Originally Posted by MotherEden
Really the expense isn't much. And if we were extremely well off financially I probably wouldnt do anything differently. She thinks that I denying my children things that we could afford if we had more money. And that buying their clothes second hand isn't a very nice thing to "do" to them.
What are your thoughts on this?
We are expecting our third and got many of the same comments from family and friends. We live on a limited budget, but children don't really effect that budget except in a few small ways. Since we bfeed and cdiaper (I did buy some more diapers this time) and we have a good stash of diapers, one more isn't all that much more. The amount of the grocery bill will go up when DD starts eating solids in about a year, but that is plenty of time to plan for that.
We actually have less stuff this time since we have moved and sold a lot of the "baby gear". The only item I wish I still had was the bassenett since it is a safe place to put baby down so big brothers can't step on her!
I know that there is a lot of good intentions that come from wanting your children to have the best of everything. That is one reason I will skimp on my own needs (i.e. new jeans etc.) in order to make sure to get organic milk. But, there are some out there that are more concerned with the status of what it is they give their children than the quality and value of it.
I grew up with hand-me-downs and stuff from garage sales and goodwill. It was fun for me. My kids don't know the difference between Ross and Goodwill now and if I play my cards right they won't think them any different when they get older.
I want my children to understand value and have values that allow them to buy things second hand and give away stuff they don't need so someone else benefits. I will buy high quality items (hanna anderson clothing for example) but I don't necessarily feel the need to have those things and pay full price. I believe there are ways to give your children quality without going broke.