I think the most impotant aspect as far as birthing options go is getting a second or third opinion when a Dr suggests that someone cannot birth naturally. Just as any of us would questions should anyone suggest we cannot breastfeed.
I am not trying to say "OMG this is Mothering and you are totally mainstream."
I honestly do not actually worry about whether or not someone has a perfect birth with perfect music perfect doulas and births perfectly in their home with perfect circle of supportive friends painting your belly and braiding your hair during it.
It is major surgery.
Regardless of any AP/NFL politics, it is still major surgery.
I had a c-section as well. I thought it rather scary since I was in shock at the time. My recovery was thought to be quick intially but I have had repeat surgeries to remove adhesions and I bled for 10 weeks and became seriously anemic.
Sure, it *is* a common procedure but that doesn't suddenly mean it is the equivilant of getting a mole removed or something. It is still major surgery and with every major surgery there are inherent risks. That is a *fact* and there is no getting around it.
People often have problems when taking Iron supplements..the slow release kind are supposed to be easier on the stomach but that isn't my experience. I am anemic now due to meds I take for a chronic condition and well...I still do not take Iron. I prefer to get my Iron from food, I know it isn't as much but the pills make me poop scarily.
I am so sorry you went through such awful procedures. I do not know much about it..I do know I would do anything to avoid another c-section. Mine caused some serious issues.