch' with each other but there's a three year old in the middle now so usually we're both touching him as opposed to each other.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
Only me trying to crawl over everyone trying to get to the bathroom! :LOL

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
As opposed to what? I think having a child changes your sleep expectations regardless of whether or not you co-sleep. Frankly, the reason we decided to co-sleep is b/c we moved into a new house and DS was awake many, many times a night screaming b/c he didn't like his new room. We were moving him back and forth between rooms or one of us was sleeping beside his crib... no one was getting any sleep. Now, if DS wakes up, one of us rolls over to comfort him and usually everybody is back asleep within minutes and no one has to leave the bed.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
Not exactly... our bed is in a corner so there is wall on two sides. At the foot of the bed is a long, low table of sorts with pillows wedged around the base are pillows to keep DS from rolling out. Occasionally, he still rolls out (he's a very active sleeper) but since it's only a few inches to the floor he never even wakes up.

HTH! Good luck with your decision!
post #55 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
Started cosleeping because I wanted to keep an eye on my newborn, but kept cosleeping because I love being close to her and being able to reach over and touch her! I also don't have to worry about her all night - I can just look over and see that she's safe and sound!

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
I plan on cosleeping until DD is ready for her own bed. She'll decide.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
1 baby, seven months old.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
DH and I are "normal" size. Right now, we have two twin beds pushed up together plus an Arm's Reach cosleeper. Soon we'll switch to just one twin bed and one queen bed pushed up together.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
Wherever they want, just not in the bedroom! We keep the door closed.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
It hasn't.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
Nope!

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
I sleep better than I would if DD was in another room. I'd constantly be getting up to check on her!

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
Arm's Reach cosleeper. It's been great for the infant stage. We'll be phasing it out sometime over the summer as DD approaches the weight limit.

Hope this helps!
post #56 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?

Initially, to find other ways to bond after we failed at breastfeeding.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

With Abi we co-slept "officially" until she was 2.5 but realistically she still joined us in bed in the middle of the night on a regular basis until very recently (age 4).

With Nitara we had a waterbed for her first couple of mos. and she was in the cosleeper for safety reason. After it broke we put our queen futon on the floor and she slept in it with us. I usually started her in the crib and took her to bed when she woke up at night. Also, sometimes her reflux was bad and she had to stay in her crib all night be elevated. At 10 mos. old she made it clear that she preferred space and liked her crib better than the family bed. She squirmed a lot and couldn't settle in our bed. So she officially moved out for good at 12 mos. old.

We still enjoy early morning snuggles with both girls.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
Right now, just dh and I.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
Queen size. At one point we had a queen and a twin pushed up next to it. Dh and I are both thin.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
On the floor.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
I honestly don't think it has changed our relationship.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
Abi was a big, hard kicker and she did hurt us a lot. But she herself never got hurt.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
In infancy we all did. As she entered toddlerhood and kicked harder no one got very good sleep. But there was no alternative really. She would not have been the kind of child who would have been happy in a crib. She was, and is, very high-needs

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

Except for the brief time using the cosleeper, we have never had any rails or sidcar with the crib or anything. Just put the mattress on the floor when Abi was at risk of hurting herself by falling out.
post #57 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?

I started co-sleeping because I read Our Babies, Ourselves, and about James McKenna's sleep studies. These convinced me that co-sleeping offered a protective effect against SIDS. That was my main reason, but I also enjoy the fact that we all three sleep better this way, and that I don't have to haul myself into another room every time my DD wakes up. I just have to reach over. It has made night wakings into less of a big deal. Also, I enjoy having her close to me.

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?

I plan to gradually "parent-led" wean her to her own bed somewhere between 9 and 18 months. I know that is a long span of time; I trust myself to know when it's time. I don't think there's any set age for moving a child to her own bed. I still slept in my mom's bed occasionally until I was 10 or 11. But I would like to have Julia in her own bed while she's still very young, although I may still keep her in the same room for much longer.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?

Just me and DH, one cat, and DD who is 7 months old.

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?

DH and I are both relatively thin folks, and we have a queen size bed. We have a lot of room. A double bed would be a little small even for us, but that's because DD doesn't like to sleep in physical contact with anyone. A cuddlier child would be happier in a smaller space. Also, my bed is just a mattress on the floor, since DD falls out of bed on a regular basis.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?

One cat sleeps by my feet, the other two in the basement because they're noisy. I didn't let the cat back in bed until Julia could roll and lift up her own head; I worried about the cat being TOO snuggly and blocking DD's breathing. Turns out he objects to having his ears pulled, so he stays far away from her.

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?

Having a baby has changed our relationship. We work much better as a team, now, and we've learned to communicate better, because we don't want to lose our tempers or fight in front of DD. How much of that is due to co-sleeping, I couldn't say; we've never tried any other way.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?

Unless you count DD kicking people during the night (doesn't really hurt, just annoying) no nobody has gotten hurt.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?

We both sleep a solid 9 hours every night. It wasn't so while DD was very young; she woke a lot to eat. But it started to improve gradually around 3 months, and has gotten steadily better.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?

No. Just the mattress on the floor. Although if DH and I wanted to have sex while DD was still very young, we would move her to a blanket on the floor. Now we can't do that anymore. She's old enough to notice. So we go to the pull-out couch in the basement.
post #58 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep? Because from the get go, I had the support of our homebirth midwives that it was the proper thing to do and that helped convince dh that babies sleep where the food is

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? Honestly, I can tell that dh and I disagree but he will not voice his opinion quite yet... But I'll cont to allow ds in our bed until he's initiating sleeping in his toddler bed which is right outside our door (its in our little office area which is now his little space) As for what age, I think it depends on the child. Mason's 20 months or so and he isn't emotionally or physically ready yet. He still Bfs a lot during the night to make up for our working situation and I know the lack of time together during the day is the major reason he's still in our bed.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? So far, its just ds, 20 months, dh 36 and me 28

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? We have a queen on the frame with ds' crib sidecar'd to my side. We used to have the Arm's Reach but I wanted some more space for myself and ds. I usually end up in the crib by morning... As for us, I'm 5'2" about 148# and dh is 5'10" and barely 200#. Ds is about 28#

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? We have two German Shepherds that sleep in their crates; one by choice and the male has to because even at 4 YO, he still doesn't quite know to let someone know he needs to go potty... We also have 4 cats. Only the female kitten Lily (7 months) sleeps with us or rather in Mason's sidecar. I'd rather not allow her in our room but she's such a little sh** that she will physically remove the carpet outside our door if we shut her out... The other 3 males sleep on their cat tree, the couch or terrorize each other during the night

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? I would say that it does make us closer as a parenting unit since dh really doesn't DO much with ds during the week Dh has a physically demanding job and doesn't have much to offer either of us until the weekend. Being together as a family in bed, allows for that bonding that we miss out on during the week. I know that dh would rather have more room in the bed since he is a total bed hog and I have told him its a lot easier and more comfortable for ME to sleep on the couch rather than to fight him for space and warmth. That CRUSHED him So we all cuddle at night unless ds is too loud (he talks in his sleep LOUDLY) then he and I will move to our comfy couch.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? Nope, we always start off with ds, then me then dh. Dh will roll over onto anyone in his path so I have the mommy sense to keep ds away from him.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? Dh is a super sound sleeper and will only rarely say he heard Mason the other night. He does snore SUPER LOUD so I don't always get good rest but I have adjusted to not getting 8 straight hours of sleep since getting pregnant (always waking to tinkle ) and than after the birth, I was very comfortable getting sleep in little chunks. The only nights that are rough are usually from teething, illness or lack of a nap during the day for ds. Plus, if ds is too disruptive, we'll just go on the couch so dh can sleep.

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? We did sidecar the crib. That works great for us... and the cat.
post #59 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep? Well it started because the only way DS#3 would go to sleep was if he was cuddling me and well then we just loved it so we decided to let him stay with us

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed? We plan to co-sleep for probably at least 3 more years unless DS#4 decides he wants to sleep somewhere else. I think DS#3 will want to be in his own bed soon - he doesn't wake up at night anymore to cuddle really and he likes to strech out a lot. I don't think there is a certain age - whenever it's no longer working for the child or the parents.

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages? 2, ages 2 1/2 and 2 months

4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP? We have a King sized bed. I'm 5'8" and 140 pounds, DH is 5'10" and around 230 I think.

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep? We have two dogs and two cats - one dog sleeps under the bed, the other next to it - the cats sleep wherever they want :LOL

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it? I don't think co-sleeping has changed anything.

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt? Other then a toddler foot to the head you mean?! Nope.

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep? Well the baby is still waking every 2 hours so... not really... but much better then we would if he was in a crib!

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails? We have a snug tuck pillow on the side
post #60 of 89
1. Why do you cosleep?
BF convenience, don't have to worry about dd in another room, feels right

2. How long do you plan to cosleep? At what age do you think a child should be in their own bed?
At least until dd is 2. (she is 20 months now) We do plan to buy her a toddler bed that we will keep in or room prior to the new baby coming (so like in the next month!) In their own bed once they are ready- I think it greatly depends on the kid

3. How many are sleeping in your bed now, what are their ages?
3.3- me at 5 months pregnant, dh and dd At the end of August we will have another baby that we plan to co-sleep with as well...
4. How big is your bed? And if you don't don't mind...what size are you and DP?
Eastern king on a low platform (we have a rubber mattress that we LOVE), me- 5' 6", 153 lbs and pregnant, dh- 6' 3" 220lbs

5. If you have pets, where do they sleep?
5 cats that have the run of the place- usually 3 sleep on the bed with us

6. How has cosleeping changed your relationship with DP or has it?
made us all bond as a family

7. Ever had any problems with anyone getting hurt?
one my cats threw up on me a few weeks ago while I was sleeping- does that count? Thankfully the baby didn't get hit or wake up!

8. Do you and DP get a good night's sleep?
dh always does, I've had a few winners- although it would have been worse to actually ahve to get up to nurse. For the most part I am the most well rested of all my friends- esp those who do not co-sleep. Now dd is not nightnursing anymore so I am just having pregnancy trouble sleeping!

9. Do you use anything other than your bed? I mean, like a cosleeper or siderails?
We use the arm's reach co-sleep until about 4 months, then move the baby into the bed. I have a mesh side rail on one side.
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