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post #141 of 154

am i a bad mom?

My dd loves to watch movies. She likes to pick from a variety of sesame street,Barney, Wiggles...SHREK and has recently asked for her Baby Einstein again(now watching with a million "What's That?"s) She can watch Shrek from start to finish. She also loves books (and often 'reads' while watching) Normally it's in the morning while I get it together or with daddy at night.We are always running to the zoo,park.mommy and me yoga etc,so it's not all day or even every day.I only watch tv after she's asleep. She's 25 months and was attracted to the screen very young. I spent alot of time bf'ing in front of the tube.I still spend alot of time bf'ing BTW. Am I a bad mom? Is this going to haunt me later?
post #142 of 154
We canceled our subscription to (what was it Cable or Dish? don't even remember now) about a year ago, just cuz there was nothing good on! and we did not have time to watch it. and we had to watch our finances.

Anyway, DD never really saw any broadcast TV, for even when we had subscription we would watch it at night when she was asleep.

Now, just cartoons on DVD or tape, but - she does not care for them!!! Sometimes I would LOVE a cartoon to "babysit" for me :LOL while I do something around the house

No-o-o, her highness would choose to play "party" or "hide-and-seek" or "teacher" over cartoon any time :LOL
post #143 of 154
Ds watches TV. Mostly its PBS and dvds. He actually likes some of the PBS learning shows better than the cartoons I let him watch on PBS! We have "no TV" days 3 days a week, always. Sometimes I'll throw in an extra day when I feel like it. This works for us.
post #144 of 154
I haven't read all the threads but just wanted to post a different reason...

I was very strict about tv with my first 2 children...it was incredibly limited...a movie on their birthday or maybe if they were sick...that was it.

My second daughter has now been diagnosed with a reading disability...and because she wasn't able to get a lot of knowledge out of books, television would have been very helpful to her. Not fluff tv but educational television. Now there are a lot of concepts/information she does not get/have because her exposure to those things was so limited.

So now she watches oodles of tv...she particularly likes Discovery channel...she has always had a great interest in animals so we do a lot of that. We also rent animal movies and such...they still get some "fun" movies but I am still strict on that.

Anyway, now with my new daughter(22mos) I allow limited television...The Big Comfy Couch, Sesame Street, a couple cartoons that I find acceptable and occasionally Barney. (she doesn't watch all these every day btw, just maybe one or two)

So I guess what I am trying to say is that it's not necessarily a bad thing and can be a great tool...it just shouldn't probably be the only tool and should be closely moderated by the parent.
post #145 of 154
We have it on sometimes. He loves the Wiggles and Rolie Polie Olie and JoJo's Circus but doesn't pay attention to any of the other shows if I leave it on for background noise. We live in a crappy neighborhood at the moment with people who blast their pretty inappropriate and explicit rap music and I'd rather he hear whatever's on Disney Channel than that crap. But most of the time we're in his bedroom reading or playing cars or something. He likes to dance to the Wiggles, they're definitely his favorite. It's useful when I'm trying to get housecleaning done. Otherwise he wants to "help" and that makes it impossible to do anything. lol
post #146 of 154
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Originally Posted by Kira's mom
My dd loves to watch movies. She likes to pick from a variety of sesame street,Barney, Wiggles...SHREK and has recently asked for her Baby Einstein again(now watching with a million "What's That?"s) She can watch Shrek from start to finish. She also loves books (and often 'reads' while watching) Normally it's in the morning while I get it together or with daddy at night.We are always running to the zoo,park.mommy and me yoga etc,so it's not all day or even every day.I only watch tv after she's asleep. She's 25 months and was attracted to the screen very young. I spent alot of time bf'ing in front of the tube.I still spend alot of time bf'ing BTW. Am I a bad mom? Is this going to haunt me later?

I don't think you're a bad mom at all. It sounds like it's all in moderation. My son also loves Shrek and Shrek 2 (he asks for donkey) and Finding Nemo. He generally just gets to watch them in the car for long trips (like the 6 hour drive to see family) because it keeps him entertained and allows us to get there faster if we don't have to stop to calm his screaming every hour or so when he gets bored. I don't think that makes us bad parents. *shrug*

I also did a lot of BFing in front of the tv, or in front of my computer. What else do you do while breastfeeding a newborn? It kept me from getting too stir crazy during growth spurts (which we had a lot of because DS was a preemie). Aidan's doing just fine though. He loves to read more than anything or play with his cars or blocks or play doh or stickers. He's just started getting into the Baby Einstein stuff (he loves Baby Beethoven and names everything he sees and dances and such) and he loves the Wiggles. But we also sit and talk about them while he watches or we dance and sing together so it's helped build his vocabulary and motor skills. TV isn't the devil when used appropriately, imo.
post #147 of 154
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Originally Posted by jillene
I also did a lot of BFing in front of the tv, or in front of my computer. What else do you do while breastfeeding a newborn?
Isn't that the truth? I'm just about as anti-TV as they come but thank god we had cable right after DS was born. I could not master nursing him lying down for weeks. And I was so exhausted from round-the-clock feedings that I'm sure I would have dropped the poor child numerous times if I hadn't had Crank Yankers and Punk'd to keep me (barely) awake as DS fed.
post #148 of 154
I don't even remember what I watched now. I think I watched The View a lot and I know I watched Ellen in the afternoons. Hmmm. It was mostly mindless blather to give me something to think about other than how long I'd been sitting there and what else needed doing (like dishes, laundry, sweeping, etc).
post #149 of 154
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Originally Posted by wednesday
And I was so exhausted from round-the-clock feedings that I'm sure I would have dropped the poor child numerous times if I hadn't had Crank Yankers and Punk'd to keep me (barely) awake as DS fed.
For me, it was a lot of Law and Order. The funny thing was, I kept the sound turned down and the closed captioning on, because I couldn't bear the thought of this innocent little baby hearing about these horrible crimes. (even though he wouldn't have had the vocabulary to understand it). Maybe he'll be allowed to watch it when he's about 45. You know, right after he starts dating...
post #150 of 154
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My second daughter has now been diagnosed with a reading disability...and because she wasn't able to get a lot of knowledge out of books, television would have been very helpful to her. Not fluff tv but educational television. Now there are a lot of conc
SO you are saying that your daughter has LD because she was kept from watching Television?

(Learning disabilities can NOT be triggered by lack of TV.. However , learning disabilities can be triggered by tv)



Real Life is a great 'tool' to learning...



Michele
post #151 of 154

TV in later years

Halo,
Well, I am waiting to be a parent, but I want to reflect on my life as going into adulthood.

I grew up watching a lot of TV. Probably not as a toddler, and indeed I think I was a smart child because we didn't watch TV as toddlers. But towards later years, I really grew a habit with the tv. Partly as not being a son of a single mom, my after school activities were pretty much revolved around the TV.

I developed a bad habit, and reruns or not, I would watch it all, and I knew the schedule backwards and forwards. And growing up into adulthood, I really did lack my own imagination, and knew hardly anything about spirit.

For me, TV became a single world, and everything outside really didn't matter.

It made a difference, however, that my mother was often a topic in the news, as a Chicana activist, but otherwise I think I would have been lost.

Finishing my undergraduate years, I developed schizophrenia !

Well, this was partially fortunate, and partially unfortunate, but overtime, I learned to see more clearly. Within my fortune, I learned meditation from a Native American friend. And it opened a gateway in my brain. Meditation makes ordinary life like a movie. Because indeed it triggers the same brain waves. Movies trigger alpha waves, as does meditation. Well, using the imagination to extremes also triggers these waves, I believe.

So, entering these waves, gives people a means to communication. Within meditation (and probably childhood imagination), we create our own realm (a body centric phenomenon) that helps form our patterns around us. However, with TV, the centricity is around an entity that is not near our selves, it is very distanced, and it removes our focuses from self/local importance.

See, in this world, we really need to focus on what we can do individually, and see how each person can contribute. Unfortunately TV, becomes peoples modes of understanding one another, which really devastates intercommunication at a local level.

Currently, I live on a small island in the Caribbean, and it has been very fortunate for me to see how a small community can live with very little fear. Every day, many people hitch hike to work, and usually people are very friendly, and giving. However, we see in the US, that people will never give another person a ride, unless, they are truckers or someone that others have some fear from. See, people are so self focussed, or even focussed on these TV events that are so far from our real lives. It is also unfortunate, that kids in this small island also watch US tv, because we see how it is changing the way people think, on a fast life. Videos are very harmful. We can see just by a few generation changes, how TV is changing life in a bad way.

Getting back to alpha waves, well, I find that the TV is like a magnet of these waves. Once you get in the zone of these electromagnetic waves, it also rearranges who you are. Even when a TV is plugged in near me, I can sense the changes in me. And then there are so many subliminal messages, that one has to be careful about the ideas it gives to children.

Anyway, I've been without medicine for schizophrenia for over 3 years now, and I can honestly say that not watching TV is part of my health track.

Like a previous person said, nowadays when I see a tv on, I don't understand the draw, there is no real humour, and so much is really just meant to draw people to patriotic, sexual, violent material, that it really is not healthy.

I do however, enjoy seeing a movie that is a documentary that details a real persons life, or shows me part of the world that I do not know, because it is mind opening.

But be very careful that one's mind is not limited to the small expanse of tV. There is much more to life that TV and the beliefs that can be found within it, and within even the whole realm of generations that has grown up with it as their past time.

Sincerely,
Refugio Rochin, Papa in waiting.
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PS. and another side of TV, one also needs to be aware when it replaces the love and companionship of family and friends. Best to seek the families that work there hardest to always be in activity with each other learning to create, and knowing how to trust their own creative abilities. And then when one sees these families, one can see the difference.
post #152 of 154
DD will be 22 months soon. Especially since she is under the age of 2, we do not allow her to watch any TV, movies, or anything. IMO, at this age I feel she needs to be active in her environment---seeing, touching, tasting, smelling, etc. Personally, I think it helps her focus and concentrate better. It's just what works for OUR family right now. I'm not making a judgement on whether TV is good OR bad, in general.
post #153 of 154
Just going to add my $0.02.

We let dd 30m, watch t.v. , exclusively PBS or Noggin, or DVD. No commercials. She watches, Dragon Tales, Dora and Zoobomafo. She used to watch Baby Einstien and Elmo, but she has kind of grown out of them. Although occasionally she will ask specifically for them. I like these shows, she gets up and dances and sings with Dragon Tales, she answers Dora and Zoobomafa, is just fun and informative. As far as the whole commercailism thing. I have gone to great lengths to avoid any books or toys whith t.v. characters on them. In otherwords no Dora books or toys or clothes. I don't mind her enjoyinbg these characters, but I don't want her becoming obsessed with them. Just my way of trying to balence things out.

As far as how much no more than 1 hour a day, and not everyday.
post #154 of 154
Yes, I let my daughter watch TV.... as I usually have it on in the background, I guess just for noise. I'm usually on network tv or music channels (satelite music, NOT mtv) they only time she ever pays attention to it is if Baby Einstein is on. If BE isn't on... she could care less.
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