I have the same feelings about obs. I really don't understand why there are so many more male obs than female ones. I have heard that men really like the aspect of birth that its mechanical, but thats also why they are so bad with anything outside the norm. Thats why they have to make birth and labor happen in a certain way.
I am really lucky that I had an old school ob who was very pro natural birth and was very good when he did internals. He never hurt me. His office uses cotton gowns too, big old long ones
I could get up and go to the bathroom in it.
Exams that hurt aren't always because the dr is trying to hurt you. The only time I was hurt by an exam was when 2 drs in training (women) did it. They actually wanted my midwife to do it because they were so unsure of themselves. She didn't even have hospital privaleges. Also the plastic speculums suck! They don't lock in place well and trust me you don't want one of those to snap closed on you during an exam! Ouchie!
I read a story years ago about a man who would drug women and then instead of rape them liked to cut their vaginas. So I def think that if these drs weren't doing it in a legal way they would be out there doing it illegally. Just like the American populus seems to think that women giving birth is somehow sexual. If its so sexual and can only be managed by an ob then what does that say about obs?
Surgeons enjoy surgery, thats why they are sugeons. My pcp says the same thing Applejuice said.
I was thinking about epidurals the other day. While women aren't strapped down to the bed anymore like they used to be, now they are given epidurals and are paralyzed. Women are told its for your benefit, you will feel no pain. It keeps women in bed just like 50 years ago when they were strapped down. It keeps women inactive. If they were to say no to a procedure what is she going to do? She can't get up and leave. Fight or flight mechinism during labor when threatened does not work then. A woman can do neither so she must give in.
I must run, but I have thuroughly enjoyed this thread.