Curiosity, Research, Experience & Blind Faith in Mother NaturePart of our preparation for getting pregnant involved my running to the bookstore and buying every book about babies on the shelf, including one against circumsion. My dh is circumcised but my previous long-term relationship was not. I definitely noticed that foreplay with a circumcised man is much more difficult than with an uncircumcised man. That extra skin protects the head of the penis and keeps it extremely sensitive, as opposed to rubbing against clothing all day and becoming desensitized. I can think of a part of my body that I wouldn't want rubbing against my jeans all day long, ouch.
Once I read about the history of circumcision, thought of the brilliance and foresight of Mother Nature and considered that circumcision to prevent UTIs in .5% or 1% or 5% of uncircumcised males seemed like a very silly thing to do, particularly considering the possible adverse effects of the operation itself.
I had been strongly against female circumcision but for some reason had never equated male circumcision with the practice, until I really started to think about it.
Then I thought...what if I get my son circumcised and something goes horribly wrong...how is he going to feel if he grows up with a botched circumcision (say, overcutting) and what is he going to say about the practice? Is he going to care if he gets UTIs?
Recently, I was sitting around a table at a party with 9 other moms and the topic of circumcision came up. One mom had a newborn and someone asked if she was having him circumcised....she said yes, once he gets old enough (he was preemie) because her husband wanted her son to look like him. That started a discussion, mostly me stating reasons not to and everyone else saying that it was their husband's decision, not theirs, and that it was for cleanliness and medical reasons. I thought it was very interesting how many moms were willing to mutilate their sons without even researching the subject to make an informed choice. I don't believe I influenced this mom at all, either, as she insisted it was her husband's choice, he should know better than I, and she wasn't interested in butting her nose into it.
I told the ladies that the part of the penis removed is the most sensitive pleasurable part for the man and they stated that they didn't even want to think about their son's sex lives at this point, didn't care whether they had more pleasure or not. Wow. I wonder how their sons will feel later in life, should they hear that.
Incidentally, when I made my case to my husband prior to the birth of our first child (a boy), he also thought you just did what everyone did, circumcise and he thought it was for medical reasons, too. But once I told him all of the medical reasons why not to [I particularly was interested in hearing about men who were circumcised as adults and reported an intense loss of sensation and pleasure], he reported having heard the topic in many different places...including the Howard Stern radio show (ugh!!!) but all of them were anti-circumcision and he swears that he would NEVER ever let a son of his be circumcised. He also wishes that his parents hadn't just blindly circumcised him.