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post #81 of 91
Exactadacle.

We're all fibbing.

I love the assumptions. But I still love ya all.

You figure there are a zillion people registered to post, but only those who actually have a relavent story to post on any given thread, do so. We must not know what we are talking about.

post #82 of 91
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Originally Posted by stafl
and yes, I'm going to get bent out of shape every time I hear someone tell me how much better big babies are. I hear it all day long every day. I hear it from my inlaws, who birth 10 pounders. I hear it from my pediatricians, every time they pull out that stupid growth chart to show me just how small my kids are, and then they say "it could be a sign of this that or the other problem" when there is absolutely nothing wrong with my children. I hear it from strangers on the street. There's a nasty stereotype that says small/thin babies are sickly and ill and not as intelligent, and it's just not true. Sure, some babies are small because they are sickly, and because they are sick all the time maybe they didn't get quite the same amount of quiet alert brain-building time as other babies, but that doesn't mean all small babies are sickly. It's ridiculous, and yes, it's offensive, and yes, I'm going to continue to get bent out of shape when those stereotypes are voiced, here and in real life, every time! laugh all you want, these are my feelings, and I have every right to feel this way.
Oh I forgot to add that I am sorry you and other moms of smaller babies get your fair share of grief for it. Also, even though my dd was bigger when she was born, she slimmed down and from about 9 months on she was way low on those charts, and our care provider tried to freak us out. Her body type is just lean, but healthy, as I am sure your babies are as well. I just feel bad for the op for just asking the question and bringing up these studies, and getting such an heated response.
post #83 of 91
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Originally Posted by loraxc
The thing that's bugging me here is that many, many posters are making the same error I see from voluntary formula-feeders ALL the time.

"Formula-fed babies aren't as healthy? That's ridiculous. MY baby was formula-fed, and she's as healthy as a horse! Whatever. Those studies are wrong."

Yes, I was thinking the same thing, but I was also noticing another thing which is that some of the moms whose babies are small are now feeling defensive and angry. I'm sure some formula feeding moms feel the same way when certain breastfeeding advocates say, "breastfed babies are smarter." They either feel defensive or they think the studies are not very important. This honestly comes up a lot in my LLL meetings and I cringe every time I hear it. It just doesn't seem like a good way to phrase it.
post #84 of 91
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Originally Posted by UUMom
I still find it amusing that we mothers get crazy if anyone suggests their child may not be intelligent.
I find it amusing that everyone has mentioned their genius level IQs or their brilliant genius children. Am I the only one worried that her child might be dumb as a post? OK, not really, but I am concerned she has some learning issues that might need to be addressed at some future point.
post #85 of 91
the boy tested at a 156 iq. his brother came in at 152.
my boy was 7lb, 3 oz at birth, his brother was 9lb.
k was 7lb 2.8 oz and i have absolutely no intention of ever having her tested. my mother refused for me to be tested and has passed the hatred of iq tests onto me.
post #86 of 91
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Originally Posted by farmer mama
I just feel bad for the op for just asking the question and bringing up these studies, and getting such an heated response.
Thank you, Farmer Mama. I appreciate the support. I really do.
post #87 of 91
Yes, sorry about that Inez. It's hard to know the turn the most innocent topics might take.
post #88 of 91
I find the "higher birth weight=higher intelligence" theory ridiculous.

That's just my opinion
post #89 of 91
My older brother & I weighed about the same 6'13 & he is WAY smarter than me (too bad he won't use it) and weaned earlier (19 months as opposed to my 3 and a half. my mom did child led weaning).

i'll go with my everyones different.
aisling
post #90 of 91
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Originally Posted by UUMom
Exactadacle.

We're all fibbing.

I love the assumptions. But I still love ya all.

You figure there are a zillion people registered to post, but only those who actually have a relavent story to post on any given thread, do so. We must not know what we are talking about.

I wasn't accusing anyone of fibbing.

I do find it odd for so many people to know their children's IQ scores, to refer to them as genius's (a term I keep for people like Einstein), etc... It is just an odd mentality to me. I don't question their veracity, I just don't understand the motivation.
post #91 of 91
I was just trying to be light, TiredX2, since this is obviously a dicey topic.

'High IQ's' are a curse and a gift. Knowing is not bad good and not knowing isn't bad. they are just arbitrary numbers and sometimes they upset people.

IME, very bright children have needs as great as any other child with a special need. Sometimes certain info can help you advocate better for a child. If a child is autistic, nobody gets upset if they are acessed and given the tools/people/therapies nec to thrive. Kids who are 'gifted' or 'bright' need certain things as well. Sometimes behavior issues are a factor for 'bright' kids and once a parent has certain info, they might rest better knowing they are on the right track.

YK, lots of times people say things to parents of bright children--(esp those who are in school settings) who are needing something 'extra''--that minimize the needs of their children. "So she's smart. It's just a number. it's not like she's Einstein". But nobody would ever say, 'Big deal, he's got CP, he can where a brace. iI's not like he's in a whelchair". It's tricky. I don't tend to speak about my child's abilities (well not tooo much). I like to tell little anecdotes about all my kids and have always downplayed certain things. When my 4 yr old was reading the menu to another 4 yr old friend, the mother laughed and said she didn't know he could read. I never told her, but he'd been reading for a while.

I guess I am saying that for some of us, we don't start threads about this, but do participate in them, perhaps egotistically : without meaning to be so, when they do come up.

I dunno. Tricky subject, for sure.
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