I don't think that Shawna was saying that feminists hate men, I didn't have that impression at all...
There is definately a feminist backlash. It doesn't change the fact that men are accorded privilege in our society, but it's definately there and I think that our young sons bear the brunt of it. My husband has never been the victim of it, but my son most assuredly has.
I hear things about my son (2.5) and comments directed towards my son which make me cringe far more often than ones about my daughter (9 months). When he was just shy of three months old, someone told him to stay away from her daughter. He was an *infant*. That's the problem I have with this:
|Can we quit blaming feminism for men's behavior? Of course not all men are predators. BUT how are we to know who is and who isn't?
We're not talking about men here, we're talking about little boys
. In my case, one very little boy. I'm sick of women treating my toddler
like he's a predator. He's two years old!!
I'm not blaming feminism for all men's behavior, I'm saying that there is a feminist backlash and that it's affecting my two year old son right now. I'm not saying that feminism is a bad thing at all-- I consider myself a feminist. I just don't think that the goals of feminism can be accomplished by starting with the assumption that men will be pigs unless we tease/cajole/beat it out of them while they're young.
My son is a sweet, loving, sensitive little person. He likes things with wheels and babies, running around in circles and quiet nursies. He's a beautiful, bright human being and he deserves to have people treat him respectfully even though he's got a penis. Male privilege certainly does exist, but it just as certainly doesn't apply to toddlers. Demonizing my baby boy is not going to help your daughters.
|I personally haven't experienced anyone demonizing my son, and he's fifteen now. But I believe everyone who has related their experiences. So can we discuss raising our sons well and stop demonizing other women while we do it?
I have, and mine is only two. I'm not trying to demonize other women at all, I'm only trying to raise my son in a society that's telling him he has to be a certain, horrible way because he happened to get a Y chromosome.