I have 3 kids, ages 16, 14 and 11. I love my teens. we are close, we unschool, I have always tried to treat them with respect, giving them choices, helping them to actualize themselves. I hope they are in touch with themsleves and their emotions.
Of course, we still have difficulties, the 2 younger are so spirited, they fight, they tell each other to shut up, no matter how many times I say I don't like those words. they do play and get along about half of the time tho.
We are physically close, we tell each other we love each other, we watch Tv and movies and read books and discuss things, we don't take mainstream culture as our guiding light. We are pretty healthy ,we stay away from antibiotics, the girls don't seem precosciously sexual.
what else,? well, 14 yo dd has pink bangs, 11 yo ds has all his hair pink, 16 yo has had hers turquoise. we love Ren Faires, we have fun at holidays, we still color eggs and have egg hunts outdoors, they are not "too cool" for that!
I have faith that they wil find "careers' in good time that suit them, just as they learned to read , write and do arithmetic and speak other languages in their own good time.
I am pretty sure my grandkids will be naturally birthed, co-slept and bf'ed for a good long time!