What is the most outrageous thing someone has said... - Page 15

[Peppamint]

ugh... a local doctor recently told a pregnant mom that if she gets miserable that last week to just say so and she'll induce.

[mamacatsbaby]

This is one of the many, many truly assinine things people told us throughout PG. My DH and I were talking to the head sOB at the hospital where I birthed our son about a week before I went into labor. He was looking over my birth plan and going point by point, being all fake, condescending and trying to degrade us b/c we wanted to not have all the interventions they were trying to push on us. At one point he said "Do I want your baby to die? Certainly not. But if your baby dies I'm still going to sleep at night." There are no words I tell you.

[mamacatsbaby]

Reading through these posts is horrifying. Good grief, people are nuts : !

[DocsNemesis]

I dont think I have gotten anything super outragious...but I did have a friend who thought I was insane for planning a homebirth. She insisted that she knew "like 4 kids" who were mentally retarded because they were born at home. I told her that I didnt want to risk my baby by having her AT the hospital-that having my first at the hospital was what screwed things up with him. She was the first to ask how my homebirth went when I got back to school (2 days after she was born) and when everyone else was saying how cool it was that I had her at home, she just agreed. Gee, my dd isnt retarded, its amazing!
I have also gotten the whole "you must have easy labors" thing. Right....
My friend was told by her OB that her twins had twin to twin transfusion syndrome (she had an elective cesarean because one twin was smaller than the other on the ultrasound and the babies were too small to handle labor ) but her twins are FRATERNAL-meaning that they couldnt have TTTS. Of course, this is the same doc who told her that he was giving them anesthesia for their circs when he just gave them sugar water. Nice.
I also had a neurologist tell me that I couldnt have a homebirth and that I was going to have complications, she just knew it. This was despite the fact that 3 other neuros said I would be fine and that my condition (I have idiopathic intracranial hypertension) wouldnt hurt me during birth. Or another doc that told me I had a UTI even though the test was negative and I was showing classic symptoms of a miscarriage.
I am sure I could keep coming up with things...lol

[lizziejackie]

A doctor, long ago, when my mom was having me:

"We let mom's gain 15lb during pgcy and after 15lb, put them on a Jell-o diet."

My sOB, when faced w/ an unwanted c/s:

"Yawn -- well, let's just get this done now. I have my son's graduation party today and I want to get on that. You can have a c/s, it's all right, we will do everything to support a VBAC w/ your next birth(s)"

YA RIGHT, you will do everything. 18 mo after that he puts in writing his clinic's VBAC rate is right around 10%!

[Shelsi]

I was browsing through our base paper today while ds was playing outside. I cam across this big ad in there advertising a new OB in town and all it says about her is that their main priorities are the mother's COMFORT and CONVENIENCE (and yes those words were capitalized and bolded). Ok, I don't know this OB and I haven't heard anything about her but I would bet my house that she does tons of elective inductions with epidurals...and you know, it's not for her convenience of course, it's for the mother's.

[Alexander's Mommy]

Not really about pregnancy or birth, --- or to my face for that matter... but when my son was about 4 months old my dh's grandmother said, loud enough to be overheard, "Are they feeding him yet?"

: Obviously my mother-in-law was a formula baby...

[Sagesgirl]

but when my son was about 4 months old my dh's grandmother said, loud enough to be overheard, "Are they feeding him yet?"

Goodness, no, he gets all his nutrition from the air!

A doctor, long ago, when my mom was having me:

"We let mom's gain 15lb during pgcy and after 15lb, put them on a Jell-o diet."

My MIL was put on a 1,000 calorie-a-day diet while pregnant with my husband so that she wouldn't gain any weight.

Slightly OT, but it really gets to me how much credit my MIL gives the OBs for Rober's successful entrance into this world, when everything she has told me makes it clear his existence is in spite of them, not because of them. In addition to trying to starve her while she was pregnant, they didn't correctly diagnose her pregnancy, and she came within minutes of accidentally having him aborted! They scheduled her to have a D&C because of not having had her period so long, and it was only because they perforated the uterus of the woman ahead of her and cancelled the day's other appointments that she managed to avoid it.

I guess that goes under outrageous, doesn't it?

[channelofpeace]

I have to join in!

I am seeing a high-risk doctor for blood incompatibility. They are monitoring by ultrasound for anemia. The chart, however, doesn't go past 35 wks (although it is a curve and you could intuitively follow where it would go the last 5+ wks). She said we should do an amnio at 36 wks to check for high bili levels (which in my case, something could be wrong and his bili might not be high). He is looking great by the ultrasounds and completely in the no-anemia range and so we said that we didn't want to go to an invasive procedure (and inaccurate) like an amnio if we didn't abosolutely have to. We want keep with the US and chart where the curve would go (which we did with our other son and he was born completely healthy). So she actually said,

"Well, it would be logical to follow where it would intuitively go, but we want more information":

Yes, heaven forbid we do do the logical thing

[majikfaerie]

I noticed that the posts got more and more shocking stories of the atrocities comitted by medical professionals, but I wanted to add a simple public misconception:
We planned a Lotus Birth (birth without cutting the umbilical cord) and all through my pregnancy (and still today when we tell people about it) the MAJORITY response (even from women who have had babies!!) is "if you dont cut the cord, then the baby will just stay attatched to the mother all that time?" and when we explain that the placenta is born shortly after the baby, they ask "but how will you get the placenta back in again?"
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Peoples' ignorance astounds me.

[phoebemommy]

DH's aunt, a nursery nurse, seems to think I'm about 14 and a twit, and have no idea about what I'm getting into having a baby. She caught me on the phone and was telling me exactly how it was going to be, what I should do, how I was going to feel, what problems I would encounter with a new baby (seemingly ignoring what I said I already knew, felt, etc.). Finally she said, "oh, you like animals, I'm sure you'll do just fine with a baby."

Interestingly enough, most of her sage advice about how to care for a baby struck me as better advice on how to care for a kitten.

[JenMidwife]

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[Peppamint]

Originally Posted by Sagesgirl

In addition to trying to starve her while she was pregnant, they didn't correctly diagnose her pregnancy, and she came within minutes of accidentally having him aborted! They scheduled her to have a D&C because of not having had her period so long, and it was only because they perforated the uterus of the woman ahead of her and cancelled the day's other appointments that she managed to avoid it.

I guess that goes under outrageous, doesn't it?

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[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by milkydoula

"Well, it would be logical to follow where it would intuitively go, but we want more information":

Did you tell her she can't always have what she wants?

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by majikfaerie

when we explain that the placenta is born shortly after the baby, they ask "but how will you get the placenta back in again?"

My dh suggests, "wait for the placenta to dry out, then fold it neatly and insert it. Once it is in place it will unfold and reattach itself on its own." Said with a perfectly straight face you could probably get to watch some really great expressions.

How do you *not* know that the placenta comes out? Especially if you've had a baby?

[Sijae]

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[frontierpsych]

Originally Posted by busybusymomma

I always joked that I'd have to go overdue to have an 8lb baby... well dd2 was born two weeks ago at 40+6 and she was still only 7lb 6oz. I've have had to go to 42 weeks (or more) to have that 8lb baby.

I was born at 42 weeks and I was only 7lb 6oz

[majikfaerie]

Originally Posted by sapphire_chan

My dh suggests, "wait for the placenta to dry out, then fold it neatly and insert it. Once it is in place it will unfold and reattach itself on its own." Said with a perfectly straight face you could probably get to watch some really great expressions.

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OMG, i'm gonna say that!

How do you *not* know that the placenta comes out? Especially if you've had a baby?

To be honest, I have NO idea! Admittedly, most people who make this comment haven't had babies, but there have been a few who had!

[majikfaerie]

Originally Posted by phoebemommy

Interestingly enough, most of her sage advice about how to care for a baby struck me as better advice on how to care for a kitten.

gives a whole new meaning to the phrase "she's having kittens" :