on the subject of sexism and our sons
I think how we live teaches them the most, how we interact with others, how we re
act to others and to offensive behavoir.... Its impossible to have a magical solution, to somehow figure out the right formula to insure that we raise feminist boys or girls. I have my ideals, my art, my learning, my garden, my breathe, my cooking, my laughter, -the soul stuff of life that I share with my son. He will learn from me what I believe and what I find to be the truth by everyday with me, by all of life and its rhythyms, and sometimes I will need words to explain, and talk about the many feminist concepts that are crucial to the survival of this planet, but mostly, it will be the daily living of life that holds alot of weight into whether or not he will become a respectful person, a person who will naturally speak out when he is witnessing sexist, racist, or homophobic behavoir....
I think he will have his own experiences and lessons that I cannot foresee or control, but if I try my best to keep our deep connection and mutual respect, then I hope that he will find it easy to come to me for advice, or just to have someone to listen to him so that he can work it out with the time and space to do so on his own with his own capabilities.
My son, Steffen is such a sweet, caring, creative, kind boy who naturally is helpful and responsive, who takes time with things, who has a natural thirst for learning and interaction, a lot of the gentle things that society oftens ignores and invalidates in boys.
I'm interested in hearing about others experiences, esp. moms of older boys. Steffen is almost two, and its amazing how much social conditioning is being daily inflicted on him already! So much is so wrong, IMO, the imperialist militarism, the materialism, the disposable everything, the arrogance and rascism amd classism... so many isms so many skisms.. its all part of such a huge problem w/o a name...
Change starts personally within me and how I live my life. Thats all I can control as far as i see.
Just some scattered thoughts and rambling.
I don't care if people disagree with me, lets keep a conversation going!